this guy at the gym said"you don't work"?Becauise i am always there at odd hours 9-11 am,but i am a musician and supplement it with other stuff(designing websites).How could he ask such a thing?What an idiot...-
2007-10-30 12:11:28 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
i'm p*ssed off with you posting the same questions over and over again
2007-10-30 12:27:45 · answer #1 · answered by JanJan 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I can understand your sensitivity. The guy sounds like he might be assuming alot. But try to see it this way: Maybe he was attempting to get to know you. If the guy doesn't work there and goes to the gym at the same hours, he might think you two share a common interest.
All I am saying is next time he says that or maybe the next time you see him, kind of ask..."why did you ask me if I worked...?" He might not realize he was being as assuming putz. Then go into it...say, "Yeah, I am a musician, and this is the only good time to go..." The guy could just be a nosy ***, but he could also have some interest and you might get a friend.
2007-10-30 12:19:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He was just making small talk, I think. The fact that you took such offense to it, says that maybe you are insecure about your work hours and feel that it's inadequate to a normal person's working schedule...
People aren't mind readers, he doesn't know what kind of work you do. I'm not sure how he said it, did he ask? Is "you don't work"?, supposed to be "You don't work?". If I saw a person at the gym at odd hours of the day, I would assume they either don't work, or have a schedule that is not normal.
I think he was just trying to make small talk and get a conversation going. You could have simply replied by letting him know that you do work.
2007-10-30 12:18:00 · answer #3 · answered by word 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I used to get the same reaction.
I used to work continental shifts, 12 hour nightshifts was one and, I would go home, sunbathe for an hour or so and eventually some nosey neighbour would say: "No work today then?"
I would reply that I`d already put in a 12 hour nightshift while they were sleeping, and why were they not at work?"
You could lose friends that way, I did!
2007-11-01 01:23:53 · answer #4 · answered by Montgomery B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is too stupid to realize that not everyone works a 9-5 mon-fri job. I work graveyard shift, so when people see me out during the day with my 3 year-old they assume I am a stay-at-home mom and can do things for them at a moments notice.
2007-10-30 12:31:22 · answer #5 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore him.
There are plenty of other things to worry about instead of being pissed that some stranger picked on you.
I would just laugh and ignore him. He doesn't know your work hours.
Heck, this week I'm Midnight to 8am, so you could have worked and then went there to work out.
OR, you could be a 4pm-midnight person, and work out in the mornings.
2007-10-30 18:31:29 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lighten up. The guy could have said it more tactfully, but I doubt if he intended to be offensive. He was just noticing that, unlike most gym rats, you don't have a regular work-out time. Don't go taking offence where no offence is intended. You could have just laughed and said "I wish."
2007-10-30 14:14:47 · answer #7 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Answer I do work and i have a much More interesting portfolio of work than a 9-5 it also gives me time to create a more widening portfolio of my skills which are obviously broader than yours !
2007-11-03 01:02:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is this such a big deal? most people would just brush this off and not think twice. Get over it!
2007-10-30 12:21:31 · answer #9 · answered by krispybacon 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
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why would you get so pissed off by a comment like that ?. why is he and idiot just because he asked that question?
You seem a bit touchy. Could it be he hit a nerve and you think your not doing enough with your life..?
2007-10-30 12:18:30 · answer #10 · answered by Elen 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he is always there--then why isnt he at work!!?
But if he does work there--then he was a stupid idiot to insult a customer! What a jerk!
Some people just have zero class. Just ignore him, and walk away from that a-hole when you see him coming.
2007-10-30 12:17:08 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋