i am married a good guy since few years but had a very sex life. ia m early thirties and quite attractive. Did everything to improve relationship with him, but did not work out. Problem is that his sexual requirements are very less and that too he is really bad. he jsut does not know how to do it well. I had a wonderful child with him and now kind of compromised wiht the situation of not wantting it and finding happiness in family and other things. But I never had a good sex life with someone I love. My hubby is a good person otherwise. Now there is this nother man who is making move towards me to sleep with me. Should i go ahead? he is everythng what my husband is not. So far i am avoiding this other guy and trying to behave. I dont want to spoil the family i have, but about the life I have missed. What do you guys suggest? Women out there I am sure you understand my situation here. I hope you guys won;t be judgemental...
2007-10-30 08:30:51 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't feel bad, unfortunately this is something that happens a lot to husbands and wives. Do you love your husband??? Really??? Do you love your family?? You know, a night or a few hours even of passion isn't worth losing what you have. If your husband is faithful to you, then he deserves the same from you. So, here are some suggestions:
For helping with your sex life with him:
1. try taking a vacation. do something exciting just the two of you. go to Las Vegas, sky diving, something to get the adrenaline going. could be a weekend or just for one day. but do something together to get reconnected.
2. have a romantic dinner. send the kids to the grandparents house and have a night-in just you two. candles, table for two... see where that leads but take the whole night to take things slow
3. watch a scary movie together. you get all 'scared' and hug him and make him feel like the protector. watch it in the dark when the kids are asleep.
4. play a game. one where you blind fold each other and explore one another's likes and dislikes
you two have probably just lost sense of one another. he probably needs to remember that you're not just a mommy, you're a woman. get reconnected with him, please don't give up. if it's just intimate problems then this is something so fixable. don't give in to temptation because remember that curiosity killed the cat.
2007-10-30 08:56:12 · answer #1 · answered by #2 on the way! due 12/28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want sex or a marriage? Don't forget if your husband dumps you child custody is no longer automatic for mothers so you might lose your kid as well as your husband. All life is about choices and choices often involve saying no to something at the same time as saying yes to something else.
BTW have you thought the guy making the move knows you're married, sees you're unhappy, figures he'll get some on the side with no obligation and when he's tired of you he'll move on to the next restless housewife?
2007-10-30 15:40:15 · answer #2 · answered by chessale 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
OK. It's kind of hard to follow your story, but I'm wondering how you know that this guy is "everything your husband is not"? Is the sex worth destroying your family? If this guy is trying to sleep with you and he knows you're married, that says that he'll only be a sex partner to you because he does not respect the union of marriage. Does your husband know that you think his sex is bad? Have you tried to teach him what you like? It's your decision, but make sure you're willing to give up what you have for a fling.
2007-10-30 15:40:47 · answer #3 · answered by Redbutter 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What you are asking is if you should cheat on your husband. Call it what it is: cheating. If your love life with your husband is not satisfying for you, then talk to him (your husband) about it. I'm sure if he knew what to do differently for you, he would do it. You are talking about possibly ruining your relationship with your husband and your child over sex. If your husband is as good a man as you say he is, why in the hell would you want to lose him over having a cheap affair with someone you claim is everything your husband is not. Well, that includes a person willing to sleep with another man's wife. Is that what you want? Good God you are selfish! Wake up. The world has enough people who are willing to take and take and take without thinking anything of who they may be hurting. Don't be included in that count.
2007-10-30 15:40:43 · answer #4 · answered by Maggie May 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is this a human being asking the question. Why dont you just stick a dildo up ur butt and walk around all day and get pleasure. If you married a nice guy bu thave bad sex, you can both work on it or take classes. But yeah you prefer a guy that does not love you that will skiz in your face everytime and probably only use you for sex. Well Rabbit Woman go procreate
2007-10-30 15:49:03 · answer #5 · answered by velvetsmartguy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do not agree that you are a bad person. The marriage is lacking and therefore you peep over teh parapit. Thing is there is nothing straight forward or soothing about having an afair. It will solve nothing in the long term and more than likely end up a mess. If you are so unhappy in the marriage.....then be honest and move out.
2007-10-30 15:38:06 · answer #6 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk about this with your husband about how you feel and stay away from this other person. You made a vow to your husband. You have a family. The reason that you need to tell your husband is so that he can see your needs and the two of you to work on your issues.
2007-10-30 15:48:32 · answer #7 · answered by Violet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you said you dont want to spoil your family...if you cheat on your husband (the man you promised to be faithful to in good times and in bad) you are doing the exact thing you said you DON'T want to do...instead of looking outside your marriage to feel sexual satisfaction sit down with your husband and talk about how you feel. perhaps there is something that can be done to improve the quality of sex in your marriage. if he doesnt do it well he can learn...get tips off the internet or watch a porno together and get some ideas. who's to say this new dude will be able to satisfy you?
2007-10-30 15:42:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
my suggestion.... honestly is 2 break ur man's heart... tell him how u feel about him... "not doing a great job"... maybe u guys could work things out... try 2 improve ur sexual relationship with him... if nothing he does works out 4 u... then i don't know if there's counseling for that.. but i'd suggest u 2 go 2 seek profesional help... and for the last resource.. i d suggest u 2 try 2 get him into doing a 3some.. he might learn a few things from another guy....gud luck
2007-10-30 15:38:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
It might cause a great ruin to your family. Be ready to face the consequences of extra-marital affairs. Communication is a basic ingredient, seek professional help.It's your life, it's your family. Be wise. Good luck!!
2007-10-30 15:40:49 · answer #10 · answered by Jay U 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋