We were talking marriage the other night and he mentioned that he does not want a wedding band. He would like one for the symbol of marriage, but nothing expensive and he would not wear it most of the time. I know him all too well and he would lose it or damage it from working.
But is it strange that he wants a tattoo of my name in a band on his finger instead?
I like the idea, but wanted more opinions on this one.
2007-10-30 08:32:09 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Not everyone where's a wedding ring, but it's good that he would substitute it by getting your name tattooed on his finger. Personally i think that shows more committment. He can take aa wedding band off but not a tattoo. I like the idea. It's cute
2007-10-30 08:38:00 · answer #1 · answered by forever yours 2 · 8⤊ 3⤋
Please, excuse the shortness of my answer, I usually go longer, but I'm short on time. No, your not being sensitive about it. but you "could" be more open to it. It's possible he wears the ring as a reminder of what went wrong with his last relationship. He could be wearing the ring not as a reminder of his first wife, but as a testament to his love for you. Perhaps, he's trying to make sure that, you're the one, and he's not going to lose you, he's not going to let you go, and he won't make the same mistake twice. Sure, it's common knowledge to assume that not everything is about you, but when love's involved, it's okay to be a little self-centered, after all, he's world does revolve around you. Love defies common sense, but hey sometimes we're (as in guys) stupid when it comes to the opposite sex. Trust me when I say, that a guy never does something to make the woman he cares about angry, on purpose. We're just dumbasses. Yes, maybe he could of just told you he's wearing the ring, because he loves you, and there's no other reason for it. But that would be the easy way, and no self-respecting man will ever do things, the: A) Easy way, or B) The Smart Way I hoped this helped, good luck And remember, don't let a wrong reaction ruin good chemestry. (Personal favorite quote, feel free to throw it around, remember it copyrighted though!) ~B
2016-05-26 02:54:57 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your boyfriend are comfortable with the idea of him not wearing a band all the time, then its no big deal. Marriage is more than a ring on your finger, or for that matter a tattoo.
2007-10-30 08:58:01 · answer #3 · answered by GreeneyedCowgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many occupations that make wearing a ring hazardous and some employers simply do not allow rings for that very reason. If your guy feels a ring may get lost and yet he has volunteered to have a ring tatooed onto his finger - WOW! What are you worrying about. This guy knows the meaning of the word "Commitment".
2007-10-30 08:43:39 · answer #4 · answered by Wifeforlife 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As long as he's willing to wear something that says he's hitched, that's great. Lots of jobs don't allow the men to wear their rings anyway, because of safety issues.
He could get the tattoo and also have a less expensive band to wear on special occasions (holidays, when dressed up, etc.)
2007-10-30 08:42:10 · answer #5 · answered by monicanena 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The tattoo idea is highly strange, but I don't see anything wrong with not wanting to wear a ring - my husband doesn't wear his, and my parents don't always wear theirs (rings get in the way sometimes). A lot of people's line of work does not allow for wearing jewelry, and some people simply don't feel comfortable with a ring on their finger.
I would not want my husband getting a tattoo, is all I can say. Really low class.
2007-10-30 08:56:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
If he wants to and you don't mind I say go for it. It's going to be really painful though since there are all those bones in your hand. Keep in mind as well that some people still see tattoos as a negative so it would need to be thin enough to cover with a ring when needed.
Personally, I refuse to let my fiancee get my name tattooed on him. It's not a commitment thing but I just think name tattoos are for trailer parks and bikers. We are neither.
Instead I designed one for him. But, if you are not really artistic perhaps pick out a design together that relects back to some aspect of your personality.
2007-10-30 11:25:07 · answer #7 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
The tatoo ring is a good idea. My friend did this. He said it's a constant reminder and means more than any ring would because it's on him for good. A ring can be lost, stolen, damaged, etc......not to mention that it can be taken off any time if he pleases. There's no hiding a wedding band tatoo unless he wears the ring over it.
2007-10-30 08:50:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
My Fiance is not much a jewelry person, he is getting a ring,(not an expensive one).
If your hubby wants to get a tattoo, so be it. It is still symbolizing the same thing.
2007-10-30 09:05:14 · answer #9 · answered by Gotta luv it! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, I guess if he's a Laborer or something that might be OK. If he ever aspires to any kind of office job, something like that can be pretty limiting.
I personally only wear my wedding ring about 50% of the time. Its not out of a lack of commitment, but like you said, Im not going to wear it when Im lifting or doing hard manual labor where it might be damaged. But I do wear it when Im going out or at work or something like that. I dont think its unusual anymore to be like that for guys.
2007-10-30 08:41:32 · answer #10 · answered by bmwdriver11 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband doesn't wear his ring and neither does my dad or brother - due to thier line of work...
I like the idea of the tattoo band, but its so Tommy Lee and Pam Anderson though.
2007-10-30 08:41:13 · answer #11 · answered by SisterSue 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋