would you mind sharing your story about confronting an abusive parent?

Question

how did you feel after you confronted them? did you feel any resolve within yourself?

Thanks to all who shared.

Answer 1

I never had an abusive parent so I am not qualified to answer your question. Some of the things that kids now-a-days consider to be abuse are just parents trying to keep their children out of trouble and help them grow up to be well mannered adults.

Answer 2

My mother is an emotional and psychological abuser. I have confronted her and will continue to confront her. I don't expect any resolve. My mother isn't capable of seeing herself that way, even though several of her children feel exactly the same and all of them were effected. As she approaches 80, she has begun to rewrite "history".

I have learned to not expect enlightenment from this woman, so I simply acknowledge that I love her because she's my mother and any changes in my life are on me.

Answer 3

I had an abusive father, and i quit talking to him.

He is a very bitter and egotistical person, so confronting him would have been like talking to a rock.

I have gone on with life and am taking care of ME. I have been in therapy and realized quite a lot about the relationship with my father.... HE is ill, and he needs help. He will never get help. It was NOT my fault, but his.... and he was probably abused as a child, as well... that isn't an "excuse" for him to continue the cycle, but he did, nonetheless.