I recently cheated on my boyfriend with this guy at work and he found out about it and went and beat him up and then came home and hit me because of it. I was so upset and I called my mom to tell her what happened but she told me I deserved it for cheating on him in the first place! I can't believe she said that to me! Was he really justified in hitting me like he did?
2007-10-30 09:43:17 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
although cheating on your boyfriend was wrong, NOTHING justifies hitting a girl.
Obviously you and your boyfriend aren't in the best of relationships to begin with otherwise you wouldn't have cheated. I think it is time you move on.
2007-10-30 09:46:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋
I don't think that's justified. Men are cowards if they hit women like that. It's not right. No offense to your mother, but her words weren't very good. You did wrong, but you don't deserve to be slapped by your boyfriend for it. You didn't deserve to be hit. Your boyfriend could've done this in a good way; talk with you about it. Why did you cheat on him? How can he improve himself? You know, ask questions and discuss. Violence and hitting won't do no good. I'm glad I have this frame of mind so I'm prepared when I finally have a girlfriend. It's a good frame of mind for ALL men to have, you know, sure it's okay to vent your anger, but it's not good to take it out on your girl, you know? Anyway, maybe you can try apologizing and get him to apologize to you as well. I hope things go okay, so good luck.
2007-10-30 15:42:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Miss Amelia no male ever has the right to lay a hand on a female. That is my opinion anyway. He was obviously hurt and very angry because you were not faithful to your relationship. Lucky that the other guy didn't charge him and for that matter lucky you didn't either. You may want to look at this relationship and see if this could become a habit rather than a one time event. How is he going to react the next time you give him bad news, with a black eye or bruises. Good luck.
2007-10-30 09:48:34 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO he was not at all justified in hitting you! Theres no justification for either the girl/guy to hit eachother, it should never happen and if it does you should get out straight away!
How do you know this isnt going to happen again for a smaller transgression? Like if you accidently burn the dinner or forget to do something, will your mother still say he's "justified" in striking you then?
Sometimes parrents can be very archaic in their views, your mother, as nice as she may be sounds like she has very old fashioned views. What you did was wrong, but that does not make what he did right.
2007-10-30 09:49:14 · answer #4 · answered by Sophia 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is never a reason a guy should hit a girl. Not unless you are trying to kill him or mess him up in some brutal fashion. Wait till he goes to sleep and hit him with something back. Lets see how he likes going to work all busted up. Don't let any man put his hands on you like that darlin. If they do, they are not a real man anyway.
2007-10-30 09:50:14 · answer #5 · answered by bullcity25 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You cheated and that's wrong in a different way...but boyfriend hitting you.
That's NEVER okay and there's no guarantee it won't continue to happen, get worse and one day you end up dead like the millions of women who have died from domestic violence.
He obviously has no control over his anger and him hitting probably felt like he could control you. And beating up the other guy? That's assault and battery and a crime.
Bad news dear. Leave him before it's too late.
2007-10-30 09:48:34 · answer #6 · answered by Michaela 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He wasn't justified in beating up the other guy, either. Violence is never an answer, no matter how angry you are. However, it's not right that you cheated on him. Two wrongs don't make a right, and while he shouldn't have hit you, you shouldn't have cheated.
2007-10-30 09:47:15 · answer #7 · answered by Yuki 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
NO. No one deserves to be hit b/c of anything especially a female hit by a man. Real men don't hit women regardless of what reason. You shouldn't have cheated on him, and you deserve to have him leave you alone, but not for him to hit you.
2007-10-30 09:47:33 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Seems all the ones that answered your question are female. So a male perspective is in need. He should not have hit you, he should leave your cheating a55 and hook up with the next girl he sees in front of you. All the females here are saying that there is no justification for hitting a girl...........WRONG! If you put your hands on your man he has every right in the world to do the same in defense.
2007-10-30 09:55:08 · answer #9 · answered by True 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Nobody deserves to be hit. You can file an assault charge on him. But you shouldn't cheated. And then he found out you did not tell him. You still did not deserve to be hit.
2007-10-30 09:51:48 · answer #10 · answered by aelt15aelt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋