married before we go we are planning on it the only thing is we know for sure he is going away but i might get probation just so confussed please help we plan to do it in dec of 2007 and after that he can fight his case for a couple of months but hten he is gone i need some advice
2007-10-30 11:37:10 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Wait until you both get out.
2007-10-30 11:42:48 · answer #1 · answered by mister 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Wait until you both get out. Waiting 5 to 10 years to be together is a long long time. Most relationships don't last 1 year on long distance.
2007-10-30 20:40:30 · answer #2 · answered by Jasmine808 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is no way to start a marriage. You will have no time to build your marriage before you are separated for a long time.
You know for sure he will be incarcerated and you may be as well. There is no telling how being in prison will change either of you. You may be totally different people when you get out.
Wait until this turmoil is over and see how you feel then.
Good luck.
2007-10-30 20:02:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
If there are children involved, then I would suggest of getting married. If being married would make you a stronger couple, together and apart, then yes get married. 5-10 is a long time, anything that could make you both stronger.......is a very good idea. Blessings, Chaplain Debby
2007-10-30 23:12:07 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With a prison time that long, you might not recognize each other by the time it's over. You might grow to be two different people. At that point will you still want to be married? It would be better to hold off until all this is over.
2007-10-30 18:46:44 · answer #5 · answered by Rockit 6 · 8⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have enough to worry about besides planning a wedding. I would wait because you don't know what is going to happen. The fact that you are even asking indicates to me that you are not sure you want to. If you are not 100% sure, then don't!
2007-10-30 20:24:11 · answer #6 · answered by Reba 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do you love the guy? does he love you? do yall really want to be married or are you thinking if you are it might buy you some time? these are questions you got to ask yourself, then if you have a good anwser for all of them then go for it get married, just because you going to be locked up don't mean you don't get married if you truely love each other.
2007-10-30 23:33:10 · answer #7 · answered by ashonestaspossible33 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please wait! As others have said, you may grow apart while either of you are incarcerated. Getting married does not ensure that you will stay together.
If your relationship can survive this time, THEN get married.
Save the money you would spend on the wedding to hire a good attorney.
2007-10-31 10:44:48 · answer #8 · answered by mellowyellow5 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wait till the outcome of prison sentence.
2007-10-30 19:04:52 · answer #9 · answered by Cher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to get married, get married. BUT if you get probation and he gets 10 years.... that's a long time to be alone.
2007-10-30 20:33:01 · answer #10 · answered by Asked and Answered 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be wise to wait.
All sorts of things will probably change in the years to come.
Wait and see. You will eventually know why.
2007-10-30 22:52:28 · answer #11 · answered by Tara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋