I met a man, much older than me, who openly told me he was schizo. I risked and changed so much of my life to conform to his beliefs of me, and what I should be to him.
He lives an hours drive away. I used to go up to visit, but was never allowed at his home. Instead we'd go at it in the back seat in a carpark or on the street.
He then has the nerve to call me a whore and a cheat and a slut for doing so- when I was only going alone with what HE wanted.
I already feel like a stupid whore for letting it go on for so long. Deal is...
I thought thats what he wanted.
But then he calls me a whore??
2007-10-30 03:57:28 · 5 answers · asked by Claire M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I used to date a girl who wanted me to become a Christian. I really liked her, she was an amazing girl. I'm Catholic, but went to Christian church, learned about Christianity and its different practices although it isnt much different. I was even thinking about being baptized as a Christian. We aren't together anymore, but I soon after realized if she didn't like me for me, then she wasnt worth it. I changed ALOT when we were together, and was at times a person who I wasnt. Don't change for anyone, be yourself, and if they dont accept who you are, they dont deserve you. best of luck!
2007-10-30 04:03:39 · answer #1 · answered by mperry1408 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't conform, you should be yourself. By conforming, it is a way of lying to him. Unless of course you wanted to make the change yourself. This is very important to understand, because as you two get closer, he will learn that it is all an act, and he may not be very understanding. You could not only hurt yourself, but him as well. I believe that people should make sacrifices for another person, and change to improve a relationship, but I think you have to want to change, so if you are doing it just make him happy and it isn't, I would say just be who you really are. He admitted he was a schizo, right? He may have been under a different personality when He told you those terrible things. Be careful, this does not sound like a very good situation. Good luck to you
2007-10-30 11:07:35 · answer #2 · answered by stormdog3269 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAY too much baggage!! Run. You shouldn't have to change yourself in order for someone else to accept you...especially when that someone else has severe mental issues. Is he willing to even try to fix anything to make the relationship better...or do you really have to do ALL the work?? Just leave. Save yourself the heartache and find someone that will love you for everything you are and not want you to change a thing. Good luck.
2007-10-30 11:02:29 · answer #3 · answered by geminiqtpie22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will never change myself for anyone. The only changes I make to myself will be for me only.
2007-10-30 11:01:33 · answer #4 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing. i only change if i want to make myself a better person. i wont even chagne myself for someone i hold dear. i have to want it FOR MYSELF
2007-10-30 11:25:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋