My father provided us with the basic necessities and was generous.. Now, he was a gambler 24/7 on days off, holidays, vacations and you got the picture. He even worked next to the gambling place. He would tell us how he would spend my mother's and his entire life savings and he would be so happy that we would be on the streets after he died. He told us to change our last names, and how he hated us, threatened us, and said our mother was like a cancer to him--she was married 40 years to him, and he would say bad things to anyone outside of the family about us as a family even things that were not true. He said he wanted us poor and miserable after he died and we would have to pick his dick hairs from the grave if we wanted anything..... this is all true... I hate my father to this day... Anyone give me insight as to what kind of person he was or what was with him. He said he loved gambling and would give it all away to the place he gambled because it was more important than his family..
2007-10-30 09:05:31 · 11 answers · asked by * 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
He is dead and he left us with house repairs totaling over $30K which he failed to repair and ignored while he was alive spending his money at the track.
He even called us children snakes, can't be trusted, evil, and he was paranoid.
2007-10-30 09:06:07 · update #1
He also said we children were evil like snakes, and could not be trusted for no reason. He said none of us went to church and were bad. Mind you mother raised us and took us to church. He even said we were conspirators? Your thoughts.
2007-10-30 09:09:49 · update #2
Whatever the reason that your father acted like this is in NO way your fault. That is something you need to come to terms with. You need to find forgiveness in your heart for you father, not for his own good but yours. I dont know why people act like this or dont find pride in their children as they should. I am very sorry that you had to go through all this and are still going thru it. I think for your own good, you need to talk to someone about all of this. Maybe sometype of counseling.....I am in no way saying you are wacked out or a nut job but you have to have some emotional damage from all of this. Who wouldn't? So, my best advice to you would be to trust in God to deliver you from this anger (once again not for your father but for YOU!!) and rely on him to give you understanding and comfort. I will pray for you!
And if you ever need to talk or just to vent you can email me @ kimber181@yahoo.com.
God Bless!
2007-10-30 10:19:33 · answer #1 · answered by kim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(He may have been Bipolar and it has been going untreated)
Either way, it sounds like your dad was dealing with his own demons. This is what happens when they are not a man of God. They fall into the evil and wicked ways of the devil.
If you want to know who your REAL FATHER is, then go to this site below.
May you find it in your heart to forgive him and let it go.
-God Bless.
2007-10-30 09:20:46 · answer #2 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i did not have a stable dad. I keep in mind whilst i grow to be youthful wishing that I had a dad like the only my buddy had. however the Lord gave me the only which I had. there grow to be a rationalization for it, i'm undecided what the rationalization is or grow to be. possibly it grow to be to make me a good guy or woman. we'd desire to make the superb of what we do have. I did have a astounding mom!
2016-09-28 02:01:25 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is unfortunate that your father was never recognized as needing professional help for whatever mental illness he suffered from.
There is nothing you can do now but realize that he couldn't help the things he said and did - not on his own anyhow, and he never got the help he needed.
2007-10-30 09:18:45 · answer #4 · answered by t_rex_is_mad 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The poor man sounds as if he was possessed, and you are suffering from what is termed ``The Father Wound`` which is all too common today,for your own peace of mind and for you to be able to have a life free of hatred for him you really need counseling.
2007-10-30 09:12:45 · answer #5 · answered by Sentinel 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
the apple doesn't fall far from the tree...............be careful to not repeat the cycle.
Being full of hatred doesn't help anything.
We all need forgiveness, some more than others.
The Lord Jesus could forgive you if you look to Him and He will help you forgive your father, even when he is in eternal condemnation.
Sometimes people could be real wicked, my dad is pretty evil too. but you have to be very careful to not make life more miserable for you nor your siblings nor your mom.
2007-10-30 09:12:27 · answer #6 · answered by K in Him 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Sounds to me like you're well rid of him.
Find the nearest compost heap, bury the bastard and try to live your life as unlike him as you can.
2007-10-30 09:17:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would have to hear his side of the story! I'm sure he's probably got some pretty interesting things to add. Anyways, good luck!!
2007-10-30 09:16:14 · answer #8 · answered by Allan C 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
One that never hugged you.
2007-10-30 09:19:16 · answer #9 · answered by YouCannotKnowUnlessUAsk 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pray for your dad...and we can pray too.
2007-10-30 09:12:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋