I called him gay JOKINGLY and he said no but he's never tried it. I asked him if he'd want to and he said he didn't know. He asked if I'd date a guy who has a boyfriend on the side. I said "absolutely not" and he said he was just curious and probably wouldn't try it. I don't want to go out with him now. that grossed me out. Nothing will change my mind but I'm just wondering what you guys think. In your opinion, am I being closed minded? I thought he was so cool but now I don't look at him the same. now it's just icky!!
2007-10-30 05:55:33 · 26 answers · asked by Answer me this 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
West:::: He wasn't trying to be humorous. We're already pretty good friends. He really is curious about bisexuality.
2007-10-30 06:25:49 · update #1
Your so cute!!!! As a guy who swings both ways, I can tell you that he is probably not gay. I don't think there is anything wrong with a little experimentation, but if your really not comfortable with it, thats totally fine. It in no way makes you closed minded, it just isn't your thing. I would encourage you to keep an open mind, but don't do anything you are not comfortable with.
2007-10-30 06:01:42 · answer #1 · answered by Mikey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your man is gay or he isn't, but calling him gay is unacceptable even if it's jokingly. Some men likes to experiment having sex with other men. It does not make them GAY.As do some women. Let me pose the same question to u. How would u answer it? Women were brought up to be a good girl and not to put out before marriage. Some men on the other hand just wants to have sex and it doesn't matter with whom. I think you are being closed minded.You are entitled to your opinion after all. And if he just wants to experiment u might be letting a fabulous guy get away. After all he does not have to tell u. And how do u know that other guys that u have dated have not dip into the pool .Think Hollywood.
2007-10-30 06:38:14 · answer #2 · answered by "max J" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be bi. But it's surprising the number of women that have called straight men gay also jokingly. IMO, it's okay for women to sleep together, but not gay men. Something about inserting one's penis into another person of the same orientation is disturbing. If the idea sickens you, then good for you. On a side note, don't make the mistake of calling a straight man gay, even jokingly, unless you want to end the relationship. They take things seriously. Some women take that joke particularly too far.
2007-10-30 06:07:40 · answer #3 · answered by Kamuela B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IMO yeah, you are being closed minded.
MANY people (male and female) wonder about same-sex sexual relations, even if they do nothing about it. If you would have sex with a guy, why's it not kewl for a guy to do so? Why isn't it just as gross for you to do those things you imagine them doing?
I would date a bisexual or bicurious as long as they were monogamous. Being bi doesn't okay them to have both a girlfriend and boyfriend at the same time...just that they may be attracted to people of either sex.
2007-10-30 06:00:43 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my boyfriend told me that he had a desire to try having sex with a guy, and he was absolutely serious, then I would end the relationship. However, we all have fantasies, its just a matter if we follow through with them. My fiance would most likely love more then anything to have sex with multiple women at the same time, but I know he wouldn't, unless we broke up.
lol I know its "icky" but as long as you know he isn't going to have sex with a man, I wouldn't let it get to me. Good luck!
2007-10-30 06:12:11 · answer #5 · answered by xoangeleyes23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HAHAHA, sorry. Um, rent Bend over Boyfriend. Yes, you're being close minded, but you've got to go with what you feel.
"He asked if I'd date a guy who has a boyfriend on the side"
Seems like a red flag to me
2007-10-30 06:04:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that is the way you feel then that is all the is important. What we think doesnt really matter. I personally would not date a guy who I knew had been with a guy .
2007-10-30 06:01:43 · answer #7 · answered by livelongandprosper2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably best that you have decided not to date him because you don't understand or appriciate his humor. That will only lead to more problems for you because his messages will be misinterpreted and cause fights. It is best that you have saved him from the stress of having to explain that it was only a joke.
*Dating is about trial and error and figuring out what you like/dislike. If you feel like you are making the best decision for yourself, don't listen to others.
2007-10-30 06:05:11 · answer #8 · answered by west 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My guess is that he was just trying to be agreeable to what you were saying, and you read too much...
Dispite the fact that I am Bi, and date guys and girls, I would not date gay men, they don't seem to have any sense of self-preservation....
2007-10-30 06:01:58 · answer #9 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think dating someone who has tried it is one thing, but having a "boyfriend on the side" is something else. it doesn't hurt that he's experimenting with different options but if he's getting romantically involved with both people, that's not okay.
2007-10-30 06:01:05 · answer #10 · answered by annie801 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋