If you are shoved to the ground, smacked in the head, jabbed (with hands) and grabbed b the arm, pinched, and somebody gets sooo close to your face that they spit on you when they talk to are screemi and stepping on your feet...? Is this abuse? Is SOME of this abuse? Please specify. ALSO: By a STEP "father".
2007-10-30 02:01:21 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Well, yes. I was bing mouthy, BUT doesn't the law say: No matter what.. you CANNOT hit child? Or m I wrong and it depends on what you did?
2007-10-30 02:05:02 · update #1
Well, yeah. It happens a few times a week I would say.
2007-10-30 02:05:36 · update #2
My mom says it NOT abuse, and she always takes his side bc she is a christian and he is not. And SUPPOSEDLY the bible says to ALWAYS do what your husband tells you, even if they are not a Christian.
2007-10-30 02:07:38 · update #3
Sometmes he lashes out at my mothes, as well. But she (as I said before) doesn't think it's abuse. Well, I don't really have any bruises except for onc in a GREAT while. But then, sometimes I will get welts if he slaps me.... But that is only when he is REALLY mad. And no, he IS NOT DRUNK Just lashes out when he is mad about ANYTHING!
2007-10-30 02:10:08 · update #4
yup, it's abuse. tell your mom before this gets out of hand.
they bible also says "do not be yoked with and unbeliever" if she is such a Christian how come she doesn't know that one. if your mom won't listen to you, go tell the pastor at your church, iff he doesn't listen tell a teacher, and so on until someone listens to you and does something. if all else fails, go to the police. i was abused by my father for 5 years and never told anyone for fear my dad would kill me. if he's not threatening to kill you, tell while you have the chance.
2007-10-30 02:07:01 · answer #1 · answered by ...... 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
The opening question and incidents you described is,even in its least form,IS abuse. I have been subjected to this type of treatment at the hands of both my mother and my father. These people were abused by their parants but the abuses they inflicted are far worse than any they suffered. Abuses seem to be getting worse as they go largely unnoticed by those sworn to protect children.
I could smell the coffee and stale cigaretts on his breath even after he walked away. Then he returns and taking of his belt proceeds to swing wildly leaving welts across my face, arms, back, and face. Yet, having not been witnessed by anyone or reported by me he wen unchecked or unpunished by any law.
I am almost 50 now and although they are both dead now I can still hear their voices and simetimes can even feel the sting of words and beatings suffered all those yeqars ago. I have not had children as I don't want the same to happen to them at my hand. I have never recieved counseling for the suffering I did and dod/did not want totake the chance that I would become what I contempt.
Abuses can take on a myriad of forms and inflicts deeper wounds than can be seen with the naked eye. If a child is made to feel the pain of a parents' full ire then yes it is abuse. There is a difference in correcting and abuse and there is a very thin line separating them. Verbal, emetional, and physical abuse is wrong and should be punishable in the same fashion as was inflicted.
Sometimes a step-parent can be worse than a birth-parent. The brith-parent out of the picture gives the step a free pass to inflict without fear of reprisal.
Stop the madness!
2007-10-30 02:33:09 · answer #2 · answered by Joshot 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What you did has no bearing on whether or not this is considered abuse. It IS abuse, and noone can treat this way no matter WHAT they are angry about. Call the authorities immediately after it happens, or even now if you want. I hate to tell you to go through it one more time, but the plus side to it would be that the welts would be more visible and you'd have definite proof. Either way, you need to call the police. I lived in a situation exactly like this, and it only gets worse with time. Eventually you'll mom will start to look to you as an outlet for HER rage, and you'll be getting it from both of them. Your mom is in denial and is an unfit parent for allowing you to remain in a home like that.
2007-10-30 03:24:39 · answer #3 · answered by Magaroni 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok! It is abuse! i would make sure to call the police or something! I know that you love him but, he needs to do his time. A lot of children can be really hurt from things like this happening! Tell your mother right away! Is he always mad? Does he drink? Was he abused? Any of the last three may be why he is abusing you! Whenever you get welts and bruises, show your mother. If you tell the police, you may get moved to a foster home. Unless your mother and stepdad live in seperate houses. When he is mad does he just take it out on you?
BE HAPPY
~maddie
Ok! You need to go to someone who you can talk about this with! Your stepdad may go to jail!
2007-10-30 02:06:49 · answer #4 · answered by Emma 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, That is all abuse and My real dad did all of the above go and tell someone before something really bad happens. I kept it all in and that is worse then ever telling someone your mom is scared that is the whole problem make sure you take a picture. I don't know how old you are if you can develop the film maybe go talk to a friends mom or someone you trust to take you to get it developed and talk to the cops. Its going to be hard but you are going to have to do it. There is a reason his marks don't stay he knows the stopping point so he will not go to jail. In the bible it says a lot about marriage, it says make sure you are equal yoked, then it says that you are supose to listen to your husband but he is suppose to listen to you ( I paraprased and abbreviated) Go get a bible and in the back it will have different topics go and look up marriage and it will give you many things about marriage. Good luck
2007-10-30 03:08:25 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are being abused. And all of it is.
But you wrote, "I was being mouthy", still it does not give him a right to hit you, or do the things that you have mentioned.
Go to your mother and tell her that you will not give mouth, but he must not get physical with you no matter what, if he does then you will talk to the principal or police. Then be careful not to give mouth.
I can understand raising voice, if a person is agitated or upset. But we must all promise each other to stay calm, and work thing out amicably.
Once your mother talks to him, go and covey your apology for giving him mouth, just to keep peace in the family.
Show my answer to your mother first and the after the apology show this to him as specially if he says were you get all this from or some thing.
Has he adopted you?
Do not say much, just say I am sorry for giving mouth, I will do my best to not do that in the future but if there are issues then we need to resolve them by bringing them in open, calmly and peace fully. Without my giving mouth or your getting physical.
2007-10-30 02:21:53 · answer #6 · answered by minootoo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would call this abuse, yes. I'm not sure how old you are but I remember being a lippy teenager, too and my dad snapped his cap at me many times, often leaving bruises. I was seeing a therapist at the time who said she was going to call the police if she ever saw bruises on me again. Up until that point, I'd never though of myself as being abused. Talk to a professional - a cop, a teacher, a counselor. Be honest about what is happening and what is setting him off. Try to see what you can do differently. If he continues to man-handle you and intimidate you, you might need to report him. Make sure, though, because those kinds of accusations will seriously tear your family apart. Good luck!!
2007-10-30 04:08:34 · answer #7 · answered by Shelley L 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mother must be a very devout Christian to follow the Bible. I believe the Bible also says women can't get a divorce. She should call a woman's shelter to come get her or the police. But if she won't help herself then there is nothing you can do. Just call the cops and get out yourself. Yes that is abuse. Too many women in my opinion don't know their place in society anymore. It's all abuse.
2007-10-30 05:24:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is abuse. I have been there. However mine was with my mother. Talk to a coucelor at school. They are the ones that got the ball rolling for me 13 years ago. Also in the process try to not mouth off. Try staying out of his way until you get this reported. Stand up for yourself and use the athoritys to do so. Count to 10 when you are frusterated. Good luck
2007-10-30 02:22:12 · answer #9 · answered by Megan E 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of what "caused"the person to react this way it is inappropriate .If you know you are doing something wrong then try not do it. Everyone makes mistakes in judgement regardless of age but no one learns anything by this type of behaviour except violence is seemingly apprpriate.IT IS NOT..HOWEVER, no matter what was behind this situation does not validate the out of control reaction you received.I would talk to someone on a kids hotline.If this situation is not stopped it will only get worse.If your mother won't help you ,you need to talk to another adult to help you. Take care.
2007-10-30 02:17:57 · answer #10 · answered by gussie 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋