His family is rude. We never talk to them. He is just my bf, not husband, fiance, etc. His father told me " You are going and that is final" I dont want to go!
Its 2400 miles away from where we live. The only reason I have a ticket there is because its in our home town and my mom bought me one to vist her over Thanksgiving.
My bf is in the wedding, therefore I wont even sit by him at dinner.
I have plans to be with my family and friends.
Is this rude of me????? Im sure the wedding will go on w/o me!
2007-10-30 11:52:16 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes the wedding will go on
but sometimes we do things
for the ones we love, just because
we love them!
2007-10-30 11:59:40 · answer #1 · answered by Cher 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason for you to go. I'm surprised your boyfriend is even in this wedding if his family is such a nightmare.
The thing that really says "don't go!" to me is the fact that you can't even sit with him. My boyfriend couldn't sit with me at the wedding I was in recently, but he had other friends to hang out with. You will be miserable.
You have family obligations that are a priority since you live so far away. Explain that rationally and stick to your rationale. Don't let his father bully you -- that's ridiculous.
Someone above said that you should go to the ceremony and not stay for the reception. That is the absolute MAX that you should give them -- if you go at all, you should definitely go only for the ceremony and skip the reception.
Honestly, if they're really this rude, I wouldn't get a present.
2007-10-30 20:50:39 · answer #2 · answered by weirdiscomplimentary 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi. I don't know how your boyfriend's father can order YOU around, but, I would go to the CEREMONY, but not the reception. Tell your bf's father that you made other plans!
And then go and visit with YOUR family and friends. I'm sure you mom will be happy you are coming.
2007-10-31 13:50:23 · answer #3 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dang, his father said "And that's final!" ? Too controlling if you ask me. How serious is your relationship with your bf? Are you thinking of marriage yourselves? I would think hard about that because it sounds like his father controls where they go and when and that there's no going against him .Scary.
That said, I agree that you can go to the ceremony and congratulate them then and then go see your family. Tell the bride and groom so they don't spend money on a meal for you. Good luck.
2007-10-30 22:37:43 · answer #4 · answered by Wishing on a Dream 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I think that if someone ordered me to go "and thats final" I definitely would not go! That to me seems rude!
I say don't go. Your bf will survive without you. He can explain to his family that you had family obligations and could not attend. If you are vlose at all to his brother you could call him directly and let him know that you are happy for him and congratulate him but you are sorry you can't attend.
Enjoy the visit with your family!
2007-10-30 20:21:16 · answer #5 · answered by Reba 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I guess it would be rude not to attend. Just think of how it would be if you yourself married into that family. From time to time you'd have to spend some amount of time with that family. And, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.
2007-10-30 19:29:02 · answer #6 · answered by Lelar 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If my b/f's father demanded I go in the attitude you had to deal with, I would not go just out of spite. How rude of him!
2007-10-31 00:44:45 · answer #7 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then don't. If you don't care about them coming to yours, don't go. You know, people worry about politically correctness, a sensitive training... I'd take brutal honesty over everything.
If you have plans, follow your plan.
2007-10-30 19:24:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
GO to the wedding but not the reception, then you did go, then visit your fam and friends, what are they going to do go looking for you. Tell them just that, you will go to the wedding
2007-10-30 18:59:16 · answer #9 · answered by MrsMagee 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell them you had made other plans and you can't go. And that is final!
2007-10-30 18:57:44 · answer #10 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋