i was waiting outside for my ride & my ex- (who i haven't seen in FOUR long years) walked past me & all he did was nod his head, & kept walking. but THEN today our mutual friend "vern" told me that chris wanted vern to give me his number & wanted me to call him. but the thing is he was a HORRIBLE bf. he repeatedly dumped me for other girls & took advantage of the fact i loved him so much. we never had closure 'cuz the THIRD time we broke up he ended up dating someone else and i heard that he got her pregnant (it ended up that it wasn't his) & we had planned on dating a fourth time (thank god we didn't) but the thing that ticks me off is that by the time i figured out what a scum bag he was, he had already left & he still thinks i'm that annoying little 7th grader who stuck around & let him treat me bad. but now i'm a junior & alot has changed, & i want him to see that i'm wiser & confident & mature. should i tell him off when i call? SHOULD i even call ?? i'm curious 2 c wat he wants
2007-10-30 07:05:36 · 16 answers · asked by mnd_hunt 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd not call if I were you. If you really want to show that you're wiser and more confident and mature, isn't the best way to do that is not show that he has any influence on your actions or reactions anymore? I'm guessing he just wants to see if he can lure you in to his web again, and maybe see if he can get some free hooking up from you (free in the sense that he won't have any strings attached to you). If he had evolved into a better man, then he was back then, would he have just nodded and passed you like you weren't there? No, if he had evolved into a better man, he would have stopped, asked how you're doing, and maybe even apologized for his mistreating you years ago. (Although, to be honest, that could also be a ploy to get you to trust him again as well; I know I've played that same game when I was younger)
My advice is, to just ignore him. If you see him, be civil, exchange pleasantries (hi, how are you, things like that) because after all, there's no reason to be rude and nothing to be gained by it. Don't, however, go any further than that like exchange numbers or "hang out in a group" (that's just a set up). You've grown as a person, and part of that growth, I hope, as taught you to not surround yourself with negative people. Just the thought of him, seemingly, brings a negative vibe to you, and that should not be ignored. A goal in life is to be the best you that you can be, and strive for happiness; how could he help you on either of those paths?
2007-10-30 07:15:12 · answer #1 · answered by alwaysremembertwentytwo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show him you are no longer that annoying little 7th grader who stuck around & let him treat you bad by maintaining your degnity. In other words, DON'T call him at all ! Why give this scum bag the time of day? Get on with your life and be happy is the best revenge.
2007-11-01 09:51:40 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are wiser than why would you call at all. He has not changed and you have be proud of that and dont fall into the old trap and that is what it is a trap. You dont have to be curious as to what he wants if you think about it I am sure you can figure it out -so then you have no reason to call at all.
2007-10-30 14:12:33 · answer #3 · answered by livelongandprosper2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are seeing someone, I wouldn't call him at all. If you are single, I would see what's up and get some kind of closure. I don't think he's changed his ways yet. There are other guys out there that know how to treat a lady.
2007-10-30 14:11:56 · answer #4 · answered by Kandylissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't call. You don't need to do anything more. You did your time with the creep. Be confident that you do not need to come running when he whistles or respond to him in anyway. And just to make it easier for you to resist the temptation just imagine how long he will be expecting your call before he finally understands that you AREN'T going to! LOL He will be like a puppy that ran into a wall.... LOL Be strong!!
2007-10-30 14:13:54 · answer #5 · answered by Shannon C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haven't you taken enough from this guy yet? Why are you even curious? You may have changed but he doesn't sound like he has. Doesn't the fact that you're calling him 'low-life' and 'scum' tell you what he really means to you? He shouldn't even exist on your radar.
2007-10-30 14:12:50 · answer #6 · answered by founteterne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He only wants you to call to give himself an ego-boost. He already saw how great you are and wants to try to pull you back into his control-freak world. Don't put yourself through that! It sounds like you've really turned into a great person - don't let him disrespect you again.
2007-10-30 14:14:59 · answer #7 · answered by ktkansas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
better not... since you decided to have nothing to do with him, don't put yourself to risk, he won't have anything good for you. And it really took long time for you to get over him( stil planned on dating after countless dump). You might get soft and he might be better in his sweet talk (you got wiser, he got more evil). So... don contact him
2007-10-30 14:14:05 · answer #8 · answered by lenz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been in your situation, and curosity will prob get the best of you. If you decide to call go with your gut feeling, if he still seems shady he prob is and if that's the case don't give him another chance, he screwed up that opportunity already.
2007-10-30 14:09:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might want to call him to let him know you want nothing to do with him, you dont want to go through that again and you will not give him even a chance at getting another chance. and then hang up. dont call from your phone because he might bother you. and tell him to never to attemt to contact you again. you need to forget about him and go find yourself a good man ie. one that will not sleep and get other women pregnant.
2007-10-30 14:10:48 · answer #10 · answered by Luke N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋