My fiancée, whom I dated for 4 years broke up with me in June, stating that she needed to find herself. It has been 5 months now and haven’t talked to my fiancée in 2 months, and I have started dating a new girl, which is going really well, except recently all I can think about is my fiancée and how much I miss her. What is worse is that the new girl, lives in the apartment building directly across the street in NYC from my fiancée. I need help, I want to move on but I miss my fiancée more than anything
2007-10-30 03:45:35 · 6 answers · asked by Jennaba9048 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be careful that you do not hurt this new gf in the process of healing yourself and it sounds like you attempted to use this new gf as a replacement for your ex and it failed. I would let the new girl go before she get hurt and is innocent. You need to take time and deal with the situation at hand before you bring anyone else into the this. I would say that you need to satisfy you yearning by finding some kind of satisfaction weither it was via work, friends, or in yourself. Did you get closure when you lost your ex. Is she moved on? there are many factors here to give detailed information. however, until you realize that the one you lost is gone and that is the best thing for you you can not heal. good luck i know that when you are in love and lose that person it is life altering.
2007-10-30 03:54:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear your pain & confusion. My first love surfaced accidently after 26 years, and has turned my world upside-down.
Counceling is the way to go. Talking about it helps. I didn't back then, and it is causing me trouble now, and I'm married w/5 kids.
You owe it to yourself and your future to put your past relationship to rest and get on with living. I thought my past was buried & behind me, but I am now living a nightmare & I've dragged in a lot of innocent people. I wish I had closure 26 years ago. Learn from my mistake. Get help now. Best of luck!
2007-10-30 04:02:30 · answer #2 · answered by Outta Control 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to say, but only time and distance can solve such an affair of the heart. I guess you truly miss her, and this is no joke by anyone's standards.
Perhaps talking with someone and examining just what it is / why you miss her so much may tell you enough to really move on, which unfortunately you must consider doing at this point.
In the meantime, go slow and try to enjoy your new lady's company.
2007-10-30 03:57:54 · answer #3 · answered by Slick98 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you definitely could desire to make an corporation decision on what you choose. It seems such as you're nevertheless hung up on the desire that your ex-fiance will choose you back! What if she did ask you back, what could you do?! could you in basic terms drop your new female pal and take her back, or could you reside with the recent one? in case you may drop her, then you rather rather should not be together with her now. that's not honest to handbook her on like that! in case you nevertheless have emotions to your ex, you may desire to make certain them or any new relationship won't paintings! you're saying the recent relationship is going rather nicely, yet something could desire to be lacking in case you're nevertheless questioning approximately your ex! maybe you need to think of logically approximately the place each of available relationship could take you? in case you preserve questioning approximately an impossible subject, you will under no circumstances get something genuine, you will consistently be residing interior the previous and lacking out on the present and the destiny! If there became into yet another probability, the place could that take you? could there be any genuine destiny in it if there wasn't formerly? could issues ever rather be like formerly, and if so, why could it paintings this time? could you ever sense maintain, and not complication that she'd replace her techniques and could desire to discover herself lower back? Have a severe think of roughly what that's which you extremely choose, and then act on it. do no longer stay with "what if's" and "if basically's". i'm hoping you paintings issues out quickly! that's a bad predicament to be in, yet basically you are able to understand on your coronary heart what you choose, and once you paintings it out, decide for it, or stay an entire life of be apologetic approximately! sturdy luck!
2016-10-14 08:48:06 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was told to take one year for friendships with no "romantic' notions. Other wise it would be a rebound thing.
It worked for me. Although even after 12 years, she still haunts my mind at times.
I am healthier emotionally for it so give it a try.
2007-10-30 03:54:16 · answer #5 · answered by teamepler@verizon.net 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get some counseling it really helps and helps you to move on too . I wish you luck . In time you will not hurt as bad . good luck .
2007-10-30 03:50:57 · answer #6 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋