What do you all think about "Purity Balls?"?

Question

Well like i said it's about girls ages 9-19 pledging to be pure. This happens in 48 states now, there are no balls for boys though. Iknow it's unfair but in this society if a girl has sex she is labeled a slut. If a boy has sex it is normal, what do you people think? The people that do these balls are Christians, if you were wondering. I think the girls fell pressured to do it to make their parents happy, what do you think? Please tell me your opinions! Also should boys have "purity balls" as well? I think the ages to attend the ball should be 12-19, what do you think? Well please answer!

Answer 1

I don't think there should be any such thing as a purity ball for anyone. If a person decides not to have sex and remain a virgin, then that is their business. Declaring your virginity to the world is no less tacky than announcing what you did in bed last night and with whom.

Answer 2

Oh man, you have to love our society's double standards. We've reached the point where boys are expected to have sex - it's a sign of their "manhood". But if a girl has sex, she's clearly promiscuous and a ****. Society pushes for manliness in boys and purity in girls, which is just stupid. Considering sex is something that occurs between a girl and a boy (ignoring homosexuality, which is generally seen as wrong regardless), it's ridiculous to praise the boy and condemn the girl for the exact same act.
Also, if someone wants to remain a virgin, that's totally cool. But I think it should be a personal choice, and not something that people are pressured into doing. A "Purity Ball" brings about too much pressure - from family, from friends, from society... Whatever. If a person wants to remain a virgin, cool, but they don't have to make a spectacle of it, or be forced into making a decision.

Answer 3

i am not exactly sure what a "purity ball" is but I think I understand the general concept.
I don't feel that girls should be singled out in society, or forced into making a decision about their virginity especially at a young age. but if the girls are asked to take this purity pledge, boys should have the option to do so as well. It takes two people to have sex after all

Answer 4

These Purity Balls are unnatural relationships where fathers date their children and it will end up making a lot of people look bad sooner or later as these dads figure they aught to drink like they did when they were dating age and the girls wont know seducing their drunk dad is not wrong. We should be teaching our children about healthy relationships with their peers and parenting should be part of it. Does signing a PROM Promise really stop the drinking at PROMS. So does any one think that these purity balls will really stop the raging hormones of young girls. Birth control, family planning and sex education are the best bet and have been proved with facts and lots of data. Kids will always experiment with thinks they don't know and the best place to get pregnant is at church camp and purity balls will teach the wrong lesson about sex.

Answer 5

I think that they are a good idea, However, I agree with you that most girls are pressured into these by their parents, so I don't think that they work! I think as a parent the best thing you can do is be open and honest with your children about sex and tell them all of the risks involved in it. If they are informed at least when they do decide to have sex they will be safe! The worst thing that you could do is make your child think that you will be mad at them for having sex, and by making them "pledge to be pure" that is exactly what you are doing.

Answer 6

First of all, I would like to point out the poor choice of the name. Purity Balls? Really?

I actually had an Evangelist come to my campus staying exactly that: it's a huge sin for girls to have premarital sex, but it's natural for men to do so. It's because it's "more invasive" for girls--the moron even tried to get me to back up his opinion (didn't work).

I think that it should be an all or nothing deal. Either no one can have premarital sex, or everyone can. Girls should not feel any guiltier than guys. It is a huge double standard, and reinforces the idea that women are the dirtier, eviler sex.

Answer 7

I think they're a double standard. I mean, hello? Who are the boys having sex with? Duh...the girls! I think abstinence is a great thing. I chose not to wait until marriage, but I think it's awesome when people do. However, I believe that that is a personal decision that everyone....male and female....should make based on their own views and beliefs. I also think that that could set someone up for a personal failure if they don't wait. I know people who made those "True Love Waits' pledges who did not wait until marriage. They made a commitment to God and then did not abide by it. Imagine how that could make someone feel about themselves....if they're religious. I think if you want to save yourself fro marriage, then that's awesome, but I don't think it has to be shouted out from the rooftops or made to be a big deal. Like I said, it's a personal decision.

Answer 8

Purity Balls?! Damn! This is another reason why I don't go to church! What we need is to educate the dumb***** who don't know how to think with both heads and who believe in everything that is told to them to be true. Listen, it's enivetible, someday a man and woman will get together and make sweet love. What really disturbs me about your question is the 9-19 for girls!!!! 9! Get the F*** out! I'm 25! Started having sex when I was 15, one partner for 8yrs, no disease, no pregnancy, do you know why? Because mama didn't raise no fool... Got a 16yr bro., he got his gf pregnant, do you know why? Coz he's a dumbass, he didn't listen to mama when she taught us about the consequences of sex. His gf graduated top 10% of her class, you would think she would have been smarter than to hook up with a dumb*** of my bro. Goes to show where the education system is heading, hold on, I'm gonna get gun, so I can leave this planet before it goes mental....BANG!

Answer 9

to be honest, I have never heard of such events. I think it's not right for them to do this if they don't do the same to the boys. in other religions, such as Mormon, both boys and girls pledge for their virginity as a way to stay pure for marriage. this pledge was never only selected for one gender. I personally wouldn't do it to my daughters since they should be responsible for their sexuality and body, I will definetely have open discussions and conversations about sex and their consequences, but I don't think I can take that away from them just because I wouldn't feel right if it was taken away from me (when growing up). It's too radical!

Answer 10

i think, while they may be sentimental to certain people (everyone is entitled to their beliefs, you know), I think it's awkward for the girls and while they should be taught by their parents about sex and what's right and wrong, I think in the end, you rear a child up to be the best, as any parent would want, but it's up to them to step up and make good choices. These events don't necessarily, in my opinion, prevent someone from doing what they're going to do anyway. Still, you can't condemn good intentions....