Are many Christian churches preaching an anti-masculine religion?

Question

It seems to me that many churches are frequently telling Christian guys that they need to be more loving and kind and gentle i.e. feminine. They are almost always giving them challenges on Father's day while Thanking the mothers on Mother's day. It does seem to be lopsided to me - not very favorable towards men. What do you think? Has the pendelum swung over to being Pro-women and Anti-men in many or most churches or am I just full of it? Any thoughts welcomed as long as they're respectful! :)

I'm not saying that it's either or - that women shouldn't be thanked or appreciated. They need to be but I see a lopsided trend in the Christian community where guys are discouraged or put down for being guys - for not communicating their feelings enough or for liking combative things like sports or war movies, etc. They're told they need to try harder @ being better husbands and fathers while rarely getting any positive feedback. They can be the butt of jokes in sermons and and their authority/ position mocked and criticizied week after week. And when there is a problem in the marriage it's assumed it must be the man's fault. (This was actually preached at a marriage seminar promoted by a popular Christian weekly radio show). I'm not saying men don't need to improve or be challenged. I just think they need to be respected and encouraged more and not debased for being men. Jesus was very manly and would upsent many of today's delicate church-goers. More thoughts appreciated!

Answer 1

It's called a wimpy gospel! Yes I do believe many churches are doing that and the family unit along with the church is suffering badly because of it.

Answer 2

I think you're right about that. There are a lot of men out there who are already good and kind-hearted and it would be great to hear them being encouraged as family leaders instead of lectured. I know it's true that women can do a great job of raising a family even if there isn't a man involved, but that's not the ideal and men should be praised for their role as true men in a family.

By the way, a good book that also brings that point across is Bringing Up Boys by James Dobson. Check it out if you have the chance!

Answer 3

God is no respecter of persons. (Acts 10:34)

This means God does not play favoritism. his word is his word for all people. Not just women. But for men as well. Jesus was a man. And he was the perfect example of what a person (male or female) should be.

Here's what James 2:8-9 says :

8 If indeed you [really] fulfill the royal Law in accordance with the Scripture, You shall love your neighbor as [you love] yourself, you do well.

9 But if you show servile regard (prejudice, favoritism) for people, you commit sin and are rebuked and convicted by the Law as violators and offenders.

If any church is esteeming any gender over another for any reason..it's wrong.
The bible says so.

The devil comes to seek and divide the body of Christ inany way he can. He wants to not only turn men against women and vice versa, but fathers against sons, brothers against sisters....and so forth.

Of course he does that because there is supposed to be unity in the body of Christ.
And he seeks to divide.

Answer 4

I know it might seem that way, but unfortunately far too many males in the past have been abuse and mean and this may be an odd attempt to let men know they have the right to those feelings that have always been labeled female only by society in the past. Men are meant to be and have the right to be masculine and all male and strong, but also you have other emotions too that "men" aren't supposed to show as for some reason many males feel that undermines the men that they are. It doesn't. YOU can be all the MALE that you were created to be and still have "feelings". I hope these programs are after that ideal at their core. Otherwise I'd be against them as a woman too!

We were created exactly who we are, some males and some females and we should NOT be forcing others to be who they aren't. However a little touch of sensitivety ["God's Style" NOT secular program's style,] training on EVERYONE'S part now and then is not out of order in my opinion.

To me it's learning to be "sensitive" to the Holy Spirit's leading on how to be who you are in life, how to learn to have GOD'S compassion as opposed to male or female gender compassion styles, towards every person we meet in life. Jesus was meek and gentle but HE was still all male, ladies. got news for you on that one. He was a mere mortal MAN, yet He still was confident and strong and secure in who He was, a "gentleman" but a stern one when the situation called for it. Oh yeah He really laid it out to the pharisees when needed and didn't pull no punches there. He was all man, it you just MUST label things as this gender or that. I am NOT for denying the gender you were born as by any means. I think we just have to quit focusing on the "gender" as being the reason people act thus and so.

It's really a prayer solution if you ask me, we ought to quit publically instituting programs to solve what we percieve as the problem and get into our respective prayer closets and ASK GOD what the "ROOT" of a supposed problem is for ANY given situation and let HIM tell each one of us privately how to pray for others, I use Psalms 3 and Isaiah 11:2-5 over both men and women and I pray 1st Corinthians 13 as well over people. I don't compartmentalise people's problems as being a characteristic of one gender only. Honey WE ALL have problems and their source is satan NOT any one gender. So deal with that people and quit picking on the men. Clean your own household first, deal with the beam in your own eye first. Ladies you want the "gentleman" you better behave in the manner that gets the respect and sensitivity that you want out of him. 'nuff said.

ysic Kay

Answer 5

Why must Pro-Women=Anti-Men to you? This is common of people who fear the loss of male privilege, and I find your question a little offensive. It's rather difficult to be respectful to a man who wants to keep women oppressed in a time when the majority of single parent households are headed by women, and when batterers quote the Bible to their bruised wives as a matter of justification. Why are Woman and Man considered opposites anyway? Equality is a worthwhile goal, and I am proud of my local churches that have been involved with Domestic Violence awareness month (October), and are finally seeking the information that they need to work effectively with families in violent homes (instead of years of advising women to stay ant try harder to please their men).
So, respectfully...you are full of it.

Answer 6

Is loving and obediance to God for women only? A guess adam thought so that is way he ate the apple because his wife said so. Now you want to come up against God because of that! What! If we love God we develop attributes,such as love gentleness and kindness. among many other things. Is God favorable to men? If there is a pendelum it is in your mind. You do not need a wife you need to be alone. You do not know God at all. God does not challenge us he commands us to love and be loved by him.

Answer 7

There are certain aspects of each gender that are not considered favorable, in men the nature to be overly aggressive and dominant is no longer of much use in organized society, there are however certain behavioral traits of women that are less favorable too, just ask any decent guy that has dated several of them, hell know what you are talking about.

Answer 8

I think it has gone towards the feminization of Christian men.

Paul stated in 2 Timothy 2:11-15 that women were to remain silent and only voice opinions to their husbands, he even stated that they are only saved through childbirth.

Obviously that doctrine has changed quite a bit in the current Christian churches. Apparently God changed his mind, yet again.

Answer 9

If someone tries to solve a problem, they go overboard. It's human nature . Pretty soon they'll find out they did that, feel sorry for it, and the pendelum will swing right over to men.

Answer 10

i understand that this exists first hand. I even have been informed by capability of a number of acquaintances (of diverse religions) that because of the fact i'm a mormon, i'm incorrect and have self assurance fake teachings. At yet another church somebody even stated that their pastor/minister stated that the mormons have been incorrect because of the fact of a scripture in revelation.It says that no guy shall upload to this e book, yet many human beings do not understand that basically because of the fact revelation is on the top of the bible, it genuinely wasn't the final e book written. additionally, the e book of mormon isn't an addition to the bible, neither is it all of the LDS church believes. We have self assurance in the two the bible and e book of Mormon, which because it states on the conceal is "yet another testomony of Jesus Christ". i grow to be additionally informed by capability of considered one of my acquaintances who grow to be informed by capability of his church chief, that the Mormon church would not do the communion/sacrament. I even have in no way heard any of my leaders bash different religions, yet I even have heard different individuals (non-leaders) bash different religions. we are actually not ideal, however the church leaders are very supportive and understand-how of different ideals.