has spelling words every week this is the second week she forgot to bring them home and she forgot them again today. i am trying to teach her responsibility so what puinshment shouls i give her? do you think spanking and grounding her tonight from tv is what she needs. i know she is first grade and i tried talking to her bout how important it is to bring home work home.
2007-10-30 10:17:00 · 22 answers · asked by marystoufer23 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Spanking and grounding will not help the situation.
Call the teacher.
Explain situation. Teachers are willing to assist with anything.
Ask what "pack up" time involves - do they keep homework on top of cubbies, in desks, etc.
Talk w/ your daughter about her responsibility - make sure have all papers, homework, notes together.
Help her figure out her pack up routine (check desk, check cubbie, put in backpack, get coat, etc)
The teacher can probably help her get in the habit of packing up all her stuff by reminding her.
You may want to visit the school if you have time and walk through classroom procedures with your child and teacher.
Stay in contact with the teacher, re-assess after a few weeks. If works, voice your appreciation to the teacher, or if not, the teacher may be able to suggest other ideas.
Another possibility is that the work may be too hard, and she may think that if she "forgets" it, then she doesn't have to do it. Follow up w/ teacher to see how she's doing academically, what reading/spelling level she's at. If this is the case, just help her/encourage her during homework time. Perhaps spend more time studying spelling will help.
2007-11-01 05:49:48 · answer #1 · answered by kitkabob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the matter are you so intellectually challenged by a 6 year old that all you can think of is hitting her? She forgot her spelling list, she won't be able to do well on the test without it, that should be enough "punishment" for her to begin with. Why do you find it necessary to "punish" your child anyway? What is wrong with disciplining from the beginning? Instead of allowing her to have television then taking it away you should have made television a privilege that has to be earned. Same goes with computer, video games, etc. These are not necessities/rights in the life of a child. A child will survive without them, besides no child should have a television or computer in their bedroom at all. Time spent on privileges should be limited, no more than an hour a day, unless it's computer time for a school project. All spanking is going to teach her is how to hit...grounding her is going to teach her you have nothing else. Not a good way to keep control of any situation involving children.
2007-11-02 06:29:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with most comments here. no spanking necessary for this issue. transitioning from kindergarten to first grade is a difficult thing. my daughter's in first grade as well, and she has had a rough time.
it's not the teacher's responsibility anymore to make sure that all kids take home all their work. they are trying to teach them individuality, responsibility, organization... it's not easy, but she will get it as long as you keep stressing how important it is to do well at school and try her best. if it's only been a couple of weeks, please give it more time.
There also shouldn't be any TV during the week anyways. Early bedtime is good...lots of rest helps my daughter have a good day. Positive reinforcement is good as well.
I created a chart of squares for my daughter & put it on her wall, and everytime she reads a book ALL by herself (usually it's a learn-to-read book), i scotch-tape a quarter in a square. when the chart is full (you can make it however big you want - mine is $10), she can spend it on either an activity, a book, a toy, or whatever.... seems to be working so far!!!!!
good luck to you fellow first grade parent!
2007-10-30 22:30:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter is in the first grade...not HIGH SCHOOL. There is no reason to spank her and she really shouldn't be watching tv during the school week ANYWAY.
You will have to CONTINUE talking to her everyday about it until she gets it. When you drop her off, remind her about her homework - to bring it home. Just before she gets out of the car, have her tell you what she needs to bring home.
Talk to her teacher and see if there's a way that you two can coordinate to help your daughter to remember these things on a daily basis. Remember, these kids have the attention span of a knat. They've been at school all day learning all sorts of subjects...you're expecting her to remember to bring home her homework without a little coaching?
How come her teacher doesn't have homework folders that the homework would automatically BE in? I'm notplacing blame on the teacher, I'm just saying that maybe some coordination on your part would help your daughter more than punishing her.
2007-10-30 19:29:15 · answer #4 · answered by sxctighteyedtam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While I fully support spankings, corporal punishment over homework sends the wrong message. A better solution is to work with her teacher. I'm not suggesting the teacher assume you daughter's individual responsibilities, but rather have a assignment review list on the board listing the homework assignments. Five minutes before class ends, point to the board and remind all the students what they should take home.
Most good college professors hand out the assignments for the entire semester on the first day of class. I think grade school teachers should have similar organization to provide daily assignments. This teaches the student organizational skills for life.
2007-10-30 22:54:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think if you stress the importance of bringing home the homework without spanking. If she gets bad grades in spelling she will realize that is what happens when you do not bring the work home to practice. If she forgets the work, how about if you choose a few words to practice, even though they are not the ones she had to bring home, she would know that she is not getting out of doing homework or studying anyway.
2007-10-30 19:30:10 · answer #6 · answered by schmoopie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk w/ her about how important homework is, then let her know that there will be consequences for forgetting her homework.
In our home, I check the folders as soon as they get home and they get an hour to play (to wind down from school). If homework is missing, we get in the car and head back to school. If that uses the whole play-time hour, so be it. Losing her play time is a direct consequence of leaving her homework at school. Plus, I don't look like the "mean mom" giving arbitrary punishment - it's just natural consequences.
2007-10-31 08:30:03 · answer #7 · answered by DaisyCake 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's a bit harsh. She is only in Yr 1, it was a simple mistake.
My daughter is also in Yr 1 and the teacher ensures that the children have their homework folders in their bags before they leave school. Once the teacher forgot to put spelling words in her homework folder, so I grabbed the dictionary and chose some words for my daughter and gave her a spelling test and then got her to write out the words she got wrong.
But my daughter loves homework and spelling.
Maybe you should see the teacher and talk to him/her about reminding your daughter that her homework is in her bag, if it's not the teachers responsibility. I really dont think it needs a punishment.
2007-10-30 19:16:51 · answer #8 · answered by Monkey Magic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I too agree that you should take something that is important to her away. She (and her teachers in the future) will thank you if you teach her responsibility now!
The teacher probably has at least 20 kids in the room to look after...she cannot be sure that EVERYONE has EXACTLY everything! The child needs to take on the responsibility.
To the person who said it is the teacher's responsibility....for some reason society thinks that it is the teacher and the schools responsibility to raise children and that is not the case. It has to all start at home!
2007-10-30 17:28:47 · answer #9 · answered by suzieQ 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
what are the consequences at school if homework is not done? At my daughter's school, she is also in 1st grade, if homework isnt done then they goto study hall on friday. This means they dont get to participate with the rest of the class when they have "fun" time. This is enough to encourage my daughter to do her homework.
Depending on what type of incentives the school has for doing well, you can go with that.
If the school doesnt have any incentives, then I would suggest some kind of punishment such as no playtime or TV after school etc...
2007-10-30 17:39:04 · answer #10 · answered by *D* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋