My girlfriend of a year broke up with me a month ago because we were arguing over stupid little things. We stayed friends and she told me she needed time to think if she wanted to get back with me. Of course being friends after a break up caused arguments of jealousy. I decided to stay faithful to her and not do anything with anyone because she was still making a decision. She then told me we needed to both move on to other people. And still we talked at least once a day and we are getting along. So, yesterday I told her to either take a risk and start the relationship back up or I would cut off all contact with her because I was being hurt by talking to her as a friend and knowing she could hook up with some guy or something. She chose me and said she wants to start off slow and work things out but we are a couple again. Now I don't feel like a couple because she cant say I love you yet or talk about certain things and I want to hear those words from her and I dont know wat to do
2007-10-30 08:33:11 · 10 answers · asked by dj51234 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you forced the relationship on her...what did you expect? everything to be okay? i am not surprised that she is acting this way, and i wouldn't be surprised if the relationship goes down hill from here. she wants to go slow, let her go slow. you got what you wanted, now let her do her thing.
2007-10-30 08:38:11 · answer #1 · answered by king_tots 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to think why do people "take breaks"? If they love each other then they should work to stay together. But then I was put in this situation where me and my boyfriend took a break. At the time I hated the idea of it. But now we are back together and have been together for almost 5 years. When I look back, the break was the best thing that ever happened to us, it made us stronger. I am now a big believer in if you love something let it go, if it comes back to you it was meant to be. Give it some time. You guys obviously have a connection if you are willing to try it again.
2007-10-30 15:41:43 · answer #2 · answered by JoJo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
End it. She's not that into you. You know if you are right for someone or not. It sounds to me like she just was lonely being on her own that she has low self esteem and needs your there to boost how she feels about herself. The reason I say that is because throughout the time that she needed this break she was talking to you every day. That is silly. I guarantee she will leave you again as soon as someone else comes along and gives her the attention she is seeking. If you have already dated her she should know if she loves you or not. Love shouldn't be a struggle in he early stages. You dont owe her anything your not married.
2007-10-30 15:39:56 · answer #3 · answered by Violet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals all wounds, darlin'. It will get better. I'm going thru a similar situation now. I suppose my man may feel some of the feelings you are going thru right now. If it's meant to be, it will be. All things will work out in the end. Good Luck!
2007-10-30 15:36:37 · answer #4 · answered by Emily D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she wont say i love you back or talk about certain things I personally dont believe she wanted to get back with you. she wants to ba able to have other guys as boyfriends and if one of them dont work out your their as "her friend" to pick up the peices. i am going thru the same with my ex. but he doesnt call him self my boyfriend. but what ever he needs he comes to me for, and then goes out to hang out with other girls and stuff. its a game! dont be fooled by it and dont play into it. put your foot down and if and when you break up. dont call her dont talk to her, nothing. and i bet that when something or someone doesnt go her way, you will be the first to call and it will start all over again. its a vicious circle that only you yourself have the power to stop.
2007-10-30 15:40:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh.....well, i think that if u really love her, than u should try and get your relationship back on track. if you're feeling too awkward, i think u should end it with her. i'm sorry, but don't waste good time feeling weird and uncomfortable when u could try and meet someone else. just try for some more time, but if it's too hard, just break up with her.
2007-10-30 15:38:57 · answer #6 · answered by ♦♣Black Jack Queen♥♠ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ex's should stay ex's and all contacts should be cut off. i know it won't work out.... you guys broke up for a reason. you should have just moved on instead of giving her an ultimatum... why did you have to be faithful to her? she broke up with you...
2007-10-30 15:37:55 · answer #7 · answered by Tano A 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't trust girls who are strong enough to break a relationship, this will happen agian. When it happens agian remember my words and email me.
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2007-10-30 15:40:21 · answer #8 · answered by Mahmoud Basha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, trust me on this. GET AWAY FROM HER. She is going to break your heart.
2007-10-30 15:35:55 · answer #9 · answered by Avatar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont push her if u want to keep her!!!
2007-10-30 15:36:25 · answer #10 · answered by bearebelchick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋