When should you tell your child the truth about Santa Claus and the tooth Fairy? My daughter just turned 8 and is in 2nd grade. I know she is starting to have doubts, kids at school are starting to talk. Should i go ahead and tell her before Christmas or wait til after Christmas?
2007-10-30 04:41:08 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
wait til after christmas, give her one last year of joy lol. Its not like christmas is 8months from now, its just not even 2 she wont make up her mind in that short a period of time anyway ;)
2007-10-30 04:44:27 · answer #1 · answered by luvinmykevin 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I let my daughter believe it until she was 9 and think you should allow it to go on as long as you possibly can. I always would always lovingly tell her that if you believe in your heart that there's a Santa Claus then that is your choice and nobody can make you feel bad about choosing to believe that there's a Santa!
About a month before Christmas she really was getting on me about if he was real or not, that all her friends say it's their parents and not SANTA. I couldn't hold it in anymore, because no matter how much talking around it I would do she'd just come out and say mom, is there a Santa or not? So I finally broke down and told her, she was heartbroken. Then she really cried when she found out that there wasn't a Tooth Fairy or an Easter bunny either. Ugh!
It's part of life though! The decision is yours.
2007-10-30 11:47:40 · answer #2 · answered by Jen 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a 6 year old. She has already asked around the "Santa" question. I told her that believing is in our hearts. The spirit of giving is something people do, and as long as we believe in giving, "Santa" will exist. I told her I believe, because there is so much charity around Christmas, how could you not. I also have her help "Santa" by making a stocking for her Grandad and Dad. This lets her know that she is helping, and the spirit of giving is alive through her. I did not tell her any of this however, until she asked.
As for the tooth fairy. She still believes in that, and I'm not going to change that until she questions me about it. Children should stay children for as long as possible.
2007-10-30 13:38:35 · answer #3 · answered by Lexihow 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My children are 12, 10, 8, 6 and almost 3. We told them shortly before Easter of 2005 the truth about all of that stuff. We explained that it didn't mean things would change as far as gift giving, but that they would know where it really came from. There are multiple reasons for this. Number one is we have become very active in our church and one of ur Bible Study classes pointed out that teaching kids that there is anothe omnicient being out there, is wrong and against God. number two is that we are not as well off as many of the other families in our community, so in order for our children to understand that this "being" doesn't prefer the other children, and give thme better presents, we tell the truth and they understand that Mom and Dad don't have that kind of money.
2007-10-30 12:33:23 · answer #4 · answered by jimmattcait 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
wait until after Christmas i was in the 5th grade before i ever found out and now i'm not so sure if i want my child to believe in Santa Claus or not
2007-10-30 11:44:13 · answer #5 · answered by ~Cheta K.~ 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell her what? That Santa is not real?
Santa is real, he may not be around any more but he was once a living person. I would explain that to them.
Tell them the Tooth Fairy is you. I don't see the trauma here.
2007-10-30 11:46:07 · answer #6 · answered by m_c_m_a_n 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My parents told me that Santa was very real, and that he lives as long as the spirit of giving is alive. They told me that he wasn't a person that I could talk to, but that people all over the world believed in him, and did things in his name - and that made him as real as anyone.
The people at the mall are not "Santa Claus" per se, but they are there to spread the joy of Christmas and of giving, and to bring happiness and wonder to the lives of children, and it's that spirit and those acts of love and wonder that keeps Santa alive.
I didn't fully understand at the time, but I was able to still believe, even though I understood he wasn't a real person. I still believe those things today.
2007-10-30 11:46:20 · answer #7 · answered by Becka Gal 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Who says santa is not real? To use the famous words of Charlie Calvin from "Santa Clause 2" - "Seeing isn't believing - Believing is seeing"
Give 'em one more magical Christmas - they'll figure it out soon enough.
2007-10-30 11:55:18 · answer #8 · answered by joni 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let her have just one more Christmas where she still believes! I was around 9 or so when I found out all that stuff was a lie...so just let her be a "kid" for a little while longer! It's good for her! She will appreciate it later! Hope I helped...good luck with whatever you choose!
But, if she asks you directly, I wouldn't lie to her...cause when you do eventually tell her the truth she may be mad at you for lieing! Just my opinion, though!
2007-10-30 11:45:48 · answer #9 · answered by krazy_gal04 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I never told my son such stories. My mom did the same for me. I told him Jesus is the reason for Christmas, Easter etc. If he lost a tooth a gave him money because he was a "strong brave boy"
Tell after Christmas! Or let them figure it out on their own.
2007-10-30 19:13:16 · answer #10 · answered by staymay 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋