she goes thro my trash! can u say invasion of privacy! its not like i had any in the first place! and when i'm on the computer she sits next to me! not like theres nowhere else to sit so she's gonna sit next to me (while i'm trying to have a personal conversation) and watch tv. no!, she sits right next to me (practically in my lap!) and watches everything i do! and if i'm trying to talk to a friend she'll keep asking me wut brb and g2g and everything means! why wont she give me any privacy!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
2007-10-30 02:03:19 · 13 answers · asked by walks with goats 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
wow that sucks...your mom is definitely waaaay to over protective. have a talk with her and tell her that you feel like a baby when she treats you like this. or go through her trash and follow her around. then ask her how she likes it.
2007-10-30 02:34:43 · answer #1 · answered by Yup Its Me Again 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I went through something similar, i.e. my mother would go through my stuff too. When I tried to bring up privacy, she told me "boys don't need privacy." My mother also believed that boys were the ones who did inappropriate things, got into trouble, etc., while girls did not. She never invaded my sister's privacy and once even said "girls need their privacy." Sis also had her own private telephone in her room only and was allowed to talk all she wanted, while myself and my brother had to use the family phone and were limited.
I'm not sure there is a way around this for you, other than trying to do things like get on the computer, etc., at place where she isn't, like a friend's home where privacy is respected or doing them when she isn't around.
2007-10-30 09:45:38 · answer #2 · answered by dapriz6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Mum!! lol sorry, she has heard all the horror stories about children being groomed on the internet for abuse by sick perverts.
Why not get her an MSN account of her own, then she can talk to her friends.
I think you should sit down and talk to her about it and see if you cant come to a compromise on what privacy you expect and what she is prepared to give you. I know it seems annoying to you, but she is just trying to protect you.
My mum was quite controlling too, but that stemmed from the fact that she had no freedom while she was growing up. I tell you what though, I would give anything to have her here controlling me again!
2007-10-30 09:15:57 · answer #3 · answered by Denise H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are, and that really does matter. She's been told to watch what her kids do on the internet, and she's watching. Keeps you from doing things you shouldn't be doing. She's been told parents have the right to search everything for contraband, and she's searching, hoping she doesn't find any. I understand why it's annoying to you, but if you aren't doing anything you shouldn't be doing, just let her do her mom-thing. After a while, she'll get tired of it, too.
2007-10-30 09:16:09 · answer #4 · answered by Lady G 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi there, well thats mom's for you..they are extremely protective!
However u should be happy u have a mom who cares so much for u and wants to protect u..as your mother she is concerned what u are doing and who u are talking to.
Its a mother's worry and love for her child and is normal!!!!!!!!!!
As u get older she will relax more I'm sure.You are lucky,many young people dont have people to worry about them.
I know this isnt any consolation when she wants to know all the things you're saying!
Paul
2007-10-30 13:50:09 · answer #5 · answered by paulpoulboy. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
privacy...you have no privacy in your parents home or while your under age....its a shame that you feel that your to good to have a conversation with your mom.....she just wants to be apart of your life.....what harm is it going to do to let her in on some things........and as for always watching you ....that's on you ....and what ever you did to make her not trust you..... I think you have some issues as well ......not just your mom.....you know the saying....."the apple doesn't fall to far from the tree"
2007-10-30 09:58:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I think shes not used to a teen and shes worried about u.Just ask her nicely plz can I get some privacy.It happens to me some times cause I'm 11 accept not as worse.
2007-10-30 17:12:02 · answer #7 · answered by halo7196 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are or give any background information so it is rather difficult to give you a clear answer. If you are still in your early teens or have had some societal problems, perhaps, she is just hoping to head off any more trouble.
2007-10-30 09:36:18 · answer #8 · answered by jcf6865 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well talk to her about it.tell her to give you your privacy.you could also try talking to your dad about it to.he may also talk to your mom for you.buy a lock,and lock your bedroom door.if you have a diary,make sure it has a lock on it.tell your mother how would she feel if you went through her trash.you could also show her that you are more responsible by helping out more around the house.dont give her reasons not to trust you.go to school everyday.dont get into fights.do all of your homework on time.even ask your mother for help when you need it.
2007-10-30 09:18:56 · answer #9 · answered by mary s 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you know that your mother loves you and she is only doing those crazy thing out of love just try to bare with it for awhile you wont be young for long.think of it this way there are mother out there that could careless what their daughters are doing ,and there are daughters out there with no mother to do all those crazy things that your mother does its out of love it shell pass as you get older but you will always be your mother little girl she wont's the best for you.
2007-10-30 12:23:57 · answer #10 · answered by bibbieevelyn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋