Hey...
so... I've decided that monogamy was not designed for me. Its not designed for most people honestly. So, instead of trying to fit a mold, I'm seeking a relationship where I can be with one person for all the relationship stuff, movies, food, venting, and sex... but still have escapades with others in the bedroom... Do you think this sort of arrangement would work? If so, any suggestions? ((PS MONOGAMY IS NOT THE ANSWER IM LOOKING FOR))
2007-10-30 08:30:32 · 9 answers · asked by Katie Kitty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think there are very few people who have the emotional capacity to handle this sort of relationship. Jealousy is tough. And still believing in your long term partner is, too, because you get to be with all these fun, exciting people, which don't show you all their faults... you start comparing them to your long-term, and maybe they're better? So then you "upgrade," and lose all sort of emotional connection you have...
see the problem? I've not tried these types of relationships, but I think that's why they're problematic.
2007-10-30 08:38:01 · answer #1 · answered by Perdendosi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right that humans aren't naturally wired for monogamy, but have had it pushed on them since the Church decided they needed to be able to track paternity of children.
Yes, some people are okay with open relationships (dating and sex with others) or swinging relationships (typically dating and sex with others, as a couple). Although as you are aware, that's not the norm so finding people who are open to those things is more challenging.
2007-10-30 08:39:29 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a swinger and you need to find someone else who has that same interest. I have heard of some couples who totally get into the whole swinging lifestyle - i am not one of them - but to each his own. GOOD LUCK and for Gods sake use protection.
ps try adultfriendfinder.com
2007-10-30 08:36:32 · answer #3 · answered by livelongandprosper2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It works for many, whether swinger or polyamorous or simply having an open relationship. The trick is a) finding that balance for yourself, and b) finding someone else that thinks the same as you.
2007-10-31 11:13:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The relationship is about two people. 50% of the success rate of your decision is based on your other. If he is not ok with this behavior then it won't work. However, if he is (and not just saying he is to make you happy), then it should be ok.
2007-10-30 08:35:32 · answer #5 · answered by Kyoko 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It might work while you are single...key word meaning "might".
You really don't sound like you are ready for a relationship but would be better off dating.
And non monogomy will not work for a marriage. Ever.
2007-10-30 08:38:57 · answer #6 · answered by Charzb 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
As long as everyone envolved is aware of the situation.
2007-10-30 08:49:57 · answer #7 · answered by Violet 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It only works for pigs. Good luck with it.
2007-10-30 09:57:41 · answer #8 · answered by blondfish1 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It works for swingers...
2007-10-30 08:34:37 · answer #9 · answered by ADM™ is back! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋