2007-10-30 12:27:10 · 17 answers · asked by Trisha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
What the f*ck?? You might want to take a shower before hand, especially if you have to schedule one, it sounds like you don't get one often.
2007-10-30 12:29:50 · answer #1 · answered by California Kush 6 · 1⤊ 7⤋
Hi and congratulations!
I must agree with Greyhound Mama. A bridal shower is given in anticipation of a wedding. Since you KNOW you are eloping, I do not think it would be fair to have a shower.
Now.....What are you going to tell people? And, are you really eloping or having a "destination" wedding? A true elopement is when you go away, come back and are married and no one knows!! If you cancel the shower, people will be assuming that you are cancelling the wedding altogether, so you would have to explain.
There is nothing wrong in changing your mind from a big wedding, down to a very simple "family and few friends" wedding. I only ask you to really think about this. There is AT LEAST one post on here a week from someone asking questions on how to plan "their wedding" only to find out that they have been married 1, 3, 5, 7 years because "they never got to have the wedding of their dreams." I'm not saying that is what you would do, but, just think about it. You can certainly have a very small, intimate and elegant wedding with 10-20 people (or less)! And then, you can still have your shower! Just remember that those invited to a bridal shower MUST also be invited to the wedding.
Good luck with your decision!
2007-10-30 13:06:31 · answer #2 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have no problem attending and giving a shower gift to a couple who didn't have the financial means to host a big wedding. In my mind, THAT couple (i.e., the couple who is being smart and living within their means and saving for their future) is the most in need of gifts to start their lives together. I think you should keep the shower on schedule, but let the guests know in advance that you plan to elope. Those who feel like they're entitled to attend a wedding if they give a gift won't be misled. Congrats to you and your fiance!
2007-10-31 06:32:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and have the shower..it's for the fact that you are getting married. Just explain during the shower that you have decided to elope instead of the original plan. These people are supose to be close friends and family...they WILL understand. If they don't then it's not your problem anyway.
Best of Luck to you and God Bless.
2007-10-30 12:36:07 · answer #4 · answered by Susan B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No- the shower is to celebrate your marriage. You are just as married after eloping as you are after a big wedding. People who are happy for you will still want to get you a gift to celebrate. Good luck to you and have fun!
2007-10-30 12:31:47 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica F 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're eloping I don't see why you'd need to cancel the shower. You're still getting married, just losing the bells & whistles!
2007-10-30 12:50:52 · answer #6 · answered by Asked and Answered 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't plan to get married before the shower, let it be and still have it. If you elope before the shower, you owe it to your guests to cancel BEFORE they buy the gifts.
2007-10-30 12:30:42 · answer #7 · answered by MJ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would go ahead and have the shower. Even if you are going to elope you can get everyone together and celebrate.
2007-10-30 14:30:48 · answer #8 · answered by tainted_obsession 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have your shower before eloping. It's good to be clean, fresh and hygeinic! Regular showers are important!
2007-10-30 12:30:45 · answer #9 · answered by Cathy T 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Did you plan the shower? That's a no no if you did.
If you did, cancel the shower.
If you did not, let the organizer know that you are eloping and see if they cancel it or not.
2007-10-30 17:42:21 · answer #10 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A bridal shower is one of the things that happens in anticipation of a wedding ceremony and reception.
If you choose to elope, that also means that you choose to do without all the things that go along with a regular wedding. Unfortunately, that also includes having a bridal shower.
2007-10-30 12:51:47 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋