Mostly for the guys/fathers?

Question

It's drawn out, but try to make it short but detailed.
My 5 yo daughter's father and I first of all broke up, because he had become a pathological/ habitual liar and I had started to become physical, I left him, because of the lieing, him detaining me and because of me becoming physical.
He found someone new, at first things were fine, until she started getting in the middle telling me how to parent and what I had the right and not the right to do.
He allows her to make false accusations against me, She posted my daughter's name on an adult profile, she doesn't allow him to spend extra time with my daughter, she thinks she should be involved in everything, when they aren't even raising their own 2 children.
Fathers, How would you feel about your current wife doing these things? How would you feel, if your child's mother ONLY on occasions involves your new wife?
Need any more info., just ask please.

Answer 1

Cyndi there is not a chance in hell that I would ever allow my relationship with another women to interfere with the relationship I have with my kids. As for her posting your daughter on an adult website, what the hell is wrong with this dame. I understand that sometimes people don't speak that positively about their exes but to allow your new partner to dictate how you raise your daughter and/or talk bad about you is just plain wrong. Reality is that when we speak poorly of our exes we are also speaking poorly of ourselves as we decided that we loved them then and stayed with them. If you cannot talk with your ex and ask that they at least show some respect to you and not speak badly of you in front of this little girl, then attempt to speak with this other woman. Best of luck.

Answer 2

I'm not a guy, but i am answering this anyway.

First thing -- your ex husband can't control what his new woman says. So if she makes accusations against you, whatever they are, your ex has nothing to do with it...

Secondly, this woman is a control freak, and feels she has to tell everyone else how to live. why? probably has underlying anxiety issues, sticks her nose in where it does not belong, just to relieve her own anxiety and take her mind off her own problems for a while. It's very common, and you don't have to put up with it. She needs help, and she is the only one who can decide whether to get help or not.

Meanwhile YOU need to start taking care of yourself. Stop allowing her to control your emotions. Stop associating with her, and realize that the children are not hers, nor are they her responsibility. Any and all communication about the kids, should be strictly between you and your ex....

If your ex is so dumb that he lets her control what he does, and who he can talk with and/or spend time with, that is HIS problem not yours.

You need to remove yourself from involvement with this woman, because obviously, her overbearing nature is getting on your nerves.

You don't have to include her in anything, so don't. Let the ex have his time with the kids, and you have yours. IGNORE HER.... don't react to anything she says or does...

Also, if your child's name is posted on an adult profile, perhaps you need to get the website address and discuss this with the police. I don't think it's right for a person to do this... Your children's names should not be posted on the internet, if you are against it. I don't know what the police could do, but at least you reported it.

Answer 3

As far as I understand she only posted a NAME and nothing else. I am sorry I dont see anything wrong with that...Plus how do you know this???? Did you spy on her???
"she doesn't allow him to spend extra time with my daughter" - you mean she involves her kids and herself in it as well? Horrible woman!! Trying to keep the family together!!!
She thinks she should be involved in everything - why shouldnt she??? she has two kids with this man and they are siblings of your child... I think she has every right to...
I am sorry, but ARE YOU in a relationship??? I think you were fine in the beginning hoping it would not work out... Now you are just bitter and jealous.
Sorry if I am wrong and harsh, but I really dont see the problem here, I am sure this woman has different story to tell.