help my sis in law is makin me crazy?

Question

ok my sis in law moved in 3 m ago and it was for 2 weeks. She has a 9 m baby that i watch ft while she works.. i guess the prob is how do i get her to clean up after herself and not use all my stuff. I think i am a very clean person and she never cleans the high chair ( i do) and the babbas ( i do) and,, when she decides to get ready for work she uses all my bathroom stuff.. NOw for some reason my husband says i should talk to her, but i know if i do im going to blow up and i dont want it to be like that. as it is when he says something to her about the use of the car all the time she gets realy mad and up set.. please help me and tell me what i should do.. thank you

Answer 1

When we invited someone to live with us, we need to set ground rules BEFORE they move in.... apparently, you did not do this... but assumed she would live the way you do.

While you and i know it's unhealthy not to wash the high chair and bottles, your sister in law obviously does not, or is careless and lazy.

I think that it's time to talk with her about these things. You can approach it gently and in a kind manner. Let her know you need help keeping things clean in your home, and you'd like her to pitch in -- also, ask her if she'd mind getting her own personal products, because you'd rather she did not use yours. It's YOUR home, and you have the right to set boundaries.

Your sister in law sounds immature, unfortunately. I can't understand how someone who borrows YOUR car would get upset and "mad" when they can't use it constantly.

Some people really don't appreciate kind help, that's for sure.

If she gets all upset and mad, then let her. With any luck, she will move out.

Answer 2

In situations like that it's sometimes best to just bite the bullet and have it out. IF you don't think she'll respond to civil conversation...that's your only option. Just an FYI, my ex-husband cheated on me 9 months pregnant with our third child. I left him, moved in with my Mom two hours away, had the baby three weeks later, got a job when she was two weeks old and was moved out of my Mom's into my own place within a few weeks. Total, I think I had to stay with my Mom for two months. There should be no reason why she is still there. She's taking advantage of the situation and people like that need to get their as*es ripped just based on integrity alone. If I can do it with relatively no other financial support other than my own, with 3 children...there is no excuse for her. Oh...and my house has NEVER been nasty...she's a bum. She needs to be informed of that!!

Answer 3

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Answer 4

If this you husband's sister, he should talk to her first. She is using you all for free room and board, and babysitting duties. Sure, wouldn't you like to live rent free, never pay for babysitting, have maid service and never have to buy anything? If she gets mad, she gets mad,maybe she will grow up and take on the responsibility that she should have done when she had her baby.

Answer 5

You do not live in a hotel. Your sister seems to think so, and I imagine that's because you haven't set any rules or boundaries. Your sister shouldn't be doing the things she's doing. Give her some rules and a date for her to move out.

Answer 6

you and your husband together need to sit her down, lay down some ground rules and tell her it's either you do this, or we do that. as in, get out. she needs to use her money to buy her own things, and she needs to come clean when she gets home and ur car is for work or emergencies, she needs to save her money and get her own car. if she doesn't like this then there is always the alternative...you know?

Answer 7

Write her a letter. This way you won't blow up, there can be no misunderstanding as you've had time to think things out and word things in the best way possible.

Answer 8

Time for the sister in law to move and be on her own.

Answer 9

dude, according to me , i think she is just using u and taking advantage of ur situation and ur quietness, u shud really go and talk to her. but don't approach her vehemently, approach her calmly and tell her about the things u hv problem with! if she is sensible enough , she will understand , if not u hv the right to BLAST OFF!

Answer 10

I know no one wants to get into a confrontation, but if she gets the idea she pissing off her hosts, maybe she won't want to live there. Its very unfair of her to impose on you and your husband.