Dont get me wrong. I don't blame anyone for the way I have turned out. In fact, I just found myself to be unfortunate in this category. Its not like I am dissatisfied with myself or hating the world. I was born to a chinese family where emotions such as affection were not really shown. I did not really develop bond with people (with parents I was sent to the states to study at early age so i dont have that connection, with friends I was often backstabbed and socially withdrew)
Although I am in college, I find myself to better atleast. Being able to socialize and have friends. I do notice however that I am very laid back and calm. I never complain or stress out about anything. I am always in a neutral state of mind, dont quite often daydream and takes me no time to fall asleep
I have come to realize recently after talking things w/ my gf (not being able to express love) that I have been living life emotionally withdrawn. I feel emotions but describing them is like impossible to me
2007-10-30 04:12:26 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Aspergers syndrome kids have a biological not social origin for a similar problem. Their disease is primarily treated with therapy, and coaching.
You should read books about aspergers, and for the loved ones of aspergers, because they have good, effective coaching for being functional at emotional connection.
"Loving Mr. Spock", and "Acting Normal" are two recommendable books on the subject.
2007-10-30 04:22:10 · answer #1 · answered by Curly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have just read a book by Dr. Gary Chapman called "The 5 love Languages".
It explains that people show and feel love in differenct ways, 5 main ways.
I found out that I was loving my wife in my love languages of Words of Affirmation and Physical Touch when her love language is Acts of Service.
Dr Chapman is a Christian and his advice is biblically based
Hope this helps
Ron
2007-10-30 13:37:42 · answer #2 · answered by rockinron1107 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BEING CALM DOESN'T NECESSARILY MEAN THAT YOU'RE WITHDRAWN. IT COULD MEAN THAT YOU'RE A PERSON WHO LIKES TO TAKE IT ALL IN. YOU KNOW, WE HAVE 2 EARS & 1 MOUTH FOR A REASON, WE SHOULD LISTEN TWICE AS MUCH AS WE TALK.
AS FOR YOUR GIRLFRIEND..... YOU MUST BE DOING SOMETHING RIGHT, SHE'S STILL W/ YOU. THERE ARE ALL SORTS OF WAYS YOU CAN OPEN-UP MORE & BECOME LESS INTRAVERTED & IF YOU TRULY FEEL THE NEED TO MAKE SOME CHANGES, I THINK YOU'RE SMART ENOUGH TO KNOW HOW TO START, AFTERALL YOU'RE A COLLEGE MAN !!
JUST REMEMBER, BEING CALM , LAID BACK & NON-CONFRONTATIONAL ISN'T A BAD THING TO BE & I WOULD LOVE TO BE ABLE TO JUST FALL ASLEEP.
THE PROBLEM MIGHT NOT EVEN BE YOURS... IT JUST MIGHT BE OTHERS.
2007-11-02 17:19:57 · answer #3 · answered by flossymae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a good thing that you are laid back and calm.
As for your girlfriend and the relationship, it takes time for feelings to develop. I'm sure you can express love, and that in time, you will develop stronger feelings for your girlfriend.
Just be kind to her and treat her as you wish to be treated.
take care.
2007-10-30 11:25:50 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a notebook and start writing down your feelings; happy, mad, sad, embarrassed, possessive, alienated, etc.
It will help you get in touch with your true feelings.
2007-10-30 11:22:24 · answer #5 · answered by cowgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋