Why do people who don't have kids have to put up with kids screaming at the top of their lungs everywhere?!!!!

Question

Thing is this, whenever you go to a restaurant or movie theater or anywhere really, there's always parents with a kid or two, and they're always screaming or just simply annoying the heck out of someone that's nearby, why do we never do something?, why is it that we're suppose to just put up with it when we're there to have a good time, a nice relaxing meal or watch a movie?, why is it that any maitre d' is a lot more likely to ask you to keep it down because of your mobile than because of a screaming kid?, why do parents never do anything about it?, they only sort of smile at you like saying "what a mess, huh?, but well kids will be kids, i suppose you'll just have to run back home and change your shirt, sorry about the "whatever" my kid spilled on you", and that just doesn't cut it, don't you think?, so tell me friends, who's robbed us of our reason?, why do we put up with this?, why do some people expect us to do so without complain?, why can't you have a nice quiet meal anymore?

HOW SAD!!!!, i would have never thought that people lost their reason and perspective when they had kids!!!!, HOW UNBELIEVEBLY SAD!!!!, SAD that they cannot be the people they used to be and have an impartial and unbiased answer or at least understand a point of view that is not your own!!! hahahaha, you sadden me people, but ok, thanks for your answers so far, you can be veeeeeery helpful, thanks, cheers!

THANK YOU!!!, i can see now there's still people with the ability to give an unbiased answer, for a moment there i thought i was alone in this, hope is not lost i see, THANK YOU PEOPLE!!!!; THANK YOU, my faith in humanity has been restored!, CHEERS!

Answer 1

I understand where you are coming from, completely. It is annoying when children are misbehaving in public.

I was a restaurant manager for years, when children were misbehaving at the table, I'd provide them with something to keep their attention, if that did not work, I'd kindly ask the parents, to remove the child, until they calmed down. If children were running amok in the restaurant, I'd ask the family to keep them in their seats, or leave... so tell the manager, let them deal with it, if they won't, then ask the offending party to pay for your meal ;)

As for adults who talk loudly on cellphones in restaurants, movies etc.. They are self absorbed.... at the movies, complain to the management, in restaurants, complain to the management... they'll speak to the patrons ..

Answer 2

I'm a parent (who's child never acts the way described because I've taught her better) and I can honestly say that I totally agree with you! It seems almost anywhere you go anymore there are children misbehaving, acting like spoiled brats, screaming, whining, running around having no consideration for anyone else in the store, restaurant, etc. There have been many times I've wanted to confront the parents of these kinds of kids and say "Excuse me, but you need to do something about your kid/s. People are trying to enjoy themselves and there's no reason we should have to put up with this!"

I believe the reason is because there are many irresponsible people out there having kids. These people don't teach their kids about having any kind of manners or respect and they don't discipline their kids when they misbehave...they just let the behavior go on and do nothing about it. Unfortunately, these parents aren't just doing injustice to the innocent bystanders who get annoyed, they're doing an even bigger injustice to their kid/s by not teaching them the difference between right and wrong. It's sad.

If people can't be responsible enough to teach their kids the difference between right and wrong, they shouldn't be having kids in the first place!

Answer 3

I agree. If your child cannot handle being quiet and sitting still in certain places like theaters and restaurants, don't bring them.

Of course there are times an places where upset children can tolerated, such as family restaurants, but their are places that children who cannot act reasonably (and some children can act reasonably -- I'm not saying all can't) should not be.

If I go to a fancy restaurant for a quiet meal with my bf, I expect just that. I don't want to here a child whining about his meal or a baby who is too tired to do anything but cry.

Don't bring you baby to a movie if it needs your attention at some point during the showing, because babies will ask for that attention by crying and sitting 2 hours in the dark theater watching the screen is not giving them the attention they want.

There are a few restaurants that do no allow children under 12 and I think that is perfectly acceptable. They want a certain atmosphere for their guests and screaming babies is not part of it.

I have nothing against parents or children, but honestly, their are places that children who can not sit still should not be. Do you ever see screaming children at the symphony or the opera? Why is a nice restaurant any different?

Answer 4

The problem is that the parents think the annoying behavior is YOUR job to "deal with" instead of theirs.Children can be taught to behave and we should expect certain things from them depending on the age. What you are seeing is a product of lazy parenting. I can say this as a parent of 3 very well behaved children who used to be hard to handle when they were small. These are some of the things I've learned: If you know your child can not or will not sit through a movie, don't bring them. Leave them with grandma or something. If the kid is gonna get up and run around, scream, throw things... etc He's not enjoying the movie anyway. He's bored. So why bring him?In other public places you can take the child to a lobby, restroom, or outside and calm him down so he won't disturb others. bring someone along who can help if you have trouble controlling them. in the restaurant situation I feel that people have a right to eat in peace no matter where they go. I get so annoyed by out of control kids in restaurants.If it's a little one, don't bring them tired or cranky. Bring a toy or a bottle. With older kids you are doing them no favors by not teaching them manners. If they do something wrong, put a stop to it and let them know why it is inappropriate behavior so they can learn.If they persist, they need some form of punishment.

It's amazing how many people with kids don't know how to parent. there are so many things they can do but are just too lazy to do it.

Answer 5

We don't. I have a grown child and I no longer have the tolerance for misbehaving children.
It's not the child's fault is always the parents who aren't teaching their kids to respect others.
I live in a neighborhood with this exact problem and the parents are more ignorant and socially bankrupt than the children. Needless to say they don't like me much because I let them know I'm not going to tolerate their kids.

Parent's who don't like this train of thought --- tough, I've been there, done that and I'm not doing it anymore!

Answer 6

I totally agree with you. I Hate when I go into a restaurant and get seated near someone with kids. Most parents now days do not reprimand their kids. They just let them yell, scream, fall out, run around. It isn't the kids, it is the lame parents who don't either remove the child from the premises or reprimand the child right then and there. When I was a kid all my dad had to do was give us the 'eye" and we stopped instantly and came to attention. That comes from spanking kids early and it only took one or two spankings and then we knew he was not messing around. So after that we never had to be spanked again, we knew what could come! LOL!
Many people have no idea how to raise kids today.
If your kids are Not well behaved, then leave them home.

Answer 7

I can see the point because I have a 7 year old whos been known to throw a temper tantrum in her day. I find it very embarassing when ever it did hapen in public. But I also make sure to correct her which is something alot of parents dont do. If we are ever in a reasturant or whatever and there is a annoying kid I make sure to point it out loud enough for the parents to hear because they should be incontrol of there children.

Answer 8

The problem is this... most Parents just dont care anymore. There are places and times for kids to run around and do whatever they want... At home, at the park, or other appropriate settings. Restaurants, movie theatres, and other similar venues should be off limits to parents that have children that are uncontrollable. Im not saying they should be off limits to ALL children, Ive seen many well-behaved children in restaurants, but I also see children that RUN around in a restaurant. As this is just plain negligence on the parents part and this is NEVER appropriate. I mean, come on parents, servers carrying around hot plate and/or drinks... is it supposed to be the servers responsibility to dodge the kids? What will happen next, a parent suing a restaurant for dropping a plate and burning the child?

It just seems like parents nowadays dont know how to discipline their children - Im not saying lets start abusing them... but hey, if your kids have behavoiral problems, lets find other ways.. hey, think about getting a babysitter, or have a dinner party at home, rent a movie. I know people like to go out for dinner... but find something for your kid to do, a coloring book, bring toys, etc. These children are going to grow up unruly with no responsibilities. They need to be taught respect and etiquette when out at certain venues. I know children will be children, I love children and have 2 of them, its just that parents need to have better guidelines on how they should bring up their children. Not telling you HOW to raise your children, but children that are taught respect, will show respect to you and others. Wouldnt that be a better world for everyone??

Answer 9

I agree wholeheartedly with you. I am a parent. I taught my kids AT HOME, early on how I expected them to behave. If they misbehaved while we were out, we left. No, they DID NOT get what they wanted, they got punished.

It is not the child's fault but the parents. Parents do not take responsibility like they should. I was at a wedding a few years ago, the wedding was being recorded for the couple on DVD, a parent with a small child (a year old or so) stayed in the church WITH the crying kid, during the whole service. It was a disruption to everyone around them AND I am sure to the bride and groom as well. Not to mention their wedding DVD is not their vows, but that kid screaming.

Parents just don't do what they should to keep the kids under control and behaving. I

Answer 10

It seems that people with kids think they are entitled to go wherever, do whatever they please. Not all parents have zero control over their kids, but it seems many do. There are plenty (too many) kids running around out there with zero discipline. This reflects bad on the parent. I was at a wedding a couple of weeks ago, and a kid old enough to know better was an obnoxious brat nearly the entire ceremony before the parents FINALLY took the kid out of there. I've seen some perfectly well-behaved kids as well. Whichever the kids are is a reflection on their parents. And if a kid is a monster...it will do no good to reason with the parent.