my girlfriend and i have been going out for just about 6 months. and she told me that she is scared casue everything seems perfect but it might not be. and she says that is wierd that we never fight. what should i do? and she told me that she heard no fighting in a relationship is a bad thing.
2007-10-30 03:49:48 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its not a bad thing.... it just means you guys get along great. Would you rather be fighting? seriously.
2007-10-30 03:52:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
How often do you guys see eachother? Trust me, you guys sooner or later will get into an argument...Ive heard that it is a bad thing if a couple never fights...Im sure you guys have had a couple of disagreements, but im sure it has never escalated in what you would call a fight...having simple disagreements can be a tiny fight....I honestly think you have a very healthy relationship. Just wait though, some fights will definantly brew up within time. Not sayin that in a bad way.
2007-10-30 03:55:06 · answer #2 · answered by Joe C. 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Not fighting over anything certainly suggests there are communication issues. There is no such thing as a perfect couple. Everyone has issues that they bring into the relationship. So not fighting over anything may be that each of you are bottling up your issues rather than getting them out in the open and dealing with them.
It could be that the two of you have great communication. You deal with issues before they escalate into a blow up.
Here's how you tell which you are. Do you ever disagree with each other? Do you really talk about issues that concern you? If you don't then there are communication issues.
2007-10-30 03:55:35 · answer #3 · answered by JB 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My Bf and I of 5 years didnt fight for the first 6 or 7 months of our relationship...then it just...happened. I would say its not a bad thing, perhaps its a good sign that you have a lot in common and think the same. I mean...we're still together after 5 years and we were the same way, what does that tell you?
2007-10-30 03:53:14 · answer #4 · answered by chevalrose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its bad if it means you and your girlfriend aren't communicating. Many times a fight is how people finally commincate. But it doesn't take a "fight" to resolve disagreements. As long as you both are being honest and open about your wants and needs, the "fight" isn't necessary. On the other hand, if each of you is just going along with what the other wants, you are not being honest with each other and that will blow up eventually.
2007-10-30 03:59:42 · answer #5 · answered by turnabout 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
every thing will happen in it right time. don't rush or cause anything that will make you guys fight.
yes i would worry that everything is too perfect, but look at it this way, when the real test comes along will you guys withstand the pressure a relationship has to offer?
for now use each other to build a solid foundation and trust in each other. comfort her while you can.
and if the relationship ever hits a rocky road, remember that after the storm there is always the sunlight.
take it easy.
2007-10-30 03:58:26 · answer #6 · answered by Lexie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my current marriage (of 11 yrs) we have not fought yet. This is because we communicate well and deal with things in the open.
In my first marriage we did not fight either, but we never could reach an agreement on the issue/s.
So the question is how are you going to deal with issues? Have there been none or have you been able to work them out?
Of there has been issues that needed solved, did you reach a census's of agreement, or just did your own thing.
If you two have found away to reach an agreement (with out hidden resentments) then it is a healthy relationship.
Other wise it is just a storm waiting to brake loose.
2007-10-30 04:02:10 · answer #7 · answered by teamepler@verizon.net 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've been with my b/f for 1 and a half years and we have argued once.... and neither of us shouted at the other and we kissed and made up and haven't fought since.
6 months isn't a long time to be with someone. Your relationship is still very new so it isn't surprising your don't argue. Also not arguing is only a problem if one of you thinks something is wrong and your holding back from saying anything because you don't want to cause and argument! if you have nothing to argue about whats wrong with that????
And I'm guessing your quite young... unless one of you is cheating or otherwise doing wrong somehow then there is very little for you to argue about as you don't have bills to pay, kids to raise etc.
2007-10-30 03:55:40 · answer #8 · answered by juicy_satsuma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a bad thing. You of course don't want to fight but it is ok to have disagreements. Dis agreements are a simple way of arguing. Every relationship needs that but you don't want to have full blown out fights. When you disagree there is an positive outcome because then there comes a compromise. If you can disagree and then compromise it in the end then you have a strong relationship.
2007-10-30 03:55:26 · answer #9 · answered by spleefarella 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You cant fix something if it isnt broken. It is not a bad thing. Really do you think fighting is a good thing? I can see if one of you guys are a total push over and gives in every time. I am a person that hates confrontation more than anyone. Trust me.
2007-10-30 03:54:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's not really bad in a relationship..it would just imply that you guys are good in handling with situations..but sometimes a fight would really tell on how strong are you two holding to your relationship..it would somewhat be a test to both of you..don't worry if you two didn't have fight for the previous 6 months..maybe it's not yet time for you to have one..just cherish every moment spent with each other..^_^..
2007-10-30 04:23:12 · answer #11 · answered by maika02 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋