Me and my man have known eachother for a long time amd before we were together we were identical. He has never been faithful to a girl ever and that includes his ex wife and I have never been faithful to a man which includes my ex husband. We both come from very bad past and both act the exsact same way... we are identical in the way we have treated people and what we like , want , and have been through. we have been together for a year and this is the longest faithful relationship we have both been in infact we both chased everyone else away. we both are signed to the same modeling company and he used to break a thousand hearts... i was more careful and told everyone i got envolved with not to fall in love... So my question is... do you think that he will cheat down the road since he has never been able to be faithful?
2007-10-30 04:40:25 · 42 answers · asked by soldurs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
JUST TO ALL OF YOU THAT LEFT INSULTING COMMENTS... I ASKED A QUESTION FOR OPINIONS NOT MEAN NAMES... YOU DONT KNOW ANYTHING AND I HAVE ALWAYS BEEN HONEST WITH THE MEN I WAS WITH LETTING THEM KNOW HOW I WAS FROM DAY ONE AND TELLING THEM NOT TO LOVE ME CAUSE I DIDNT LOVE ME!! NOR DO YOU KNOW MY PAST , SOUNDS LIKE YOU ALL JUST GOT SOME BITTERNESS.. BEEN HURT MUCH? SO DONT CALL NAMES IF YOU DONT KNOW WHAT THE FUC K YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT.. TO THE OTHERS THANK YOU!!
2007-10-30 08:29:57 · update #1
I think, given his track record, it's a given. Seems that he's pulling a really good one on you, too. You're better off discovering why you don't want anyone faithful close to you, why you don't want that level of intimacy. Learning about what's stopping you from getting close to a man (who will be faithful and cherish you) is your best protection from a broken heart, and your best luck and finding a good man.
2007-10-30 04:44:32 · answer #1 · answered by sonofstar 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think that he has been faithful so far? How do you know that he hasn't been practicing his old habits behind your back? You're not with him 24/7, are you?
Although the term "once a cheater always a cheater" doesn't apply to everyone, it applies to most people. Everyone deserves a second chance, but in this case, it's not a second chance with your man. The number is probably high up there... depending on how many woman he cheated in the past.
I have never cheated in my life (and have never been cheated either, thank God), so I don't know the reason behind it other than the two obvious ones (physical attraction to another person or taking revenge). But you're more experienced in this matter since you have personal experiences on this in the past. If you observe carefully, you can probably tell without much effort if someone is going to cheat on you. Maybe from the way he's talking to you and others? Maybe from the way he's looking at you and others? Maybe from the way he touches (holding hand, kissing, etc.) you and others?
If I were you, I would never commit my heart fully to a past cheater. I'd rather date a less attractive person (but still acceptable to my standard of course) with a heart of gold.
2007-10-30 05:04:37 · answer #2 · answered by sir_b_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I am going to answer, I want to be truthful. People can change and sometimes do so I cant really tell ya the old saying once a cheater, always a cheater is always 100% true. If you have been together for a year and both of you have already been 100% faithful, I would say to stay focused on the things that you are doing right and dont look back on previous behavior and relationships. If you are both in this to make it work, it can still happen, but if either one of you gets bored with the relationship or stops giving it your all, I guess there could be a chance that one of you could cheat. Good Luck, I hope things work out for you both.
2007-10-30 04:49:26 · answer #3 · answered by Stephie13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Old habits are hard to break, but not impossible.I wouldn't let my guard down just to be on the safe side though. What I mean by that is, if you sense something is not right, see it for what it is, don't try and look the other way.A relationship in the field you both work in will present problems as well.I'm sure there is alot of temptation but if you guys have made it a year, who knows? Whatever happens, this has been good for both of you, right??
2007-10-30 04:51:40 · answer #4 · answered by mominvalp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One or both of you will probably eventually cheat. You can head this off by agreeing to be honest about the fact that neither of you are wired "monogamous". You might learn more about polyamory and how you can still have a primary relationship with each other while being honest and open when you fall for other people. It beats sneaking around.
2007-10-30 04:55:22 · answer #5 · answered by Delta D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably. The best indication of future behavior is past behavior. Unless a person goes through some therapy and makes a true effort to change the odds are they won't. And that goes for you too.
If you two really want a shot at forever and want to change you should go to couples counseling and individual counseling and work on your issues. It is hard, but if you love someone you will jump through fire for them, so therapy is nothing.
2007-10-30 04:45:04 · answer #6 · answered by James Watkin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should know better if he would cheat on you. Women have this instinct you know. But you said it yourself...that in your past relationships, you haVe told everyone you got involved with not to fall in love. You are used to this kind of situation so why worry? Unless you have started falling for this guy. Just be careful and be prepared if he breaks your heart.
2007-10-30 04:51:46 · answer #7 · answered by janine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think history does tend to repeat itself. I've seen very few men that prove "once a cheater, always a cheater" to be wrong.
How are you sure he has been faithful so far? Are you with him 24/7? Sorry, but I'm sure he didn't TELL his wife when he was cheating on her.
Be very careful!!!
2007-10-30 04:44:35 · answer #8 · answered by startwinkle05 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Him being faithful is highly unlikely. As they say and as society has accepted....a man can love his partner to death but he will cheat. Old habits die hard, I know, but people do change. So my advice is to give him the benefit of the doubt cause people do change and maybe, just maybe he will be faithful to you. Just make sure you satisfy him completely so he doesn't desire to get it elsewhere.
2007-10-31 01:50:56 · answer #9 · answered by sweetdivine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Short answer? Yep. One or both of you will cheat eventually. You're both in an industry that is rife with infidelity, and you both have the past to prove it. I don't know what to tell you but good luck...
2007-10-30 04:45:03 · answer #10 · answered by Doogin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋