2007-10-30 08:57:02 · 14 answers · asked by theonlyexception 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well,it depends on the situation.... But it's fine by me... I'm 14,too....And I like a guy who's 18... He liked me until he found out that I wasn't 17(as he presumed)....Just my luck!
But,go for it! You have nothing to lose....
2007-10-30 09:03:36 · answer #1 · answered by glad to help :) 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
2 words - Statutory Rape.
At 14 you should be focused on school not dating. You have a lot of time before you need to worry about dating. Let's consider this, how would you feel if your son/daughter who's 17 had a girlfriend/boyfriend that's 14? First, what do you have in common? How does your parents feel? I was not allowed to date let alone speak of a boyfriend until I was 16 and a junior in high school. I know that there's a lot of peer pressure and stuff out there but try and stay focused on getting your education and going off to college. Boys will always be around and trust me when i tell you, it's better getting your education then having your heart broken by an older guy who's probably only out to get you in bed and then leave you alone.
2007-10-30 09:08:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From reading most of these answers, maybe I'm the crazy one, but I think it's probably okay. It really all depends on the situation and how mature each of you are (if you are asking about yourself). At 14, you are either in 8th grade or a freshman in high school, right? Well in that case, I would say that if you are in 8th grade, its probably not such a good idea. But if you are in high school and so is he (I'm just guessing that he is the older one, if not, then just switch all the he/she's around in this answer), then it can work. There are some things you should keep in mind, however:
Make sure you dont let the guy define who you are. At 14, you still have a lot to learn about yourself and who you want to become. Don't let the guy make these decisions for you. Stay true to yourself, and do what you want to do.
Make sure he isn't just trying to use you. I'm not saying that all people who date younger than them are trying to do this- I have seen people in similar situations have really good relationships- but a lot of times, guys may look for a younger girl who they assume will be more naive and easy manipulated. Just don't do anything that you don't feel comfortable with. Try and ask yourself, "Would I do this with a guy my age? Do I feel like I have to do this just because he is older?"
Be sure you spend a lot of time with your friends. If you end up breaking up, you will want your friends there to help you with it, and they will be more likely to be there for you if you didnt completely abandon them for your boyfriend.
Basically, I think its fine as long as you are careful and don't go into it thinking it will all be perfect. A guy friend of mine is 23 and has been with his girlfriend since he was a high school senior and she was a freshmen. (I'm sure they had to have broken some laws somewhere along the way but...) He is a wonderful guy and they both truly love each other. Keep in mind, though, that is probably not the norm for this situation. Don't expect that to be what happens for you. Also, I never dated someone younger/older than me, so I don't know the laws on it- you may want to check those out! :-) Good luck, and stay true to yourself!
2007-10-30 09:36:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone less than 17-18 years of age should not be allowed to date at all. There are too many legal issues, there are maturity issues and issues relating to sexual education so far as the ramifications of sexual promiscuity. Teens need to realize that there is a lot more than being mooney-eyed over somone and living in a dream world - all of this in the hands of immature young people have turned our world into an era in which Grandparents are raising their Grandkids because the "Mom" or "Dad" can't get everything together to do the parenting. I vote a resounding NO to early dating. I may be in the minority, but I am right in my assessment of our current situation. A typical young person today has a lot of temptation out there to cloud his/her vision of their life goals. Many young people have no goals at all. Please don't date - my Grandmother told me one time -"If you date someone, please be willing to marry them" That sure made me analyze who I went with, and I thank God for giving me a family who cared enough for me to make sure I was ready before I dated. Good luck, but please be patient about dating - don't fall in the same trap as a lot of our other young people.
2007-10-30 09:17:55 · answer #4 · answered by Doug R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jail bait.unplanned pregnancy.abortion.unwed mother living on welfare never graduating high school ,living off handouts for life.abused ,neglected unwanted child.not a good idea the 17 year old is a real loser if he cannot find a girlfriend of a more appropriate age.a real bad idea!! the 14 year old is really too young to date any one of any age!she or he should be focused on school,family ,church-- not dating!!! good luck and remember sex can wait and should wait till after marriage,then no illegitimate babies have to suffer!good luck!
2007-10-30 09:06:28 · answer #5 · answered by dixie58 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like potential jail time to me! 14 year olds are under the age of consent, so if they intend on having a sexual relationship, they need to rethink that.
Also, that's a pretty wide age gap at those ages: you have one just becoming a teenager, just entering highschool, while one is just becoming an adult and thinking of college or going out on their own. Not good at all.
2007-10-30 09:03:49 · answer #6 · answered by bainaashanti 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
14 being to young 17 experienced and to old for 14
2007-10-30 09:01:55 · answer #7 · answered by princessmesha1 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
14 is too young for one-on-one dating...a 16 and 17 yr old is fine.
2007-10-30 09:00:16 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
i think it is fine! i am 14 nearly 15 and my opinion is ya it sounds bad wen u go o im goin out wit a 5th yer 6th yer wateva! but if u aint gonna sleep with him nd u no he is fine not just using u its ok! its not like ur goin 2 marry him ur onli 14 u have time 2 play bout nd find da right guy if u dnt date himu will neva no if he cud b da1 (but its ighly unlikey). me moto in follow ur heart nd u cant go rong **** rumours!!! hope dat helps xxx
2007-10-30 09:02:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
one of my friends went out with a junior. bad idea. he was a stoner and when she broke up with him he got all messed up bad idea in my opinion
2007-11-01 08:07:11 · answer #10 · answered by delta40fixer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋