Why do older men date younger women? How much can they really have in common?

Answer 1

I have dated a man who is significantly older than I am. We have more in common than I have with men my own age. Most men my age do not think as conservatively as I do. When asked about our relationship, I respond that they didn't make a man like him in my generation (at least, not that I have met). We have common interests in history, in Christianity, in medicine, in the military, in people, in culture-watching, in education, and in our musical tastes. We are both readers. We think alike. We are both continuously surprised to discover the wide variety of subjects on which we agree. We never run out of things to discuss. He is the most fascinating person I have ever known. I wouldn't trade my relationship with him for anything. People tell me that my face lights up when I talk about him, and others have told me that he brightens when I walk into the room -- and that he is like a different person when I am with him. We have a mutual respect that I have never found with anyone else, either. I am always pleasantly surprised when people tell me how he builds me up to others. He recently introduced me to a friend that I hadn't met, saying, "This lady has had a profound influence on my life." His friend responded, "I can see that." With my best interests at heart, he released me to see younger men if I wanted to, but there is no one I would rather spend time with than him. I guess we really belong together. We are both single, and this is not a covert relationship. Both of our families are supportive. It is probable that he will die before I do, and I cannot imagine my life without him. I suppose I would consider dating after a while, but I cannot foresee meeting anyone that I would have as much in common with, that I would love as deeply, or that I could respect so thoroughly. I have been blessed to have him in my life.

Answer 2

Generally SECURITY for the girl and perhaps she is looking for a father figure as well. For the man it's to prove that he is still virile and still has "it". Even though in the back of his mind he knows it's about the security and probably NOT because the woman is attracted to HIM! It's unfortunate really because it doesn't usually last. They DON'T have a lot in common. Especially the larger the age gap. There is also more of the control issue for the man. A younger woman may not have had the life experience and could allow herself to be dominated which is SO WRONG! By the way. This issue is growing in the opposite direction as more and more women are looking for younger men for the same reasons.

Answer 3

Well, I've been dating a man for 3 years now and he's 20 years and 8 months older than I am (I'm just 24) and the SEX is great, I just don't get enough because he's so busy BUT when we come together it's GREAT and our relationship couldn't be any better. The reason why they date younger women is because they are willing to please their mate and have the potential to change or mold to his ideas/likes. With older women they know what they want and are less willing to conform to the other persons needs. What I have in common with my man is that I am willing to help him and just have fun. Younger women tend to unleash the kid in the man are much more fun in bed and out.

Answer 4

Well women mature WAY faster then men so a 20 year older girl doesn't want to date a 20 year old guy most of the time. I think they have a lot in common. Girls are usually ready to settle down in there 20's whereas men usually wait till their 30's. Make sense?

Answer 5

well the older men with younger women thing is obvious - sexual. But the younger man/older woman is more about relationship. Younger men appreciate an older woman's refined personality and experience and when a younger man is attracted to an older woman it is more relational. They actually LISTEN to them. But ya - men mostly function below the waist anyway.

Answer 6

On biological standpoint older men are attracted to younger women because the chief goal of any species is to reproduce and thus survive. Older men, who are still able to reproduce are attracted to women who have the ability to have the largest number of children. This leads to men being attracted to women who look young and healthy.
I think this attraction is the largest reason for men being with younger women.
From a biological standpoint women are attracted to men who can protect and provide stability. In todays context this means men who have means, which means that older men who are better established are attractive to younger women.

Answer 7

Im gonna guess your talking about Old old men... and somewhat young women.... Guys date younger woman to make them selves feel younger ... If they can keep up with a younger girl in bed it helps their ego!. And majority of the time a woman dates an older man . She has him ONe foot in the grave the other on the banana peel! I aint sayin shes a gold digger ...... But she aint messing wtih no Broke N****! Shes just lookin for a wuick way to get a good chunk of change.. LOve is Hardly ever the Deal!

Answer 8

Well i am 51, my girl is 25 and we get along great,really great. She tells me i am the first guy she truly feels comfortable around. We were friends first,then it went further. She tells me younger guys don't know how to act or treat a woman. That does'nt surprise me nowadays. I mean, look at the culture nowadays. I always say "old school still works", well it works for me. By the way I am not loaded with cash and not extremely good looking,average at best. As far as the sex thing SHE made the first move,second move,all the moves!! And she is cute as hell. I still have to pinch myself to make sure I am not dreaming. So Lori and girls, unless the guy is really,really old, check us out and you won't regret it.

Answer 9

Well my dad and mom are 11 years apart and have been married since 1964. Obviously they must have alot in common to stay married this long. Now look at the mostly same age marriages these days. 65% divorce rate tells me they dont have much in common. If your a guy in your late thirties early 40's you arent gonna marry a same age woman to have kids are u????????? If you are then expect to adopt .

Answer 10

Older men generally have more money and are more mature, which is what is attractive to women. Younger women are generally more attractive and take better care of themselves, which is what is attractive to men.