Why is it stupid people with no life ask why you are not married or when is the big day? My 3 brothers and I in our late 30s to 40s are not married or do not choose to get married. My parents were married 40 years and everyone assumes we will get married as well.
Why don't people mind their own business.
My Comeback is: We are a gay family. Haven't you heard 4 kids are all gay? Then they just leave in shock.
2007-10-30 06:54:44 · 15 answers · asked by DREENA 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
The "gay" part is a joke. But I just realized gay people can marry too. Oh well.
2007-10-30 07:10:17 · update #1
Wait'll you get married then people will start nagging you about kids. For some reason, people just think it's a necessary part of life that everyone has to get married then procreate. If you haven't done so, then something is wrong with you and you need to offer your excuse/deficiency on the demand of anyone who comes along.
I used to have a colleague who was convinced that I would soon become engaged to the man I was then dating (we never did). I insisted that our relatrionship just wasn't at that point yet, but she would not let up. Every time I saw her, she would say, "Lemme see the ring!" (which I did not have; see earlier comment about not getting engaged). One day I got so fed up that when she demanded to see the imaginary ring, I held up a finger at her in full view of the entire room, but it wasn't my wedding ring finger. She finally silenced herself after that.
But I like your comeback too. I bet it shuts a few mouths as well.
2007-10-30 11:13:59 · answer #1 · answered by julz 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was engaged when I was 24 and married when I was 26 Our wedding colors were a pale peach and chocolate brown We each had our brothers as witnesses (2 total), it was a very small wedding (14 people were there including us and our reverend) Our reception was held a month after our wedding, and we did not have assigned seating, most people didn't sit, it was a cocktail party We had a small chocolate cake and then a variety of desserts for people to choose, I think there were 5 different choices We went to Maui for two weeks We got married in Gleneden Beach, OR, a tiny town on the coast, just outside of Lincoln City
2016-05-26 02:40:11 · answer #2 · answered by ute 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is because we haven't found the right person yet. The sad part is if I haven't had so many health issues I think I would have been married by now. I think that is the reason why I am not married by my almost 30th birthday. I AGREE I think that people need to mind their own business.
2007-10-30 12:21:56 · answer #3 · answered by jrealitytv 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I saw your family on tv. It is true, even if you are kidding. Most people that are happy being married, believe most people would be also, so it is a natural question. Just because you don't want to get married, doesn't mean you can't come up with a different answer, unless you like to shock people to get attention.
2007-10-30 07:07:24 · answer #4 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I never understood it either, other than people are nosy and are looking for something to amuse themselves with. My husband and I were married in May, I'm 33, he's 42...and it was a first marriage for both of us. We both got the same treatment from everyone.
I used to just tell people I hadn't met anyone worth marrying yet, and I wasn't lowering my standards. The really pushy ones I would ask why they wanted to know, or turn it around on them, for example, I'd respond, "I don't know, why haven't you gotten your teeth fixed yet? or why haven't you lost weight?" Saying something equally rude usually gets the point across. When all else fails, tell them it's none of their business. Another tactic.....tell them you haven't been able to find anyone and ask them if they know someone. When people have to get involved in something they tend to vanish....and fast!!!!
2007-10-30 07:00:15 · answer #5 · answered by Bridey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try, I have a deal with my parents, if they want grandkids before I get married, I'll just use the closest volunteer to make it happen. I don't need to be married for that, and unless I am wrong, it is my life and not even my parents have a right to force me to marry. Or simply say: Nunya...Nun of your d--- business!
2007-10-30 07:19:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nice reply, anyway people probobly ask you that because they are friends of your parents, and the probabaly knew each other for a long time. So people can assume that you might take after your parents and get married. So it is just curiocity of those people.
2007-10-30 07:05:04 · answer #7 · answered by riddle_filled 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It falls along the same lines as those with children asking those without, "When are you going to have kids?". People who are married, people with children, assume everyone should be in the same boat they are :)
2007-10-30 07:27:33 · answer #8 · answered by jkc 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why are you so defensive about these questions. If people ask and you don't think they know you well enough, then just tell them, they really don't know you well enough to ask that kind of question. Seems if you still refer to people as stupid people with no life, then the reason is that you just never grew up and only adults get married.
2007-10-30 07:15:54 · answer #9 · answered by howie r 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Leave the gay out of it unless you really are. Tell those noses to MYOB! It is insensitive and rude. Or just say " I like my life the way it is".
2007-10-30 07:01:09 · answer #10 · answered by Brewspy 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋