and several other "family members" inwhich some may and will be seated at the same table.I have limited my options to be 1 of 3. Dont go #1 , Leave after cocktail #2,and call and decline after i have accepted the invite. Need advice my wife has no problem with staying, the problem is leaving after cocktail hr. I have the problem staying.
2007-10-30 11:57:20 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You have to decide how important the reception is to you and if you can control your mouth and actions for those hours. If you are attending the ceremony I would stay cocktail hour long enough to personally say congragulations and bolt. Where I think your wife has the problem (and rightly so) is if you decided to stay long enough to eat the food THEN left.
If you choose 1 or 2 make sure to let the bride know what is going on so she doesn't include you in the catering bill and pay for uneaten dinners. Just be honest with something like "I love you Jan and really want to see you get married. However, I think the situation between me and your mom might make things uncomfortable and tense so I am going to leave/skip the reception to avoid any unwanted problems on your wedding day"
2007-10-30 12:05:57 · answer #1 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
be the bigger person here & GO for your niece - NOT for the other family members. Stay for the full reception as you are pre-empting how things will go.
At this point you dont know for sure that these family members will be seated with you.
HEY it is only going to be for a few hours & if you attend with the thought in mind that there is goint ot be problems then there will most likely be some. Attend with a smile on your face & be pleasant to everyone & things should be fine . By doing this you are likely stun all the others into returning your smiles.
2007-10-30 12:05:12 · answer #2 · answered by fairypelican 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Who are you going to see married?
Your niece or the other members of the family?
Can you ask to be seated with members of the family you do get along with or even on another table altogether?
I'm sure there will not be a problem if the question is phrased the right way.
2007-10-30 12:32:40 · answer #3 · answered by AussieLady 58 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go for your neice. It is her special day and as adults you should be able to put aside your differences for one day.
The bright side is that once dinner is over you have no obligation to stay at your table. You can dance and mingle and you can at that point avoid the people you do not get a long with. Nothing says you have to stay all night, but since your meal has been paid for leaving after teh cocktail hour would be rude.
I say grin and bear it for one day. If it was my wedding I would be hurt if you didn't attend.
2007-10-30 13:17:37 · answer #4 · answered by Reba 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go to see your niece get married- esp if you still get along with your niece. The day is about your niece and supporting her in this celebration- not about your drama with her mother.
I would go to the wedding and then try to stick it out. You may be comfortable with how it turns out. You may be able to switch tables. However- if you are find yourself in a very uncomfortable situation- then I think you can decide at that time to leave.
In the very least- don't miss your niece's wedding ceremony.
"Don't cut off your nose to spite your face"
2007-10-30 12:10:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have already accepted, then you should go. Just smile and say hi to the odious mother of your niece. The good news is that is all you have to do...you don't have to be super friendly - she'll probably be too busy to chat much.
Relax and enjoy yourself and stay for the cake cutting.
2007-10-30 12:26:48 · answer #6 · answered by krinkn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love your niece and care about her feelings then go and just hold your head up. You and your sister should be able to be adults about it and put your feelings aside for 1 day. For her daughters sake and your nieces. Be the bigger person and be as nice as you can to your sister. I know how bad it hurts to have family members not show up at your wedding just because they are not getting along with another family member. It hurts real bad. happened to me and ruined my day. My own dad didn't even show up for my wedding because he and my grandpa did not get along and many aunts and uncles did not show up because they did not get along with one of their sisters . She was the only Aunt that showed up for my wedding. So please go and if you feel uncomfortable at the reception only go for a little while even if it's just to dance one dance with your niece and watch her cut the cut .. Make her happy
2007-10-31 14:21:23 · answer #7 · answered by dollbaby2407 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go. If you and the other family members can't control your tempers for one event, then stay away from the wedding and celebrate her new marriage with her and her new husband on another day.
2007-10-30 12:05:52 · answer #8 · answered by Peace 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go for your niece's sake... and avoid those whom you have a problem with. Probably, once you are at the wedding, you will feel better about it. How will you know it was worth it or not, if you dont go?
2007-10-30 12:08:31 · answer #9 · answered by MintChoc 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋