How do you get your 4 year old out of your bed and in her own?

Answer 1

Put her in there and every time she gets out, you put her back. Since you waited until now, it will be very difficult and will probably take two weeks to get her in there on her own. It'll be so worth it in the end. You take the first shift, your partner takes the next--every half hour or hour you trade. You could even go so far as to put a gate at the door so she can't get out of the room. That one's totally up to you, though. There's no "painless" way to do it.

Answer 2

In my own experiences as a father of two the best thing to have done is start letting the youngster sleep alone a little earlier. But if you turn bed time into an event might help as well, like telling her that the bed is a fort or tent. By telling her that this is a step to becoming a big girl.

Answer 3

I guess you found out the hard way about letting a child sleep with you. You have to do it firmly. You have to tell the child, you're a big girl/boy and you need to sleep in your own bed now. There might be a lot of crying or the child getting out of bed a lot, be firm and send them back to their own bed. If you wake up at night and the kid is in your bed, send or take them back to their own bed. Don't give in to the "I'm scared or whatever the excuse wiil be. Just don't give in. I know it's sounds harsh, but thats the way you have to be. I also made that same mistake.

Answer 4

Personally she'd never have been their in the first place but now that you've created the problem as solution is in order.
Most little ones want to be "big girls/boys" and big girls sleep in their own bed. For a week or two put her to bed and rub her back until she falls asleep. This makes her feel secure and safe. Then you might try telling her you are just in the next room and try having her fall asleep on her own. In a short period of time she will feel comfortable in her own room and bed and probably won't need you near at hand.
Do this now as my girlfriend had her son sleeping in her room until he was almost 14 (sick). This is a married woman who has complained to me about her lack of a sex life with her husband. Gee, I wonder why?

Answer 5

You get your four year old out of your bed by being very persistent. You have to be very strong and not give in to all efforts at manipulation by your child. You are after all the parent . The child will try every effort to gain mastery over you. There can be screaming, crying, pouting, demands for drinks of water, sneaking into your bed during the night and even threats to gain the access to your bed. If your are firm with love, you will never regret it. You deserve privacy. Keep putting her back in her bed and don't give in to her demands.

Answer 6

Has he/she ever slept in her own bed, or is it a recent phase? I'm assuming you already have a consistent relaxing bedtime routine in place (warm bath with some lavender oil works well), cuddle, story etc.

My daughter went through a phase of coming into our bed and the Health Visitor said that it was because coming in to our bed had become the trigger for her to go to sleep. She suggested that we make something else the trigger for her to sleep, so we were told to pop her back into her bed, say "Shhh, it's bedtime", and then wind up her musical mobile which, if we did it consistently, would work as the mobile would be the trigger for sleep. Luckily, it did work after a week or two.

If your little one has always slept with you, how about making his/her bedroom really cosy and perhaps buying a new nightlight, new bedlinen, or CD player to play soothing music, so that going to bed is a treat? And after bath, pop him/her into their own bed, snuggle them down, and read story to them in their own bed. A few drops of "magic lavender" (lavender essential oil) works a treat too on the corner of the duvet cover.

Hope that helps and good luck!

Answer 7

Oh My. you have started a bad habit. You are the adult so sit her down and tell her, she is a big girl now and big girls sleep in there own bed. Tell her she is going to have to stay in her own bed and stick to it. If she wakes in the middle of the night and crawls in bed with you, just pick her up and carry her back to her room. It will work but you can't be lazy about it. That kind of habit can be detrimental to a relationship with a partner. Nip it in the butt.

Answer 8

Put her to bed in her bed. Then sit very quietly on the floor next to her bed. Put her back in every time she gets up. Do not say a word while this is going on. Every night, move one foot closer to the door. If she gets in bed with you in the middle of the night, take her quietly back to bed.
Sorry, but you will lose some sleep while this is going on.

Answer 9

You put her in her bed, and when she gets into your bed you put her back into hers. Nobody gets much sleep for a couple of nights but eventually she will sleep in her own bed. I did it when my daughter was 3 1/2 and it was really hard. She was crying on one side of the bedroom door and I was on the other side crying. It took a few nights but eventually she slept in her own bed.

Answer 10

The easiest way? Making her bed so appealing that she will never want to sleep in bed with you again. Start making bedtime in her room a ritual. Make forts/tents over the bed. I had a dollhouse headboard when I was growing up, it was the best! Don't give up!