how do i reply to this
and plese dont say, if you dont love her your shouldnt be going out, because iv been thinking for a while that i dont want to be going out with her, but if i dump her i know ill regret it. what shall i do?
2007-10-30 06:01:24 · 17 answers · asked by Kruger, Freddy Kruger 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Whatever you do, just don't tell her something that is not true. Just tell her the truth, like "I'm not at your level yet, but if things go well i am willing to get to that point, but as of yet I don't feel that way" or something like that.....basically tell her the truth. If she can't handle that, then maybe you should move on because in the end it would hurt her if you lied to her about your feelings.
2007-10-30 06:09:24 · answer #1 · answered by PLEASURE pUPPY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in the same situation a while back and i just left it for a bit and then after a while i realised what my true feelings for her was ! and if you dump her you will regret it so dont do that ! just give it about a month and if you still dont feel anything for her then, you shouldnt be going out with her because that aint right !
2007-10-30 13:07:59 · answer #2 · answered by Azzo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not love her but yet you still consider her as your girlfriend.Are you playing with her?She will just become pitiful if you will continue going out with her without love.Just simply say...You do not think you are worthy to her love.Encourage her to find a better guy than you.Honestly speaking,you are not yet ready for a real relationship.Instead of making her expect love from you,I think you better set her free for good.
2007-10-30 13:43:09 · answer #3 · answered by Lucy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah dont hold on to her just because you dont want her with someone else. If she loves you and you dont love her thats probally the best thing to do (break it off), thats just being a good person. I am not going to criticize you because people do it everyday, but if you dont feel the same way just be honest with yourself and leave her alone.
2007-10-30 13:07:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you regret leaving her?
Thing is, if you don't love this woman, then you need to be gently honest with her and end it as amicably as possible so she can move on to someone she can love - who can love her back.
Staying with her for political/economic reasons (she has money, connected family etc.) is pretty much like prostitution isn't it?
Screw up enough courage to be the man you should be - and break up - again as amicably as possible.
2007-10-30 13:08:56 · answer #5 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ugh, this is why people stay together for years....
anyways if you don't love her but you care about her wait it out, if things don't change in an amount of time you deem the need to then move on and find someone else. theres no right or wrong answers in relationships unfortunately (some just make more sense).
2007-10-30 13:06:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, don't lie to her and tell her you do love her. Second, if you are already thinking of breaking up with her, then you can't tell everyone to not tell you to do the same thing! Why would you regret it if you broke up with her? How can you care about her yet not care about her?
It sounds like you need to reevaluate your situation.
2007-10-30 13:06:06 · answer #7 · answered by BellasMom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't say it back until you know for sure you feel it. If she bothers you about it then explain to her that you want to say it when it feels right. If she doesn't want to wait, then she wasn't meant to be and you both need to move on. I said it to my boyfriend first but also told him that I didn't say it just so that he'd say it back. He eventually did, and it was great because I know he really meant it.
2007-10-30 13:15:16 · answer #8 · answered by music lvr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, clearly you're just in it for the sex and you're leading her on.............just tell her you appreciate the sentiment but you aren't ready to say that you love her yet. She may cry, or be really mad at you, but at least you are being honest.
2007-10-30 13:06:57 · answer #9 · answered by krisy_80 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant lie and say you love her and she should respect you for not saying it when you dont feel it just tell her you arent ready for that yet and you want to take int a bit slower
2007-10-30 13:05:49 · answer #10 · answered by Katie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋