2007-10-30 10:11:53 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It's your wedding, don't let anyone hijack it. Be as traditional as you want, stay within your budget because in the long run you don't want to start off your new life in debt. This day is about you and your partner, not your parents, your friends or your wedding party (or you planner). Be reasonable. Don't expect others to go broke because you want certain things a certain way, anything anyone does for you is because they care and love you not because they have to.
Most of all, relax and enjoy your day. Nothing is perfect and at the end of the day you most likely won't care or even remember, you'll be married to your best friend.
2007-10-30 10:27:25 · answer #1 · answered by tetlitea 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've heard this from every bride I've ever known. It goes by sooooooooooooo fast. My advise, take time during the day to really soak it all in. It's a big day. Enjoy, have fun and like other posters have said, don't sweat the small stuff. Let what ever is going to happen...happen. Go with the flow!!
Also, one other thing that we did was we didn't go off and "hide" during the cocktail hour. Right after the ceremony we were walking around greeting people and chatting. It really helped to open up some time during the reception for the two of us to dance and have some fun ourselves.
Oh and one other thing...TAKE TIME TO EAT! You paid for the food...enjoy it. That is one thing I forgot to do. I sat down with a plate of food...went to the bar to get a drink and never sat down again.
And I think I saw someone else post this too. Remember the wedding is not the important part. It's what comes after...your marriage is the focus.
Congrats!!
2007-10-30 11:14:59 · answer #2 · answered by KCB 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Really - I echo the previous poster - don't sweat the small stuff.
Dont' waste your sanity (and money) on things that only YOU will notice - your guests are not going to remember a year from now if there were bathroom baskets or what the pew decorations looked like or if you had the perfect pen for the guest book.
What they WILL care about is seeing the two of you get married, the food and entertainment. Spend your money there and on the photography, if that's important to you.
I've seen way too many brides have panic attacks over the most ridiculous things (OMG! The shade of pink for the flowers doesn't match my linens!)
Keep in mind what's important - the marriage. Everything else is just fluff.
2007-10-30 10:48:33 · answer #3 · answered by Muhnkee 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I heard start off the morning with a mimosa. Sounded like a great idea--though we didn't have any champagne.
Don't feel obligated to keep to a schedule. Originally I was to take my bridal portrait around 4pm (wedding at 7). It was hailing and we were unable to leave the house until after 4. It cleared up and pictures were able to be taken. No big deal--we were just slightly behind schedule. The pictures still turned out great. At the end of the reception, we had planned to leave for the hotel around 1030. We looked at each other and were having such a good time, we decided to stay. We did a fake leaving for the photographer and said goodbye to her--then we went back in and partied til after midnight. Don't let anyone force you into leaving if you don't want. Don't feel you have to stay to the end if you want to go. This is the only wedding day you'll have. If you want to stay and say good bye to every guest, do so. If you are completely worn out and want to sneak out to the hotel, do that.
Next you requested advice. ok. Something will go wrong. Something will not be perfect. You can't let the one item that goes wrong, ruin your day. My florist did a great job on my alter decorations and bridesmaids bouquets, but my bouquet looked horrible. Nothing like the pictures I'd taken him. However those were the flowers that were there, so you smile and move on. It's your wedding day. No one else will notice that the cake monogram wasn't the font you asked, or that the flowers had yellow in them when you specifically said no yellow. But they will notice that the bride was truly distraught on her wedding day--and all your pictures will reflect that.
Advice-have a personal assistant. Someone who is not a bridesmaid (a close friend) go with you. Someone who can watch the hair dresser to see if she's doing something you will not like. Someone who watches to make sure you don't leave stuff behind. I left a prom picture at the hair salon that can't be replaced. Also, my mother was driving to the airport at 7am the next morning to meet us, as my watch and glasses had not made it from the Bride's dressing room to my hotel overnight bag. I took them off for the ceremony.
Don't allow yourself to overstress. Remember--this is the happiest day of your life. Keep reminding yourself that so that you don't get overdramatic about things and become mad at anyone. Calm your stress level down. This is the happiest day of your life.
2007-10-30 11:54:46 · answer #4 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I'm about to be a bride and all I can say is that we can't let the little things bother us. I want to get married and focus on that. I don't want a wedding and a reception. Just a dinner at a restaurant with friends and family after going to the courthouse. Do what you want but remember, a wedding is the start of a marriage. A wedding lasts one day and a marriage should last a whole lifetime. Plan your marriage too. I'm so happy we've decided to keep it simple.
2007-10-30 11:44:25 · answer #5 · answered by Rockit 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm a current bride - not a past one - but the wedding is only 3 months away. The biggest piece of advice is this: do what the two of you want, and don't let yourselves get talked into doing anything you don't want. Second biggest piece of advice: don't spend more money than you have; stay within your budget.
We're planning everything ourselves. The wedding will be very non-traditional, multi-cultural, and (we hope!) tons of fun for our guests. We're accepting input from friends and family, but we're making all the decisions ourselves. And best of all, even though it's a fairly big wedding, we're not going into any debt *at all*.
2007-10-30 10:45:37 · answer #6 · answered by SE 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you register yourselves at a few stores for wedding presents. My husband and I did not....and we regretted it because for the most part we received pretty lame presents. So, my advice would be to be certain the people invited know that you are "registered" (you and your bride have picked out of things you really like at the store).
2007-10-30 22:40:12 · answer #7 · answered by alexgirl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
We eloped then held a semi-casual reception a month later. It was great because rather than blowing thousands of dollars on a huge wedding, we were able to invite everyone we wanted to the reception (without paring the list), and we saved thousands of dollars.
It's been four years now and neither of us regret not doing the big wedding thing.
2007-10-30 10:22:26 · answer #8 · answered by lousue 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
-Make sure you comfy shoes for a back-Up!
- Make sure you get people to take lots of Photos
-Enjoy the day and take time to take it all in
- Make sure you do a thank-you Speech
- Make sure everything is confirmed
- have an open mind about things
Enjoy your day and don't sweat the small stuff it is not worth it
Congratulations and best wishes to you and your future husband!!
2007-10-30 11:09:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Food, alcohol, and music should be a priority.
So should photography.
Be confident the day of and let it go when something goes wrong.
Dont forget to go around and thank your guests for coming, if you dont have a receiving line.
2007-10-30 20:35:16 · answer #10 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋