she doesnt get it that i like my room how it is! why!?! she ays its always messy and i need to organize. she doesnt understand that it is impossible for me to be organized! ya i can organize but its not going to stay organized if i have to use any of it! i keep telling her "mom i'm not an organized person! i CAN NOT be organized!!!!!!!!! it's IMPOSSIBLE!!!!!!! i no where everything is. it's called the 'order of chaos'! there's an order to it u just dont understand the order of how it's not organized." and she wont just leave my stuff alone! she goes thro all my stuff when i'm at school too! she takes everything from my wholr oom and puts it in a giant pile in the middle of the room! even my clothes! how can i stop her!?!?!?!?!?!?!
2007-10-30 01:50:26 · 19 answers · asked by walks with goats 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
she doesnt have ocd or anything (she is always moving stuff around in the whole house). she goes thro my trash! can u say invasion of privacy! its not like i had any in the first place!
2007-10-30 01:57:16 · update #1
Older peole dont understand the order of chaos or organised mayhem.
They think in a more linear way, they like tidy rooms, neat piles, folded clothes and made beds.
Thats why kids and parents clash.Its an age old problem like dogs and cats!!!!
Maybe u two could compromise, u try to keep it a bit more the way she likes and she promises not to move stuff.
Agreements can only be reached on compromise,especially when the two parties live in the one house!
Again like your other question..its mothers love !
Paul
2007-10-30 06:54:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have noticed that this is not the first question you have posted about your mom. I am not sure how old you are, but it sounds to me like maybe you are the one with the problem. I feel you are rebellious. The poor lady is having to clean your room too! How about you turn this around and get up off your booty and start keeping your room clean, putting your dirty clothes in the laundry room/hamper, pick the trash up out of the room, use your time wisely and stop being like a brat. You know if you had better organization skills and also tried harder to make sure everything that needs to be done like chores then maybe mom may trust that you will get the responsibility enough to have your privacy on the Internet. You do not need a lock on your door. Your room would probably start to smell if mom did not clean it for you and move stuff around as you call it. I have a son just like you! He is now19 and his father took over for me and made him move out because he is uncontrollable, won't take advise or criticism, he is lazy. We love him dearly just like your mother loves you, but some times you kids think you should be the parents and treat us like we are the children. Who has taken care of you all your life? Who does your laundry and cleans your room? Now my son is learning the hard way and has decided that we are not bad parents at all. Honey, wake up and smell your roses. Best of luck!
2007-10-30 02:43:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is impossible. You CAN keep it organized, you're just being lazy. We've all been there, and look back on those years and wonder what in the world was wrong with us? Keeping your room neat isn't that difficult. And the biggest benefit (in addition to being proud of knowing everything is in it's place), she stays out of the room because there is no reason for her to go in. It's her house, she wants every room neat, so just do it.
2007-10-30 02:18:19 · answer #3 · answered by Lady G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Order of chaos". Honey I tried to use that one over 40years ago, didn't work for me then, won't work for you now.
Grow up. Any monkey can be trained to be organized. You can do it, and you will do it. Employers aren't as nice as your mom, they will simply boot you out the door instead of trying to help you. "Can't" "Impossible" = "Fired" in the real world outside the protection of the one who loves you the most.
2007-10-30 02:46:07 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ROFL she's trying to help you learn the art of organization. Just wait until you move out. That's when relief will come.
2007-10-30 01:54:27 · answer #5 · answered by hopelessmagic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol It's a Mom thing,my Mother did it to me when I lived with her and my ex-wife never touched the furniture until my Son was born and after that she moved it every week! Just be happy you have a room and a Mother!
2007-10-30 01:57:55 · answer #6 · answered by notagain49 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is trying to teach you organizational skills. The fact that you cannot get organized is precisely why she does it. You will need to learn this sooner or later. Maybe work WITH her on this?
2007-10-30 01:53:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur mum should SOOOOOOOO resprect ur privacy... have words and just tell her its the way you like it and that she shouldnt be bothered because she should never be going in there or neither should anybody else unless you want them in there! even still, it should be tidy to some extent.. meet her half way n clear it up a bit maybe?
2007-10-30 01:55:34 · answer #8 · answered by *Xx Ashleigh xX* 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your Mother is probably very proud of her home and is just trying to be sure that it looks nice. Who could blame her for that?
2007-10-30 02:40:17 · answer #9 · answered by jcf6865 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out on your own. Pay your own rent. Buy your own food, electricity, water, phone, cable and other services.
This will fix your problem.
2007-10-30 02:22:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋