I started liking a guy two weeks ago.Yesterday he asked me out and I said yes. Most of my friends say that we would look good together and all, but one of my most godly friends said I shouldn't havve a boyfriend. Well lets just call her girl A. She doesn't ever flirt w/ guys or anything. She thinks my bf is not a good guy to go out with. I would usually just brush it off, but she seems concerned that if I keep going out w/ him that I'll get into a bad habit. (He is my first bf). Today, a lot of people I don't know that well said that my bf is practically a player. I would probably go out w/ him for another week, but then should I break up w/ him? Girl A's friendship w/ me is very important and so is God. I don't wanna get myself into a bad habit, I doubt I will, but what should I do?
2007-10-30 10:37:15 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
at the end of the day you will do what YOU want to do, trust me, been there, done that.
usually good friends do watch your back and ARE right....i hardly listen when friends are concerned 'cause maybe i think they're jealous....but listen to their part....
and then decide.
i think if he has a bad reputation, dump him.....trust me.
2007-10-30 10:42:19 · answer #1 · answered by Sharon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't break up with him because of what other people say!!
It's your life, if you're happy with him then it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.
I was in a similar situation, i liked a guy so much and we were on the verge of dating, but i kept him a secret from all my friends because of what they might say/think about him.
And, in the end, they all thought it was cute anyway.
But the point it, if he's what you really want, what anyone else says shouldn't matter. As for that friend, if she were a real friend, why would she have a problem with it? She should respect and understand your decisions.
Hope that helped
2007-10-30 17:45:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, does he do any bad habits that you do NOT agree with? if so then there is your answer. if he is doing things that you don't even agree with then that is probably why your friend is looking out for you. it doesn't have anything to do with jealousy especially if you two have known each other for a long time and have told each other everything. i know that my best friends and i look out for each other seeing that we know so much about each other it would make sense that if they know something about him that doesn't agree with me and he hasn't shown that part of him to me yet that my friends would tell me not to date that guy. i know, because i was stupid and didn't listen and got really badly hurt.
now... if you two haven't been friends for a long time, then it is possible that she is jealous.
look into your heart and see if this is a guy that you should be spending your time on, because you never know the right one might be waiting until he has the time to get with you, and if he has to wait to long you might just miss out on the right guy.
2007-10-30 17:47:41 · answer #3 · answered by ummunloved 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun... how about you pray about it?! i dated a lot in middle school (i am now a sophmore in high school) anyways.. i did something stupid (nothing bad.. i havent ever made out or anything) but it was stupid. I was also a very big christian (or stong christian or whatever). I ended up giving dating up to god. Remember this.. Dating take a maturity in you faith and yourself. If you can't do both of those things while dating.. you arent mature enough to date. And, how well do you know you boyfriend? were you friends first? you really shouldnt care if your friends say he is a player.. but, dont get to emotionally attached especially since this is your first.. And, remember your boundaries!! I love you.. and good luck!!
PRAY PRAY PRAY!
2007-10-30 17:46:22 · answer #4 · answered by Ariel H. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this male is someone whose company you enjoy, then enjoy. Don't commit your entire life to him and let him know you are an individual with a mind and just because you enjoy his company you are not his exclusive property. But be prepared to give him the same freedom. Don't let him talk you into something you are not comfortable with. And if he hang out with some "less that nice" people, go home. My Mom always told me never to go anywhere unless I had money in my pocket to get home....just in case.
Enjoy today!
2007-10-30 17:47:20 · answer #5 · answered by Lyn B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i were u I would not pay much attention 2 her even if she is a close friend!!!!! I would make my own decisions because u r the one dating him!!! Right???? But dont get me wrong do not totally ignore your friend!!!! If u know what i mean!!!! Oh and by the way u r sooooo lucky to have a bf!!! Good Luck!!! Hope this helped!!!
2007-10-30 17:44:12 · answer #6 · answered by Danielle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should listen to girl A, its ok to have a bf and still be a very good christian, but find out if this guy is really a player and then maybe you should pray about this situation, and if you are a christian and if he isn't (becuase most players aren't) then why are you even dating.
2007-10-30 17:43:38 · answer #7 · answered by Aflac2345 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I'd have to say that you have make that judgment if he's a player or not by just ignoring what everyone says. focus on your relationship with him and see how it goes. as for your friend, just tell her that you appreciate her concern for you, but it's only your first boyfriend and it's your life, not her's. (break it to her gentally, though)
2007-10-30 17:46:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a BFF and you could always ask God what He thinks you should do. Boyfriends come and go... snap snap. Goods friends are hard to find... hang on to yours and listen to her.
2007-10-30 17:45:53 · answer #9 · answered by JuJuBee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep goin out with him and stop bein such a baby.
2007-10-30 17:44:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋