ok so my bff likes this guy who i am not sure is so good to hang around..hes my age and shes a year younger than us..were sophomores & shes afreshman...he liked her this summer and asked all his friends to ask her out and stuff but she hated him...he got her vibe and tried to give her space and not be really in her face..but he was always really nice to her and got upset with her once before because she kinda has a fiery spunky headstrong personality and i guess they kinda clash even tho hes usually like really calm...but now she likes him and he still likes her...i kno that once he sees she doesnt hate him anymore he will ask her out and i told her that..i think they both really like eachother now...but the thing is hes a year older than her (not much i kno), he smokes, he's done a lot of girls, and im not sure if he drinks or does drugs but i wouldnt be surprised...i dont like him at all and she knows that...should she go out with him even tho he is bad news but she really likes him?
2007-10-30 11:48:27 · 20 answers · asked by Nicole 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if she really likes him it would be hard for her to say no, but she should also take into consideration what you think about him. When I have boy problems I like to make a list of all the positives and negatives of that boy and this sometimes can help. I think that if she doesn't want to get into the drugs, sex, and drinking scene then the best thing would be to not date him. As for the age thing I don't believe it's big a gap at all.
2007-10-30 11:52:57 · answer #1 · answered by amberrmarieee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what, I don't think you have much say in this matter, because they are probably going to make the decision regardless of what you say. First of all I always say "age ain't nothin but a number." especiall;y one year. Remember it is a fact that girls mature faster than boys. Be sure though to tell your friend thge info that you know so then she can make an informed decision and at least you did your part. It is best that you just forget about him, if you don't talk about or mention him then she may forget about him. It sounds as if she may be confused as to whether she really likes him or not, 1st when he is interested, she doesn't like him then when he back off and shows no interest she like him, sound to me as if she likes the chase and may want him just because he is no longer begging to date her. So if you really want to get her away again use reverse psychology with her and tell her that he has always liked her, asks about her and wants to be with her bad. The whole time that he has played that he has not liked her has been a lie and he cannot stop talking about her and planning their futures together. If this girl likes the chase, she will definately be turned off by this. It doesn't hurt to try because he is indefinately going to ask her out and get a response the mission here is to make him look as least appealing as possible. ALso get your facts straight before accusing a guy of drinking or doing drugs, because this kind of girl may be more turned on by the "bad boy" image. And at the same time that you are telling her one thing, perhaps approach him and say "my bf and I spoke of you and she will never date you in a million years, etc. so maybe he won't ask her. May sound evil but if u truly want to get them away from each other this is the only way to do it. You are only looking out for the best interest of your bff.
2007-10-30 19:02:27 · answer #2 · answered by highballer906 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like your descriptive phrase, "fiery spunky headstrong personality."
As far as this guy and your bff, que sera, sera, or, whatever will be will be. I truly hate to say this, but the fact that, as you assert, that "he's done a lot of girls," probably means that the ladies fine him quite attractive and maybe your bff wants a shot at rescuing or taming this bad boy. Then again, maybe her "fiery spunky hadastrong personality" is kicking in and she's decided she wants a little adventure.
2007-10-30 19:00:19 · answer #3 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing really you can do when two people like each other i mean as far as you can go is tell her how you feel about the whole situation and if she still wants to be with him then let her learn for herself that he is a bad guy. Who knows maybe he is not at all as bad as he seems to be. Support your friend with whatever decision she makes and always be there for her through everything.
2007-10-30 18:54:10 · answer #4 · answered by Adina B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you might be thinking of him negatively because you dint like him so therefore you only looking at the negative things. I see what you mean and in my opinion one year difference shouldn't matter, but if you really believe he is one of those guys that just trying to get in her pants than she shouldn't go out with him. And that's a young age to be smoking or at least i think so couse i hate those who smokes lol.
2007-10-30 19:01:27 · answer #5 · answered by Coca Cola Gt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's difficult to tell someone who likes another that that person is bad for them, especially when they like them. You can express your concern, but she will probably have to learn for herself. She may not have a problem with those faults you find in him though, so she may not care about those things. Just be there for her if she does and don't let her feel you saying "I told you so". If she does listen to you, then all the better.
2007-10-30 18:54:10 · answer #6 · answered by randmthots 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really think she needs him. I bet she could find a wayy betta guy that doesn't do things like that. Maybe is she waited just a tad bit longer she could find someone thats not such a player (sounds like) no offence. Just someone that doesn't have a past.
I really hoped this helped sorry if it didn't!
--advice.
2007-10-30 18:53:13 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Justean♥ luv's ya! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's Not Much You Can Really do about this, Just make sure she is aware of his habits, but do not force her not to date this guy cause that can cause seriouse troubles between you two. My Best advice is just to let her make her own decision.
2007-10-30 18:53:41 · answer #8 · answered by B-Boy Touch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she likes him, she knows about his faults. Let her have fun. If this guy hurts her, he hurts her. She may hurt him. But you will always be her friend.
Don't try to stop someone from doing something that they truly want to do, they will only be upset with you in the long run.
2007-10-30 18:52:42 · answer #9 · answered by Mag 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, tell her that their are a lot better guys and show her them or make her get her mind off of him, have a girls night to get her mind off of him and show her all the possibilites she has in front of her.
2007-10-30 18:52:46 · answer #10 · answered by alyssaಌ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋