Im 19 and a virgin by choice. I recently started going out with a guy from my university and I really like him - hes funny, smart, friendly and good-looking - but only prob is he keeps pressuring me for sex. We've only been going out for three weeks! He says that i'm getting a reputation as a ****-tease and that he keeps getting really painful blue balls. Aside from this our relationship is great so far. Am I just being prudish or is it right to wait a bit longer until im sure hes the right guy??
2007-10-30 14:28:29 · 5 answers · asked by SunnyGal 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't let him pressure you. My ex-boyfriend pressured me so much to have sex with him, but I never gave him because it didn't feel right for me. To my surprise, he had sex with three different girls, including my best friend, just because I wouldn't have sex with him.
Our relationship was amazing at first, but then he started to get really pushy about sex and his true colors definatly came out. After that, I realized that even though he was a "good person," he wasn't what I wanted to be with if he was going to pressure me all the time.
I'm still a virgin and I'm so glad that I didn't give in.I would wait and see if he's the right one. If he really cared about you, he would drop the whole sex thing. And I don't understand how you can get the reputation of being a tease to other people unless he is running his mouth about your relationship and saying things that aren't true. That's what my ex did, so watch out for your guy. Just wait a little longer and see what he does about the whole thing, or tell him how your sick of him pressuring you. If it doesn't subside, you might, only think about breaking it off with him because he might not be worth your time. He has to understand that he is not the only one in the relationship. You don't want to something that you will later regret.
2007-10-30 14:41:16 · answer #1 · answered by kunst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he's being a jerk. He's being insensitive to you in your decision on not having sex. He can jerk off like the other guys if he needs relief. And don't listen to him about you getting a reputation as a ****-tease. Most likely he's the one giving it to you when he's talking to his friends. Dump the guy and find someone who will respect you more. Don't let anyone pressure you into having sex. It is your decision too. That's why they call it "consensual". Wait as long as you need to. At least you can live with the knowledge that you did the right thing instead of having to live with the regret of doing the wrong thing.
2007-10-30 21:36:26 · answer #2 · answered by randmthots 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont have sex with him if you dont want to. You are saving sex for that special someone and he doesnt sound like hes that special someone if he is pressuring you. Youve only been with him for 3 weeks, dont give it up to him yet. If he cant wait as long as you want to then you know he doesnt respect you and is only trying to get a piece. Someone who really likes you will respect your wishes, Wait until you are in love, it will be worth it. Not many girls are 19 and still virgins so i highly respect that about you. Please take this advice.
2007-10-30 21:42:02 · answer #3 · answered by Missy A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its your decision and he should respect it --- tell him to back off as you are not going to say yes --- if he does not take that then he is another male just out for sex (like i was) ---- best wishes
2007-10-30 21:35:29 · answer #4 · answered by trader1867 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ur heart will tell u lol!z
2007-10-30 21:52:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋