2007-10-30 08:21:32 · 36 answers · asked by lexie 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
well im asking b/c my friend has a habit of using it to avoid a PARTICULAR person, and i'm wondering is it wrong if i do it too?....
2007-10-30 08:29:14 · update #1
thanks double you tee ef! love the netiquette guide!
2007-10-30 08:32:43 · update #2
NO, I think it's a great option to have.
2007-10-30 08:23:58 · answer #1 · answered by Rossonero NorCal SFECU 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
The feature is there so you have the option to use it. But if you are not comfortable, don't. I totally get where u r coming from.
My theory is that if you don't want to use IM, don't even log on. But if you are logging on to talk to just one person, in that case, if you dont mind being honest and taking a few seconds to tell the friend you are busy and if u can talk another time? Most people will understand. The sensitive folks might get sensitive, but that's the price u pay sometimes.
Personally, if I know someone is offline and talking to me, I don't find it very comfortable.....I might feel that at other times, I dont even know if the person is online or not. I rather get "hey can we talk another time, am in the middle of something", than be lead to believe the person is offline, when they are actually online.
Just my view.
2007-10-30 10:07:46 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no - it is called boundaries. Sometimes I am working and I will appear offline to some in order to avoid getting into idle or distracting conversation- other times, If I am going to be online for only a short while, I don't mind chatting so much but I will appear offline to those who have trouble with "I have to go" and might get offended if I just close and and cannot talk. Then there are other times when I am not in the mood to talk to certain people - it is not wrong to have and maintain your boundaries, as long as you are not behaving in an outright rude and insulting manner
2007-10-30 08:28:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it kind of depends.........
If you have lead that person to believe something that maybe is not true, it is probably morally wrong to just avoid them, it is better to have "the talk" and let them know why you are inaccesible.
If on the other hand someone is sorta cyber-stalking you you would probably be better served to ignore them.
If you just generally are busy or only feel like talking to a certain friend or friends, there is absolutely nothing wrong at all with just coming on with an offline status and going about your business.
2007-10-30 08:30:01 · answer #4 · answered by aural_exstacy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do that sometimes and I do not feel guilty about it. One has always the right to be by oneself in ones personal space. From time to time we need to get away from outside intervention for many reasons, like: self-regeneration, etc.... But, if we do that to avoid a responsibility, then that is really wrong; this is something that can make us feel guilty.
2007-10-30 08:47:16 · answer #5 · answered by Gentle Breeze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. These days, if you can't get online without someone bothering you with an IM, the best thing to do is to appear offline so they won't be offended when you don't answer.
2007-10-30 08:25:55 · answer #6 · answered by Kimmy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, absolutely not. Sometimes you're busy or you don't like to talk to particular people. It's like not answering the phone when you have caller ID and don't want to talk to a salesman or a bad date or a political fund raiser person.
2007-10-30 08:26:28 · answer #7 · answered by gwen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. I do that from time to time if I am involved in something and don't want to be bothered. It's the equivalent of an answering machine. C'mon, aren't there times you let the machine get it because you are in the middle of something? It's the same thing.
2007-10-30 08:25:15 · answer #8 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do it all the time
2007-10-30 08:28:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you feel guilty for using the IM for your benefit. You're not obligated to hang out there waiting to chit-chat with everyone who drifts by. You can if you want. Your choice. Good luck.
2007-10-30 08:25:50 · answer #10 · answered by nitr0bike 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No
i do it all the time.
2007-10-30 08:24:25 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋