What do you all think about "Purity Balls?"?

Question

Have you heard of "purity balls?" Many people in 48 states have these balls. It's where young girls ages 9-19 pledge to be pure and save themselves for marriage. What do you all think about them is it right to expose young girls at age 9 to pledge to be pure? The fathers also pledge to protect their daughters and support them. Please tell me your opinions!

Answer 1

Lots of thoughts here:

1. I suspect that the idea for purity balls originated as a marketing strategy for caterers, formal attire businesses, rental hall owners, and anyone else that could make a buck out of it.

2. It smacks of the days when fathers owned their daughters until the they could be sold for marriage to some creepy old poop for the sum of two cows and a big bag of potatos.

3. Double-standards apparently never die. Why aren't boys pressured into donning cute little tuxedos and then forced to publicly promise their mommies that they'll keep their one-eyed-wonder-worm behind locked zippers?

4. It's a horse-show. Proud Christian fathers can prance around showing off their little virgin filly all decked out in her $1,000 pure-white sickening-sweet little virgin gown. Christians aren't supposed to be braggarts, but this sounds to be like one big bragging free-for-all.

5. The only possible good thing I can think of is that father and daughter might possibly have a closer relationship due to the partnership in virginity. Oh, man...it still sounds a bit twisted.

6. I think that parents speaking to their children about sexual responsibility is a good thing. Showing off your virgin daughter at a ball is like advertising the sale price of a leg of lamb.

Answer 2

well i'm christian and at my church we do some thing similar. we call it "true love waits" (like, if you really love the person, you're willing to wait until marraige to have sex with them). but we don't do that until middle school and high school. I think 9 years is a little young to start it, and with society how it is, 19 could be too old lol. but it guess it is good for young kids to make the commitment. i made the pledge when i was 12 or 13 and broke it when i was 15 lol but i think it's a good think over all to help keep them on the right track.
but after we commit, we get a ring to help remind us. not a ball

Answer 3

I think it's a great idea. I wonder who thought of this. The Bible says in 1 Corinthians that it is better to marry than to burn (1 Corinthians 7:9). Of course, a 9-year-old shouldn't be even thinking about getting married, but if you teach her at that young age to respect herself and her body for the temple that it is (1 Corinthians 6:19-20), she won't do anything to harm it, or let anyone else do anything to harm it.

Answer 4

As if any kid is going to refuse to take part in a purity ball. If their parents ask them to go, they will not say no for fear of being embarassed to tell their parents that they might want to have sex before marriage. I prefer to just NEVER talk about sex to my parents and if I was going to it would be with my mum NO WAY would I talk to my dad about sex, I don't even want the thought to enter his mind if its to do with me. I think these balls are sexist, unrealistic, stupid and I don't think that a father or anyone should control that aspect of a girls life, I think parents should warn their kids about it but ultimately it should be a persons own decision.

Answer 5

I wonder how much pressure girls get to attend these functions and to pledge their purity...
Do parents encourage or insist?
Do peers encourage by signing on first?
Does any religion put pressure on girls to participate?
Do boys have such a thing as well?

Why don't we, instead, teach girls how to have wonderful, self-fulfilling sex for their entire lives, and be in control of their own bodies so that pregnancy and disease don't ever happen by mistake. Look what abstinence has done for young Arab Muslim boys and girls.- they turn to violence in their frustration.

Answer 6

I think the Balls were designed by the parents to keep an even tighter grip of brainwashing on their children. Paranoid parents shouldn't have to worry if the kids really believed in God.

Answer 7

what does a 9 year old know ?
they would be pledging to something and not know what that entails exactly
I find it a little creepy to be honest
but I dont live in the US and hadn't heard of these before until quite recently

Answer 8

purity rings arent a promise to our father and mom, they're a promise to God. they're a staggering image by way of fact it makes your wedding ceremony nighttime greater specific. I dont have a promise ring yet, yet i choose one. You placed on a purity ring on your ring finger, then on the alter, your husband to be takes it off and places on the marriage ring. i think of that symbolizes plenty, and no a hoop isnt a prop. I definitely have had the communicate and that i dont have a hoop yet. maximum christian families supply the daughters the hoop while they have the communicate. you're making assumptions you have not got any thought approximately. You wouldnt understand that they supply the hoop as a prop, considering you weren't in any respect given a hoop, its dumb and makes you appear like an fool for doing that. i will indisputably wait till marriage, its no longer something that even seems as a call in my techniques. the reason they're referred to as promise rings is by way of fact we make the promise to God. we could desire to consistently make the promise to God by way of fact he's the guy who made us so we are able to ATLEAST make an undemanding promise to him. And virginity has a genuine to be extensive casted on a hoop! One persn commented on that and that i had to state how incorrect i think of they're. human beings weare shirts affirming there christian/athiest techniques set, so why no longer declare the completed dont do it formerly marriage section? and that i additionally think of that rings are sturdy by way of fact it helps us understand we made the promise, now we could desire to maintain it. people who make the promise, then smash it are slutty and liars. i'm sorry that i stated that, yet i like to assert the certainty. have a sturdy day! we pledge our allegiance, why no longer our virginity?

Answer 9

To each their own...but i have 2 daughters...and i hope they save theirselves till they get married...and not walk down the road i did!!!

Answer 10

Not only useless, but possibly dangerous.

They are more likely to engage in oral and anal sex.... unprotected because they are often taught that protection doesn't work.