2007-10-30 10:00:40 · 23 answers · asked by non active 2 in Pets ➔ Dogs
No I haven't, but I can honestly say I would choose my dog.
Dogs are part of the deal. They wouldn't even be my boyfriend if they didn't like dogs.
2007-10-30 10:03:51 · answer #1 · answered by Ella (& her dogs) 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anyone I date is pre-screened to make sure they like dogs and accept that mine is my baby and I'd do anything for him. He sleeps on the bed... if they're not OK with that, then they're gone. I never leave him home alone for more than he can hold his bladder (8 at most... less if possible). If that's a problem... they're gone.
Fin. Of course, the few people I've ever dated have been OK with that (and even had dogs/cats/etc... themselves who they felt the same about), so I've never had to choose.
Dogs are like babies. They're entirely dependent on you and need you. If you push them aside or give them up, they can't just "move on". They're weaker and less self-reliant, and therefore should be protected. And their lives are relatively short, so it seems cruel to shatter the short life they have.
So, assuming the dog came first... I'd say the dog should always be kept. The gf/bf can go to hell if they have a problem. Besides, dogs aren't manipulative enough to give such utlimatums. And if someone truly cares about you, they'd also care about the bond you have with your pets (and family, friends, etc...), and ideally would love that you're able and willing to care so much about someone/something (it's a good sign... but the coldness to give up your dog/baby whom you've had for years shows a lack of commitment/devotion).
I have no respect for people who give their dogs up for someone new when they had that dog first. I also have no respect for kids who leave their dogs when they go off to college. That's just so selfish.
2007-10-30 17:14:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Choose your dog.
I can totally understand finding the love of your life and not wanting to be separated, even if you have to choose between a dogless life. But is this person really the love of your life? Is there no way that you can compromise?
With me and my dog, it's a package deal. If I'm madly madly in love with someone (unlikely if he doesn't love dogs), I'll CONSIDER not getting new dogs in the future. I'd never give up my current dog. But man, he'd need to be some guy to even consider it.
You made a commitment to your dog when you got him. If you can't respect your previous commitments (dog), don't enter into a new commitment (person).
2007-10-30 17:03:51 · answer #3 · answered by Cleoppa 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
my bf says that my dog is too big to be allowed in the bedroom but i've had the dog for years and he has always slept in the bed with me... i have let him know that the dog comes first... if the dog isnt allowed in the bedroom neither is he. he does like my dog though and i dont think he has a problem with the dog... just the fact that hes the size of a small pony
2007-10-30 17:13:03 · answer #4 · answered by avalon552 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with the dog.
Its always the right choice.
Anyone who would force you to chose between themselves and someone (or something) you love is NOT someone you should be with.
After being married 17 years my Ex said "its me or the dogs". I placed all but 2 of my dogs ... and the marriage still ended because the REAL issue wasn't the dogs but the fact that I had something else besides him that was important to me.
2007-10-30 17:23:59 · answer #5 · answered by animal_artwork 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, as everyone else said, it's a package deal - me and the dogs. I wouldn't want to live with someone who didn't like animals. My husband loves animals (2 dogs, 1 cat) so we can all live happily ever after!
2007-10-31 00:59:31 · answer #6 · answered by Little Ollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was dating someone that did not like my dog, it wouldn't work out. There's no way I could marry someone that dislikes animals, we just wouldn't be compatible. So the boyfriend would have to go. No use wasting time on a relationship that's not going to last.
2007-10-30 17:04:55 · answer #7 · answered by abbyful 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I did. My parents got me a german shepard when I was 15, I moved out with my boyfriend when I was 19. I left the dog behind, my bf, and now Husband(it's 9 yrs this Jan) was allegic to him. Buddy, the dog got to live the rest of his days with my parents.
Edited to add, we do have a dog now, it's a cocker spainel, he doesn't bother my hubby.
2007-10-30 17:05:06 · answer #8 · answered by pharfly1 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes and the dogs won.
There are actually studies that show that if a dog has a problem with someone you are dating, then there is probably something wrong with that person or they are cheating, etc.
2007-10-30 17:08:05 · answer #9 · answered by Yo LO! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first off.....your dog is like your child in a way.
you love your dog right?
if you're bf/gf cant understand that
ditch them, or try reasoning with them
this could be a sign of other things to come in life.
example: if she doesnt/he doesnt get their way, they will always threaten you with leaving you or something.
you want someone who is willing to accept you the way you (and your dog) are.
2007-10-30 17:14:11 · answer #10 · answered by ca_princess_408 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋