So, I've taken this girl to a football game , a movie, eaten lunch alone with her at school, homecoming, and I'm going to a movie/concert with her soon. I like her a lot and I kind of want to take the relationship toward a more boyfriend/girlfriend thing and I think a kiss would definitely seal the deal.
So I was wondering what is the best way to initiate a kiss with her and when?
It will be my first kiss, and her first kiss as well (as far as I know)...I dunno the best way to do it, so I'm asking help from all the ladies here that have some experience, or the best way to kiss her.
We are both 17, and neither of us have really gone out with anyone else, so its always kind of weird, and holding hands is as far as I have gotten with her to this point, so any help would be good!
2007-10-30 08:16:58 · 25 answers · asked by Confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its always SO AWKWARD at her doorstep, she just stares at me, and I am always too nervous to try and kiss her, so I always end up giving her a hug!
2007-10-30 08:29:22 · update #1
Oh and this is our probably third or second "official" date, so, and ya...its going to be at night after a movie, It would be too awkward during the day.
2007-10-30 08:31:21 · update #2
My first...
We were in the driveway of his house and we went to do our "goodnight hug" and after we hugged, he simply said, "kiss tonight?" with a big smile...
it doesn't matter, it'll be nice no matter what
good luck!
2007-10-30 08:20:05 · answer #1 · answered by JitterBug589 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's great that you're taking this slowly. At the end of the date, walk her to her front door. Stand really close, face-to-face, with one of her hands in each of yours. Look into her eyes and gradually lean down toward her face. Keep your eyes open for a couple of seconds and give a slight hesitation--just in case she pulls back. If she welcomes your advances, she'll appreciate your gentle way of moving in closer to her and will gladly accept, enjoy and be thrilled by such a tender, thoughtful first kiss.
If you're not such a romantic, you can do it another way. Take and hold her hand as you help her out of the car. Hold her hand as you walk through the parking lot and up to the theater, chit-chatting all the way. Just after you get seated, turn to her and look her squarely in the eye. Put you arm around the back of her seat and firmly, but politely say, "There's something that I've been wanting to tell you." Immediately after she says "What?" plant a big kiss on her. (Nothing big and sloppy that will mess up her make-up!) As soon as the kiss ends, lean back a little and say matter-of-factly, "Now, can I get you some popcorn or a soda before the movie starts?"
She will be taken aback, but for good reasons and she won't be able to focus on the movie or concert for a least half an hour. In the meantime, enjoy sitting there with your arm around her. If she rests her head on your shoulder or angles her body towards yours during the show, that's a positive reaction. When the date ends, it should be a lot less awkward going in for a good night kiss. She'll be expecting it and, hopefully, initiate it herself!
2007-10-30 08:22:52 · answer #2 · answered by DJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the vibe I get. I haven't had a first date in a long time. I'm pretty sure I did kiss him on the first date but it didn't go any further. Now that I'm older, wiser and would be more desperate if there were someone to go on a first date with, I would probably go all the way.
2016-04-11 03:14:39 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as a classic, id say a goodnight kiss....
see if it was any earlier you'd still have the rest of the day...which can mean you both act ackward for the rest of the date.
a goodnight kiss lets her sort out what she might be feeling. she might even tell you right then an there after the kiss.
MOST importantly DONT think about it too much, dont be nervous...CONFIDENCE! if you feel it, just kiss her....short, soft but meanigfull kiss should do the tick ;)
2007-10-30 08:27:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you saying that you don't know how to kiss? Just take your friend in your arms and kiss her on the lips. I'm sure you've kissed your mom before, kissing is kissing. If she objects, then she does not like you that way.
2007-10-30 08:21:50 · answer #5 · answered by darkdiva 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll know the time when a kiss is right. in preparation for a kiss, you approach, only half way. if she wants the same thing, she will meet you the other half. if not, it won't happen. be patient.
love is not to be toyed with, especially at your age. many lives start off with a meaningful kiss and if it's not meant for you, don't force it.
2007-10-30 08:25:48 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT ASK. Feel for the right moment. Look into her eyes and give her a small kiss on the lips.
2007-10-30 08:24:33 · answer #7 · answered by mingblack 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start with your hand on her cheek then lean in and kiss her cheek. If she turns her lips towards your lips then finish the kiss. I loved my first kiss!!!!!! You can always look her in the eyes and just tell her you want to kiss her.
2007-10-30 08:21:04 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is soo sweet♥this kinda reminds me of me & my boyfriend starting dating i was 16 & he was 17. he was my first kiss, too. anyways, it's obvious she wants as much as you do & she probably expects you to go for it. so, i say get her some alone somewhere & say something really sweet to get her attention & then kiss her....that's how my boyfriend did & we've been together for 2 1/2 years now♥ hope it helps!!!
2007-10-30 08:25:52 · answer #9 · answered by xallison07x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
walk her to her house, then give her a soft(but longer than normal) kiss on the lips good bye, this leave you a chance to leave before things become awkward, if everthing is fine the next day, you have a chance
2007-10-30 08:22:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋