Does ayone believe that a spanking your child in public is a great way to teach good behavior?

Answer 1

depends on your definition of a spanking. If I am in the store and my little one is pulling things off of the shelves, I will give one and only one verbal warning. Depending on the atitude if it happens again, I might smack his/her hand as a reminder that their behavior is inappropriate.
I never really spank, (bend over and a couple of good whacks on the spot made just for spanking) unless the behavior is outright rebellious and defiant- instruction and correction are just not being received- in this case swift discipline is called for. I do not believe in humiliating the child - I would take them to the nearest bathroom or to the car to administer the spanking- I am not overly concerned with subjecting the child to a degree of embarrassment- they should be embarrassed about their poor bahavior and they will be a heck of a lot more embarrassed if this kind of behavior is allowed to continue and they are adults and get punched out by someone bigger who is not going to put up with their bratty behavior, cannot hold a job because they cannot exhibit self control and submit to authority or even worse get hauled off by the police in front of friends family and neighbors. I guarantee if that day were to come , they would be wishing for nothing more than a spanking in the crowded bathroom of a grocery store!
on another note- good behavior can only be taught by modeling it ourselves. Folly is bound up in the heart of a child- they will be mischevious and want to explore outside of their boundaries - it is up to us to gently correct and teach good behavior- there are however times when rebellion rears up - this cannot be tolerated or treated lightly- NOT spanking a child for this is just teaching them that bad behavior is acceptable- a huge disservice to them for later in life.

Answer 2

No. It teaches the child that their parent lacks self control too. It usually just escalates the situation. When my children act up in public, we leave and go straight home. The message being if they can't behave in public they do not get to be in public. It is a huge inconvenience at times but it has worked. We come home and they must stay in their room until they can see the error of their ways and explain why their behavior was wrong and sincerely say they are sorry. If an adult 'acts up' enough in public they go to jail. They don't get spanked....though that may happen in jail. : )

Answer 3

From experience I have seen that spanking a child in public does no good, it only makes matters worse because then they are crying more than they were.
When my kids misbehaved in public it worked much better if I would take them to another room, like a bathroom or even out, and talk to them. If that was impossible I would talk to them and hug them because that is usually all they wanted in the first place.
Spanking in public is just showing everyone else what a evil person you really are. And how out of control you are.

Answer 4

No, I believe that spanking (privately or publicly) is punishment for bad behavior.

Teaching good behavior involves the establishment of expectations, rules and consequences for a child, as well as setting a good example yourself.

Answer 5

Instead of doing it in public the child can be taken to the restroom and given the spanking. my husband has done this many times.
just because they are taught how to behave doesnt mean they 100 percent always behave. they are children and will at some point try to push the boundaries or have an off day, even a good kid.

Answer 6

Spanking (or any other discipline) is good in public. It's better than letting your child be a brat in public because they know they can because you're so scared of someone 'calling the cops'.

The way I see it: If some random person who doesn't know me or my child wants to "call the cops" on me for disciplining my children, because omg that's so much child abuse!, I would appreciate it greately if they let me know. I'll give them a cellphone to do so. It's not illegal where I live =] So, they can dial and throw a fit all their little hearts desire. Let them butt in. I'm not afraid of them. It's not illegal.

I know first hand the difference between spanking and child abuse. Talk to my nephews mother who not only "spanks", but she beat her kids along with throwing them into walls and slamming their hands in the door and car doors. She did that until they awarded custody to their father and my sister. Anyone who thinks "spanking" is abuse compared to that crap really shouldn't even be touching kids or having them to begin with. But don't try and tell other people what they should and shouldn't do. It wasn't YOU who laid in the delivery room and had them.

As long as it's not leaving bruises or they are abusing them in anyway, I applaud people who spank in public. Those kids are usually the ones who are well behaved or calm down after a spanking while the other kids with the parents screaming "you're going to get a time out when we get home.... i mean it.... i really, really mean it.... i'm counting to three... 1.....2....2and1/2....2and3 quarters..... come on, please stop... please... if you be good, i'll buy you ice cream...!" and so on. keep on doing what they're doing because they know they can.

Answer 7

No! I really hate it when I see parents spanking their kids in public. I am not against spanking as a form of punishment, but I am against public humiliation. It makes people look upon you as a bad parent, and makes the child feel foolish. I remember getting embarrassed by my parents' yelling beginning at about age 4 (they never spanked in public). If your child acts up in public and a sharp reprimand does not work, then you tell them "We will deal with this when we get home." Kids know what that means.

Also, when I see parents spank in public, it makes me think, "If they are willing to do this in front of other people, what worse things are they doing to the child in private?"

Answer 8

No, I don't believe in spankings. There's ways to discipline a child without using physical force.

Answer 9

I'd never do it in public!! When my kids were young and acted up to the point where I felt they needed a spanking, I left where ever I was and took them home for a time out. Mostly for me!! I usually didn't even need to spank them at that point. Spanking in public is so humiliating! This isn't to say I've never given them a swat if they were out of control, but I simply found that words worked better.

Answer 10

Well if you do they get the idea!
allthough smacking can hurt them later in life.

They winge for abit then shut up, ive always been afraid of my dad because he hit me from an early age so i know when to be quiet!

The best way to deal with a child in public is to come down to their level (kneel down) and dont shout.
Say in a calm voice something that would interest them like a chocolate bar or a smiley sticker as a reward.

Smacking makes things worse and stresses yourself out!