My girlfriend and I have been dating for 6 months and we are really close, she had a play and we did not see eachother for a week. One of her ex boyfriends was in the play and she started to have feelings for him. She told him she liked him. After the week she told me about this and told her ex boyfriend that it won't work out and that she won't talk to him again. It still hurt me that she would tell another guy this and have feelings for him. What should i do?
2007-10-30 09:31:51 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get over it. She told her exboyfriend off--what does that tell you? It tells you that she wants to be with you, not her ex.
2007-10-30 09:34:32 · answer #1 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The question is what happened in that week and why did it take her so long to tell you? I can answer the last part, she wasn't sure who she wanted to be with. Frankly if this bothers you (which I would be bothered if my gf told someone else she liked him and had feelings for him) move on, she may have found out you were the right guy for her, but realize you haven't had the same opportunity. Fair? I think not.
If this were me, I would tell the girlfriend that what she did hurt you and you need some time to sort out your feelings for her. Then you are free to play the field, besides it's interesting the women on here are saying at least she's honest. Take the timing into account and realize there's a reason why she told you at the end (when she had already decided). If her motives were to be honest wouldn't she have told you in the beginning?
2007-10-30 16:36:18 · answer #2 · answered by jay k 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Heyyyy waitaminnet! Am I the only here who wonders what her and the ex-flame were doing for that week when you didn't see her. That's the question I'd be wanting her to answer if it were me. She likes me- she don't like me! She likes him-she don't like him! She likes me again! Sounds like some half truths are being told here and you're the poor sap willing to believe them and full steam ahead from where you left off at. If she stepped off a cruise ship in the middle of the ocean, you're the ship---you relationships the ocean, could she step right back on or would there be repercussions to re board. Think about it. It should bother you that when she had the opportunity to rekindle something with this dude, she leapt at the chance and then, something went wrong so she fell back into your arms. Her own personal safety guard. How romantic------------for her! I wonder----would she be YOUR safety guard if you needed one? Good luck buddy,
askaman
2007-10-30 16:48:55 · answer #3 · answered by legendaryaskaman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She seems to be honest with you and only said I liked him and also told him it won't work out, so i think she felt guilty and needed to tell you this because you are close to her and she cares about you. She also might have wanted to test you to see how much you care about her, if you got jealous then she feels you care. She did not cheat on you. But you should tell her how you feel and make a pack like I did with my boyfriend, if we ever want to be with someone else we would tell the other and break up so no one will cheat..
2007-10-30 16:39:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might hurt you at first but you should realize that she was just being honest with you and him and finding a partner that can be honest is very hard to find. Would you have rathered her not tell you about her feelings for him and hide it? The situation seems solved and you were aware of everything, you should be happy she desires you over him. Embrace the honesty that this young girl has.
2007-10-30 16:35:59 · answer #5 · answered by Lu 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure I fully understand your question, but this is how I see it. Unless something completely horrendous happens in your past relationship, it's not possible to shut off all feelings you have for that person. This is someone she once cared about. The fact that she told him that she can't speak to him anymore is good; that means you're safe, she's not leaving you for her ex. She knows that her old relationship is over and it would be unwise to continue it. I don't think there's anything you should do or need to do; it's over now.
2007-10-30 16:37:15 · answer #6 · answered by xK 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sucks that she informed the ex that she had feelings, but you can't be too angry about her having feelings about her ex. Those things take a good amount of time to go away if they ever do. I would be happy that she has told him to go away and just try to move past this.
2007-10-30 16:37:03 · answer #7 · answered by Haley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a step back. Find out why she had feelings for him. Ask her how she feels about you and where she thinks you guys are headed. Then it's probably best to put a little distance between the two of you. To allow yourselves to find out if your feelings are real.
2007-10-30 16:36:51 · answer #8 · answered by maddyb0929 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. She sounds like an intelligent person. At least she was honest with you. I hope she never goes back cuz it never works. You should be happy with her decision. just be lucky you still have her. Pamper her and hopefully you both with come out better. Good luck!
2007-10-30 16:36:56 · answer #9 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ah , she only said she liked him . But she told him off ,because she is with you ! So don't worry to much . Be glad that she tell's you things! Better to talk about it,then being secretive about it!
2007-10-30 16:36:19 · answer #10 · answered by silverearth1 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋