My fiance and I decided to take some dance lessons prior to our wedding so that we could figure out what to do during our first dance. I'm very happy with our decision because it has made him feel much more comfortable with dancing in front of everyone.
However, our instructor recommonded that we cut the song from 4 minutes to just over 2 minutes to make it easier on the both of us. I'm not completely opposed to the idea but wanted to get everyones thoughts as to whether or not that is too short.
I know my fiance will like it as he is very shy about the whole first dance thing but I don't want to look back and think "it went so quick!" Any suggestions?
2007-10-30 04:29:09 · 16 answers · asked by Merry Mary 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Our song was 4 whopping minutes long and we were dying!! After about 1 minute, we were whispering to each other "just 3 more minutes.. just 2 more minutes.. how much longer do you think?" And everyone is watching you. But then again we dont love the spotlight so maybe thats why it was so painful for us.
2007-10-30 04:33:44 · answer #1 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say cut it down for 2 1/2 minutes because after a minute, people get bored of seeing you two dance and all the hard work you put into learning to dance, I know you would want them at the very least to watch you dance. But if the dance is too long then their attention will drift and I know you don;t want that.
2007-10-30 04:42:51 · answer #2 · answered by Little Older, Much Wiser 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy yourselves and be happy no one will notice how long or short the dance will be Also we danced to Annie's song by John Denver and it is a short song and the DJ played it through 2 -3 X we wanted a song that described our love with out all the drama of romance as we were truly friends first.
2007-10-30 08:14:51 · answer #3 · answered by encourager4God 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing personal, but as much focus as the couple and the parents put on those few little spotlight dances... your guests are waiting to hit the floor themselves!!
Short and sweet! Have your moment, and let everyone join the party! You didnt invite them to WATCH your special day, you invited them to be PART of your special day. Truth be told, some people dont watch the dances at all.... at the past 3 weddings i've been to... you could barely hear the music over the crowd talking during the couples dance.
2007-10-30 04:35:39 · answer #4 · answered by loki_only1 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well I think that if you let your mom or maid of honor know that at about the 2 min mark she should start dancing too people will get the hint and it'll hopefully take the attention off you guys, or ask the dj to sort of fade into the daddy daughter dance at a certain point and then you can part with your new hubby and grab dad.
2007-10-30 04:35:27 · answer #5 · answered by chaychayolei 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have actually seen people do their actual first dance later in the reception. They danced with each other and did their thing, and later on they did their actual first dance. Hopefully if you wait a while and he warms up he will be up for it. And I think 2 minutes is too short. My song is pretty short so we are going to do a compilation of songs.
2007-10-30 06:13:19 · answer #6 · answered by prettyblueeyes101010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think 2 min would be just fine. Believe me, you'll have enough to worry about at your wedding. There will be more dancing, yes? Have a shorter first dance, and then dance the night away with everyone else once the pressure is off.
2007-10-30 04:44:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
For our first dance we picked a really long song and cut it down to 2 1/2 min. we had prepared for four min but in the end we were happy with the time that we had.
2007-10-30 04:43:58 · answer #8 · answered by lovelyangel3340 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to dance to the whole song after 2 minutes have the bridal party join in on the dance.
2007-10-30 05:13:21 · answer #9 · answered by tohumanity 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that after about a minute or two, your father could possibly "cut in" and dance with you as the groom invites his mother to dance - combining three special dances into one and giving you company on the dance floor. Perhaps the groom's father could invite your mother to dance also. More interesting for your guests and less focus on you and your family!
2007-10-30 05:50:56 · answer #10 · answered by NanaJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋