Are older Christian women doing as instructed in the scripture?and what happens if their not"?

Question

"The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed." Titus 2:3-5

Asked by Paula, Don's wife.

Judy: Dear Sister I see how often you speak of RUACH HAKODESH.Would He not help you with this?
"Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ's sake: for when I am weak, then am I strong." 2 Corinthians 12:10
Often when we know how to, 'we do it' but when we don't know how, we become as little children, and HE Does It In Through Us.
You my dear Sister would probably be the best vessel that He has to do this kind of work.He does not need wisdom or strength, experiance is not needed here, but an empty vessel to fill.

Answer 1

Hey there Paula,
My answer would be much like Judy E.T. in that I grew up in and around a lot of abuse of various kinds. While my parents divorced when I was young, they both re-married several times. The abuse continued for me. It took me MANY years of searching & research (I was atheist/agnostic) before I came to know & love my Savior. Mostly because I just didn't want or need what many said; that Jesus was (a crutch for hurting souls) However, in all honesty it is MUCH harder to be a Christian & stand fast in the faith, than it would be to say He is a "crutch"! To those that still think that....having faith is Jesus is a "crutch" I challenge them to TRY it! Faithfully, not with a half hearted effort! Just TRY reading the Bible all the way through, praying & trusting that God WILL answer you.
(Talk about warfare...you will find everything happens then, phone calls, emergencies, unexpected friends dropping by..the list goes on & on...and then you also find you will have to fight with yourself, with matters like, I don't have time, I am too tired, the kids are too distracting, I want to watch a little more TV...ect. IF you make it all the way through the Bible, praying & asking God to reveal Himself to you....HONESTLY it WILL change your life too! And give you a HOPE for the future that you never had before! PTL!)
When I first became a Christian, my entire family deserted me, and many would not speak to me (including my own daughters) This went on for years. They all told me it was a "passing phase". It has been over 10 years now... (LONG PHASE...lol... if you ask me) I continue to stand fast in the Lord Jesus, as I KNOW He is the Way, the Truth & the only Life! I share the Good News with ANY that will listen. When the JW's or Mormons come to my door I do not tell them to "go away" but to come on in, for they are a ministry that comes to me!! PTL! My mother & daughters HAVE very recently been coming to visit & I try with all my heart to tell them the wonders I have both seen, & heard & read about!
I see Jesus working in their lives too, now. Though MUCH prayer is still needed on their behalf! Too many people truly have been "blinded" & de-sensitized" by all the garbage that is out here in the world. That some want to call "just facts of life". But goo 2 U by way of the zoo" taught in our public schools only destroys our childrens self esteem. The TV blasts them with sex, & unbelievable violence! They are taught to want "stuff", more & more. The church teaches them ABOUT God, but NOT how to "put on the armor, and USE the Sword of Truth!" Which is Y there is such a huge failure. You cannot RUN from the "enemy", for he WILL pursue you, and overtake you. OUR children MUST be taught HOW to stand fast & fight! Yes, there are battles they will loose, but there will be also great battles they will WIN! Trusting that the LORD is the ultimate One that WINS the entire war!
So, with all that said, YES I do teach & exhort the younger woman, whenever the Lord gives me the opportunity...not ONLY by what I say, but by how I continue to live my life!
Praise God, whose Might Hand upholds me!

Answer 2

Hi Paula,
great question! My opinion is that they are NOT doing it....for more than one reason. Some do not know HOW to do that. Some do not feel there is a NEED for this. Some do not think people will actually LISTEN if it was done. I think it would be great if there were classes given to show older women how to approach the younger women of today....and how to share what they know. I have actually gone to a couple of older Christian women a few years ago and asked if they would share with me....and brought these verses up. They were good Christians...but did not know what to do. Maybe it would be less intimidating for the church to have womens ministry groups and match older and younger women up....then the next meeting switch to someone else. Could do it like a game (you know how they give advice for bridal showers...) but when people actually GET some good advice they might keep listening...who knows! Anyway...I think this is VERY needed. There are a lot of young.....and not as young women, mothers, wives....out there who were never taught some things by their own parents and could use some advice.

Answer 3

Are older women teaching the younger women to be sober, love their husband and children to be discreet, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands?

Not in my experience. There is a huge lack of discipleship in most churches today. People are too self-centered and have so much they themselves are trying to deal with that they rarely, if ever, reach out to anyone. Some of these women I wouldn't want as counsel--they've lived ungodly lives and divorced their husband and wouldn't be a good example anyway.

There are a lot of Jezebels running around and its hard to find mature christian women to rely upon for any sound advice. I am nearing forty and I do reach out to younger women and share with them as God has shown me how to be a submissive wife, how to love and care for my children and home. I love this ministry but many young women do not think anyone should tell them anything about anything and are in rebellion.

I know this sounds so negative. I've had a few positive experiences with teaching younger women how to live for God--how to glorify God with their lives by loving their husband and children, etc. All I can do is offer what God has shown me. IF it is not accepted that is between them and God.

The word of God is blasphemed if we are not doing all that we can to serve the LORD by serving others.


There is a book that I recommend to women--whether old or young--it is wonderful and is written by a older woman to younger women to help them and fulfills this scripture.

Here is the link:

Answer 4

Some are and some are not. If they are not then some possible results are broken families and reproach coming upon the name of Christ as their witness for Him is tarnished as well as their children and younger women not being properly discipled and thinking that ungodly behavior is acceptable.

1 Corinthians 5:6 Your boasting is not good. Do you not know that a little leaven leavens the whole lump?

1 Corinthians 15:33 Do not be deceived: "Bad company ruins good morals."

Answer 5

Brethren,

Beloved, believe not every spirit, but try the spirits whether they are of God: because many false prophets are gone out into the world.

For if he that cometh preacheth another Jesus, whom we have not preached, or if ye receive another spirit, which ye have not received, or another gospel, which ye have not accepted, ye might well bear with him.

For I suppose I was not a whit behind the very chiefest apostles.

But though I be rude in speech, yet not in knowledge; but we have been throughly made manifest among you in all things.

For false Christs and false prophets shall rise, and shall shew signs and wonders, to seduce, if it were possible, even the elect.

Answer 6

Hi Don and Paula. great question... thanks .
Many of the older Christian women are doing as God commanded. And, many are not. But, we must continue to pray that we all will fillfull the purpose and destiny to which God calls us. There are certain roles that God gives us, to each man and woman, as they are submitted to God and to each other. And they must be done. There are things also God commands we do for our fellow brothers and sisters, and we are commanded to do these things, not just given a mere suggestion. Etiher we are Gods in obedience or we arent Gods. Which is it folks?
All ppl need a mentor, somene really of God to learn from and to see things actually in action that are talked about. We all need mentors, even us older ppl.
And, we all need to see ppl that are new at being Christians, and be their mentor, as well as find those that can mentor to us. I have watched this work so effecitively, but still its so rarely done. How will they know if we dont teach them? How can they know its possible if they dont see those things in actions. Words are nothing without backing them up with actions. Love is an action word. So is Faith. Lets teach the younger Christians how they are to act as a Christian, and lets learn from a more mature Christian, ( not always older tho)< on things we dont yet know. And check all things against scirpture to be sure each thing always lines up fully with the word of God, to KNOW it is true.
So much in Gods precious Holy Word that we need to know and then obey. ALl are called, seems only a few will answer the call to believe, and even fewer will answer the full call to LOVE AND OBEY.
God has given us each purpose and to fullfill the destiny God calls us to, we must do it ALL His way and leave self right out of the mix. Its only what God says that matters. He has all the answers and will give them to Us if we seek Him and the answers that come from knowing Him.
If we are not doing the things God calls us to, we will be answering for these things, and haveing serious consequences from disobedience. Disobedience always leads to curse. Obedience always leads to blessing. OF course, one can repent and freceive forgivness, to a pont. God says there is a point when He stops striving with us, and gives up, That is when we have shown that our hard heart will never change and we will never follow Jesus. We must choose for Jesus before we die or Jesus comes again.
SO folks, lets do it now. Say Yes to Jesus and No to sin, and it cn be done, by the indwelling of the Holy Spirit once born again. We are to be a new creation then, and have Gods heart This is why He commands us to obey.
Having Jesus is to make you Christlike, and save you not only fro hell, but to have kingdom living right here and now and enjoying the blessings that come from obedience.
God is a ll good.
great question. once again, thanks. Hey Paula do you write on her, tell us and we will watch for you too. Don inspires us all so much. God bless you both.

Answer 7

I have been blessed with the honor of living among women of faith who fear the Lord......therefore, they have been teaching me according to this scripture and in the midst of that, I get to teach the younger women whom I am with as well.
As for what happens when this is not being done, I am not quite sure of the fruit of this as I have been placed in such a rich fellowship. However, the fruit of obedience to the scriptures is righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy Ghost!

I am so glad that Paula your wife is in on this

Answer 8

I would like to deal with the latter part of this question, "and what happens if they're not?"

We have a break-down in society, moral rot and decay in our young women that we plainly see today.
All a result of disobedience and compromise by our leadership.

Not to pick on the women, these same principles apply to the men and younger men of this generation as well.

Answer 9

the abuse i experienced as an infant and toddler sat
me up for a lot of garbage. i still fight with this today.
i wasn't rescued nor was i able to get away from them.
i have however forgiven them. my point is you can't
teach what you don't know. that is where the failure is.
i always tell the younger women i have known that don't
go to hell's addresses, don't forget to forgive, read
Proverbs, get copies of backwoods or home magazines
like " Mother Earth News", and try to figure out how not
to keep abusing/letting abuse use you. try to allow yourself
to grieve over lost innocence's. try to leave the abuse if
one can as only being free of it can one succeed. how can
one be chaste if all you were allowed is hell?
great question. keep asking. it Does Help!

Answer 10

Come on, you wrote this for me, I think. I was sitting here today debating on calling a young woman to discuss problems at their home and felt God wanted me to, so I did. You know, the been there, understand it, etc. It went well and I hope she knows I called out of love. I've already given their family Bibles for each child and for them and pray they will get use out of them. I stress the importance of prayer and let them know we are praying. Now it's up to them to take that step to allow God in their hearts, right? Thanks for the reminder we each need to do our part in helping others to Christ. God's love to you and Paula!