Sometimes after school my brother goes to my cousins house. My mum is not really keen on these particular people and I feel she has reason too, but I stay polite with them. Well today my brother decided to go their house, so I decided to got too for some stupid reason . They were quite pleasant and they gave me food but the girls' conversation was quite inane (clothes, clothes clothes ahhhh!!!). I wanted to leave because I felt guilty my mum was alone at home waiting for me, whilst I was with these people she doesn't like too much. I made my excuses and was about to leave, but my brother (18) told me to stay because my dad could pick me up on the way home from work. I didn't want to do this because I just wanted to get away and I enjoy the walk by myself and I was feeling really guilty by now. But my brother made me give him my phone so he could ring my dad and arrange for him to pick me up in like 30-40 mins, when I could walk home in 15 mins. He was being really bossy. Im 16 btw
2007-10-30 07:01:26 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
He could see I was uncomfortable but he was still being a complete prick. He was even getting angry at me. So I just stayed to be polite and not appear as though I was desparate to get away from my cousins. How should I tell him not to tell me what to do? I hate that I'm not assertive enough. Why isn't he sensitive enough to see that I want to leave? I hate him right now....please tell me what I should say to him...
Sorry this is so long
2007-10-30 07:01:47 · update #1
People!! The walk home is pefectly safe, I've been going down the same road for the past 1 1/2 years. But thanks for your concern anyway.
2007-10-30 07:12:52 · update #2
He didn't force you to stay. You didn't have to say anything to him. You just had to put one foot in front of the other until you were at your house. He controlled you because you let him. Next time, don't let him.
2007-10-30 11:06:26 · answer #1 · answered by julz 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, as you have explained it, you weren't really staying against your will as you went there in the first place. Your brother was right for not having you to walk home alone as he was worried about your safety. Your older brother was just looking out for you as there are a lot of girls like yourself that end up raped or dead or both because they were walking alone in the dark. Don't be foolish, girl.
2007-10-30 07:05:35 · answer #2 · answered by bonstermonster20 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
"Forced" to stay somewhere against your will means you were physically restrained, not pressured by your brother.
You could have walked out the door at any time.
Brothers boss their younger brothers - it happens. Talk to your brother about it and tell him how it made you feel. He might have had a good reason for doing what he did (he might know something about the situation that you don't).
2007-10-30 07:07:49 · answer #3 · answered by Greywolf 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Of course it was wrong for him to do that as long as the walk home would have been completely safe. However, it seems like you didn't communicate that to him. Even if it were wrong though; he's your brother. Get over it, life isn't always fair.
2007-10-30 07:07:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its truly no longer undemanding to be well mannered once you have had sufficient at cases. merely arise and initiate strolling out the place it provides him no time to end you. next time merely supply a foul excuse such as you promised your mom you have been gonna do something for her so which you're able to bypass and do all this in case you're strolling out the door so noone can end you.
2016-11-09 20:45:56 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends.
In YOUR situation, it is not wrong. You are 16.
If you were 18, then it would be wrong since you would be an adult.
2007-10-30 18:52:00 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have gone, I dont care what people say!!! I resoect people but not when the person wants to force me to do something i dont wanna do!!
2007-10-30 07:05:30 · answer #7 · answered by ribeiro.julieanne 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yes, it's wrong.
2007-10-31 00:28:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋