My girlfriend of a year broke up with me a month ago because we were arguing over stupid little things. We stayed friends and she told me she needed time to think if she wanted to get back with me. Of course being friends after a break up caused arguments of jealousy. I decided to stay faithful to her and not do anything with anyone because she was still making a decision. She then told me we needed to both move on to other people. And still we talked at least once a day and we are getting along. So, yesterday I told her to either take a risk and start the relationship back up or I would cut off all contact with her because I was being hurt by talking to her as a friend and knowing she could hook up with some guy or something. She chose me and said she wants to start off slow and work things out but we are a couple again. Now I don't feel like a couple because she cant say I love you yet or talk about certain things and I want to hear those words from her and I dont know wat to do
2007-10-30 09:11:11 · 13 answers · asked by dj51234 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be patient she will come around and talk about those things that she doesn't and she will start saying i love you. she did say she wanted to start out slow didn't she? well you should accept that she's not ready to talk about those things or say i love you. time will come and she'll be saying it all the time. trust me it'll work out. I'm a girl I've been in these situations before it almost always works out, but you can't rush things or pressure her into telling you just be patient and everything will most likely work out!!!
Best of luck!!!!
Kels!
2007-10-30 09:26:31 · answer #1 · answered by kelsie_92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello, Well firstly you both were ex's for a reason first itme round it is easy mabey to say i love you you had a bad patch, now your together well it is make or break she either has second thoughts or her feelings are very strong indded asnd she is afraid of losing you again the best thing you can do is tell her you not going anywhere she may have a security problem if as time goes by you really want to know where you stand ask her to get engaged if she starts behaving badly well
2007-10-30 16:21:44 · answer #2 · answered by Andrea B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your trying to put the cart before the horse, you need to work up and build the relationship all over again. If you rush, it will cause the fighting to start over again, and you don't need that. Start out slow, talk about everything, and she will say I love you, faster than you think. Don't put a time limit on it, or you will push her to fast.
2007-10-30 16:19:27 · answer #3 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, walk out now. She is just trouble. Pure trouble. Women who leave you once for a stupid reason WILL leave you again.
I agree with Kyoko. I don't know about you, but this whole "restarting the relationship" doesn't work with me. Burying issues under the carpet is not the way to have a relationship.
2007-10-30 16:16:55 · answer #4 · answered by bovinotarian 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
From her point of view, it's starting the relationship all over again. She wants to move slow to make sure that nothing goes wrong.
But if it really bothers you, talk to her about it. When you work out problems in a relationship, it deepens it.
2007-10-30 16:15:31 · answer #5 · answered by Kyoko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like to me you are young and so is she. Time will tell if it is meant to be. At a young age you can't really see what is important until it is gone and gone for good. Good luck to you both. It doesn't sound like she wants to be with you for the long haul. Protect yourself, esp. if she needed a long time to think and during that time she was with someone else.
2007-10-30 16:17:05 · answer #6 · answered by Eastcoast beachgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be patient! I am in the same situation with my ex...he can't say I love you again yet either. It will happen if you really wanna be with her then just be happy that yall are back together.
2007-10-30 16:14:45 · answer #7 · answered by *~*love always*~* 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know im going through the same thing with my boyfriend.
2007-10-30 16:17:25 · answer #8 · answered by tinker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a different girlfriend...you are obviously both confused (and immature).
2007-10-30 16:17:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds the same as what happened to me mate! it wont work sorry to say! hope it does for you anyway!
good luck
2007-10-30 16:16:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋