My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. We have only had 2 major break-ups in our entire relationship. Our first break-up, he left me because he had met another female and was also influenced by his stupid low live friends. We were broken up for about 4 months. We got back together and I thought everything was gonna be ok until we started working in the same airport. I met a guy there and thats when the 2nd break-up occured. I really liked this guy but I feel like I also did it to get back at my bf cuz he had caused me a tremendous hurt. Anyway, we were broken up for about 5 months. Again we got back together and now all we do is argue every single day. I feel so bad because I knw that he tries to make me happy but I honestly don't know why I'm always mad at him. I don't like him hanging out with his friends because they are bad influences and I don't like him talking to girls as well. I get really angry and I even hit him at times. Im very angry and I cry sooo much! HELP!!!
2007-10-30 07:24:39 · 20 answers · asked by Aries 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dump him and move on.
2007-10-30 07:27:03 · answer #1 · answered by scary mary 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I think part of my you are so angry is because you haven't had closier with that has happened between you and your boyfriend. Have you and him ever say down and seriously talked about the things that have happened, or do you let them go and hope for a better day?
It's very hard to trust once it's been broken. What I can suggest to you is to talk to your boyfriend, and if you both truly love one another, then either talk to your pastor, or seek relationship guidance from someone other than your family or friends.
If you do not have the same feelings for him, and think that you may not be in love, then you need to ask yourself what it is that you are holding onto. Are you afraid to be alone? Its not healthy to fight everyday. It affects everyone around you, besides you and him. While you can't tell him to stop talking to females, as you wouldn't want him telling you to stop talking to guys, you can introduce each other to the opposite sex as your BF/GF. Its human to flirt and talk to the opposite sex, but when one takes it to the extreme is when there is a problem.
My fiance and I went through a similar situation not that long ago. Occassionally we fight and the past gets brought up, but we talk about it and get our feelings off our chest, which makes us understand each other more. We both work and have to talk to the opposite sex. Sometimes its makes us nervous, but alot of times it can be helpful because we learn about the opposite sex and what they want in a relationship, or why they act the way they do. We have few friends that we hang out with, because most of our friends are single and have no cares in the world for anything. I have a child from a previous relationship and we are currently expecting a child of our own, and are planning a wedding for the fall next year. Our friends would like us to go out and party, but we both know nothing good would come out of it, so we spend more time with our child and as a couple. If our friends do not understand then thats there problem.
Everything will work out for you. Communication is the most important thing in a relationship, and if you have great communication then you can learn to trust again. Good luck!
2007-10-30 07:36:50 · answer #2 · answered by xoangeleyes23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being in a relationship takes a lot of work, and sometimes it's worth it. I always say when I break up with someone that I will never go back, and for the most part I follow that rule. My opinion is to step back from the situation and decide is all the pain really worth the work? I am not sure how old you are but you don't need to waste your life being miserable at any age. If I were in this situation I would definitely move on and make myself realize that I deserve to be happy. Good Luck!!
2007-10-30 07:30:03 · answer #3 · answered by Sara S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aris, the issue of trust first come from ourselves because trust in ourselves has to be there before we can learn to trust others. You sound like you to have had the differences because you don't like his friends. Don't like the fact he cheated and because you might be actually looking for someone else in life. Hitting him physical will not solve your problems and can lead you to going to jail if the right person reports the incident especially his friends or himself. I wouldn't say end the relationship but maybe look for relationship help through counseling for both of yourselves. Discussing your problem with licensed professionals can work wonders. If the situation doesn't correct itself get out before the problems worsen. Emotional strain on yourself can be bad.
2007-10-30 07:35:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't trust men period.... The only time you can trust us is the first time, if we mess up, than that's it for life. You're in a love/hate relationship. Both of you are already comfortable with each other, this might go on for a couple of more years. Unless you meet somebody better than him, who will treat you with respect, love you for who you are, do the things you want to do without question, and love you better than your current bf. Basically, find somebody who's gonna make you forget about him...
2007-10-30 07:31:14 · answer #5 · answered by Pharm tech 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing is to have a permanent break-up.
The first time he cheated,
should have been the last time.
You will never be able to completely trust him again
and his behavior doesn't seem to give you any reason
to trust him if he's flirting with other women.
It's time to start fresh baby!
Dump him once and for all!
You deserve a guy who you can trust.
2007-10-30 07:30:15 · answer #6 · answered by andybosik 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im going through same with my bf of 4 years. well we have just split up 2 weeks ago!
i hate him hanging around with his friends as they are bad influences, and i hate my bf talking to girls.and we use to split up alot.
I thought to myself ive wasted enough years being unhappy with him, maybe you should have some time to urself?
see what you really want. You might meet someone else?
i dont think it ever works a second time with the same person.
xx
2007-10-30 07:31:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What u need to do is sit him down and talk to him tell him why u r always argueing and how u feel and why u feel that way, tell him if ur still hurting from what he.U guys have to talk and work out ur unresloved issues.
2007-10-30 07:33:47 · answer #8 · answered by sexy_lily2709@yahoo.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't even a trust issue. That is like calling the Titanic a rowboat leak.
I hope you don't have any children with him. And I hope you won't get pregnant before the final breakup.
2007-10-30 08:03:14 · answer #9 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With that past, and your current feelings, it might be a very good possibility to just break up. If you can't trust someone, you shouldn't be building up your relationship together.
2007-10-30 07:29:50 · answer #10 · answered by mathman7 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go to a counseler or something. and if that doesn't work then maybe you two should break up. i mean it's not lyk he's the only guy in the world. you may find someone better. be careful if you have trust issues though, those are pretty bad, been through them myself, sux but i got over it. i left him and now i have someone else i'd die for.
2007-10-30 07:28:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋