I met a guy who seemed perfect, nice attitude, good job, nice house, very caring etc. Things were going well until it started to it started getting heavy, he started coming around to the house more, phoning more etc, then he just stopped all contact for around 2 weeks, then he phoned to ask to come around and ive had a couple of txts. When he went quiet for 2 weeks he never answered any calls or txts. I heard that his ex wife used to batter him, and he is in the middle of a battle as she is trying to get half of everything he owes. So do you think he is just using me or do you think he was scared?or what do you think?
2007-10-30 09:39:33 · 6 answers · asked by nicola h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think he's not ready yet to go really heavy with you...he likes you for sure but he definitely needs more time to get over the ex (like last-minute details/stuff).....be patient.....if it's meant to be, it will happen...good luck and be happy
2007-10-30 09:44:18 · answer #1 · answered by Girlie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one is perfect right :).
But his ex wife battered him? And it sounds like he's hiding out so he can hide materials from her.
I can't guess if he's using you or not and I hope he's not scared (guess I'm old fashioned...a guy hiding from a woman who beat him, how'd that happen?). But that sounds like a lot of drama to me.
Measure a pro's a con's and see if he's worth it for you. And honestly, he shouldn't be leaving you in the dark. If he's pulling a disappearing act, maybe he's not really getting divorced. Maybe he's having an affair with you and going back and forth with you and wifey. And a good relationship is constant contact with each other (not smothering but disappearing 2 weeks at a time?) Weird.
2007-10-30 16:46:01 · answer #2 · answered by Michaela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the words of the great book He's Just Not That Into You, I think that if you were on his mindm, he would call you.
The fact that he left WITHOUT even letting you know why, is not acceptable. Not that yous hould hate him, but don't let some guy fool you into thinking he doesn't owe the common courtesy of letting you know where you stand with him.
Divorce or not, you shouldn't be figuring out why this why that? He should be able to be a man and voice it.
You need to move on. especially if he's going through divorce, he's prob not emotionally available anyways.
Don't you think you deserve a guy who doesn't take a "break" from dating you?
I do
2007-10-30 16:44:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he is stilled scared of his ex and they still have some issues they need to sort out, probably in those two weeks. Just go with the flow.
2007-10-30 16:43:31 · answer #4 · answered by Gavbo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll never know until you ask him about these things. You are not into anything heavy unless you can talk about what he has been up to and what is going on in his divorce.
2007-10-30 16:42:55 · answer #5 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the two week thing is what would throw me off, get his answer as to why this happened b/c it sounds like you have been used and are you sure he's getting a divorce?
2007-10-30 16:43:40 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋